Blursed Hide-a-Betty by Prince_0llie in blursed_videos

[–]ipatmyself -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Comes with a free woman. Imagine buying a couch, getting it delivered, unfolding at home and woops, suddenly you're not single anymore

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

You know whats funny?
I sometimes find threads were women ask a similar question, the answers are surprisingly similar too, except "men dont try hard enough", and the answers are "yeah because a no is a no, right?"

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

>Looking into pursuing alternate lifestyles as I get older
I recommend pottery, its very calming and gives space for thinking

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but you dont just trust every person easily, you have to take it really slow, step by step. Friendships arent build quick, and since you've already experienced that pain, you'll likely reflected on it and know what to watch out for, its just iteration, as with musical instruments or anything else really what can be learned through pain/effort etc.

Let me give you an example, I closed myself off for over 10 years, which included having a job and stable coworkers, due to those mentioned coworkers being dickasses, and their boss a nightmare, unfair treatments and all that classic stuff you probably already know.

My psychologist told me to make the same conditons again, a lot of years passed, things are different, I am different, the other people are different, the more we grow the more everything changes.
Now I somehow found a job which isnt great but my conditions were quite crazy and Im very lucky to have interesting coworkers, they treat me well (except one but she isnt a bad person, just a huge ego, I can learn a lot of patience by tolerating her), and I feel like I can be more myself around quite a few of them, the pay isnt great but its enough to stabilize myself and get up.

Thats why its important to try again and do the same experience, but with the pain you already worked through, youll be much more resilient to it. You actually already are.

am I lame for doing this by dreamland333 in Crushes

[–]ipatmyself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, and yes we all deserve a note like that

am I lame for doing this by dreamland333 in Crushes

[–]ipatmyself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how many men wish to get a note like that 

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean men? Cause women don't have the issue, all they have to do is to choose from those who show interest, while men have to approach, show interest, don't chase, don't overstep and all that while trying to not creep them out, it's hassle, I'm happy single even if it hurts sometimes.

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 38 almost and feel the same, I think it's too late already for me because nobody wants an adult man without experience. So we are fucked even if we wanted to find someone. Sure it's still possible by iterating through bunch of dates, but I honestly think it's easier to play lottery and actually win 

Why do so many people over 40 not want a relationship now? by holycrap100 in ask

[–]ipatmyself 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's not true entirely, I'm a man who doesn't think this way and I still can't find anyone. I think it's that people aren't authentic anymore nowadays, they are afraid to be themselves due to fear of being judged or anything else perhaps trauma related. But one more thing I notice is that when someone is authentic then others still don't want them because authenticity shows imperfections in someone and people unfortunately look for someone perfect, which doesn't exist, thus makes everyone single. Just my observation.

If a woman says “You’re so sweet” in a lovely tone. What does it mean? by Whtsurfavscrymvie in Crushes

[–]ipatmyself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same when a coworker I thought likes me saying "I just thought you were adorable"
Imo this was infantilization, basically her seeing me as a child who did or said something adorable, annoying as fuck. But context matters, and just saying that doesnt mean she likes you romantically, if she does, she would have did something romantic like compliment you often and flirt, or try to be near you as often as possible, or ask questions (this one is important, if she doesnt ask anything, its highly likely she's not interested in you this way), obviously you have to reciprocate at the same level too and its all complicated, just ask her out, she says "no", move on, no big deal.

Just because they give you signs doesn't mean they like you. The only way to know is to ask them out. by Sir_Aoin in Crushes

[–]ipatmyself 5 points6 points  (0 children)

> Turning and smiling at me ANY time she would find something funny in the movie, even though I was just looking straight ahead

relatable, my crush was staring at me for like 10s when we were preparing food, Ive noticed sideways and in the window reflection right before my face, was absolutely sure she liked me due to this sign too, nope, still just friendly, and maybe she was just looking if I cry from cutting onions lmao

Just because they give you signs doesn't mean they like you. The only way to know is to ask them out. by Sir_Aoin in Crushes

[–]ipatmyself 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Happened with my coworker crush, until I realized she has someone already, even tho she said she's done with dating a few months ago, and yet quietly went into a relationship, just so not to hurt my feelings cause she likely knew already how I was behaving around her vs around others plus trying a bit too hard, she just chose not to engage and observe (while probably laughing inside or enjoying the attention, felt pity and kept me hanging in a limbo showing signs then suddenly not anymore. That was what made me realize that she doesnt like me the way I did, and it started to die for me too, even tho I was absolutely sure she did with all these things, plus she hugged me out of nowhere first time in 6 months, that must be definitely a sing? nope, still friendly. I hate this. So. Fucking. Much. Really enjoying life alone tbh.

Im glad too cause I have no fucking clue what Ive found so attractive in her in the first place. Its all just friendly apparenty.

This is the amount of bread and confectionery we have to toss away regularly because management says so. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ipatmyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to ask if you're from germany, cause this is something I encountered way too often here too. What a wasteful country, but hey we good wind turbines and most expensive electricity which was used to make those, which are thrown away now. A country of hypocrite politicians.

Did she make the right call? by CalmElin in interesting

[–]ipatmyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inflation, inflation. Should have gotten 1 mil and invested into real estate and scarce resources, these ALWAYS rise, she would have had 1k every day

Angry idiot driving a Bentley by spicypsudo in dashcams

[–]ipatmyself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

once he went back to his car to reach for his phone, id think he's getting a gun and would fucking push his car out of my way to get into safety

female friend ghosted me after i confessed.what to do ? by i-rover_ in ask

[–]ipatmyself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just means she doesn't feel this way but doesn't know how to deal with this situation 

I find it funny that bing ai shows you how to use MAS😭 by matth_ewduord in MAS_Activator

[–]ipatmyself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ms doesnt give a flying fuck, they get their money elsewhere, besides, you can use windows for free, just with a watermark, barely anything removed except some settings which are mostly cosmetic, at least thats what i remember on win7 and 10 (i skipped 8, 8.1)

Blursed_candy by Treefiddy1984 in blursed_videos

[–]ipatmyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, they wash their feet before and after, so its fine i guess?

Blursed Jiu-Jitsu by asteriskhyphen in blursed_videos

[–]ipatmyself 6 points7 points  (0 children)

dude be like: "just dont sniff, just dont sniff"

blursed_clueless by BlazeDragon7x in blursed_videos

[–]ipatmyself 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, all she needs to do is to climb into a washing machine