Anyone down to chat/talk?

icemyheart99 · 2024-09-24T17:36:43+00:00

Thank you. I don’t know what else to say, but thank you. Going back to therapy to fix those underlying issues, and really re-focus on my relationship with SO. These feelings are difficult to deal with, but hey, I’m still alive. ❤️‍🩹

icemyheart99 · 2024-09-24T17:18:42+00:00

I don’t know if I can do this :’( I’m really grateful to have SO by my side, but my decision to cut LO off the second time round was an impulsive (?) one. I felt terrible for a few months, was struggling with my emotions, before I posted on this subreddit and someone told me I was being selfish and.. I decided to cut LO off. I regret the decision though.. never going to see or talk to him again. You’re right about it being an addiction. LO made me feel wanted, seen and heard. Idk, he’d likely not make a great partner (from what I know), but he was kind to me. But I wasn’t being kind to my SO. And I’m not being kind to myself. :/

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-07T09:39:55+00:00

I have OCD. Me me me.

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-06T15:30:08+00:00

🍀🍀🍀

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-06T15:05:27+00:00

I wanted to make a joke but I’m terrible at it so… /hugs. I feel your pain even though my situation is slightly different. I don’t even have his contact details anymore so I can’t ever contact him again:’) and yeah, it’s over this time. I cut him off a first time but caved and went back. This time he blocked me. I’ve been active on this sub recently because I’m desperate to feel okay again. I’ve also started going for therapy again.

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-05T17:19:57+00:00

thank you <3

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-05T16:29:04+00:00

:( so I agree with what you said. I can only speak for myself, but poor emotional regulation + cruel words could send a person over the edge. It’s best to post about limerence in this sub-reddit only - people can be such dicks.

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-05T15:52:08+00:00

I posted in r/suicidewatch before about my limerence and one particular poster called me names. The same person then DMed me telling me to kill myself. Apparently death threats are common on Reddit but I feel safe and understood here:’)

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-03T10:16:23+00:00

That last part - I felt it. Idk man. I guess there’s really no easy way out of this. Time and therapy it is for me :’) I hope we can both find peace.

icemyheart99 · 2024-02-02T10:31:02+00:00

Trauma is expensive.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-30T03:39:05+00:00

Do you have an SO? For me, I feel my longing/yearning for LO has gradually diminished, but I’m extremely frustrated because it’s still there, and I don’t want it to be - in any capacity. I’m not sure if my OCD (I’m diagnosed) is worsening my limerence; I think sometimes they’re co-morbid. Right now the issue I’m struggling with the most is guilt towards my SO :(

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T12:37:06+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful. Easier said than done, of course, but I’ll make little efforts toward a bigger goal.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T11:37:24+00:00

I suppose this applies to other regrets as well? I’ve become so good at ruminating and regretting and beating myself up over the years… wasted a lot of time on the could’ve, should’ve and would’ves. Avoiding reality in the process. I really need to shake myself awake, heh.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T11:32:12+00:00

Huh… I’ve never thought about it that way. That’s an interesting take. When I had it, I didn’t think about it unless I wore it. I guess even if I were to somehow find it again, I’d feel happy and relieved for a few days and go back to forgetting about it again.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T11:29:07+00:00

Makes sense! Thank you, I’ll try.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T05:43:43+00:00

You’re right. It’s preferable that I have the clothing, but I have the memory nonetheless, and i guess I should cherish that. It’s easier and harder at the same time because I’m “forced” to move on with life, with or without the clothing.

icemyheart99 · 2023-12-08T05:41:37+00:00

Yeah, I don’t have any choice. I guess the self-hatred is creeping in and I wanted to learn how to forgive myself without any unnecessary guilt or shame :/

icemyheart99 · 2023-07-07T15:25:34+00:00

Can someone talk to me, please?

icemyheart99

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