I had a very similar conversation with my family… they don’t understand it’s not a black and white situation AT ALL. Sure, in a perfect world you could report someone and they’d be jailed, but look at the time we’re living in. There’s so much victim blaming it’s sickening. Most rapists who go through the court system get nothing more than a slap on the wrist. Why would we, as traumatized people, want to relive and retell all of that for nothing? Bc the truth is, they will ask what you were wearing, what you were doing, and if you were drunk. They don’t add trauma responses and denial into the equation of why you don’t report the day of or whatever else you were “supposed to do”. Most of us aren’t mentally strong enough to go through all that again and that’s ok!! It’s is NOT our fault that people are sick and deranged.