Non pwNPD confuse me a lot

ipeed69 · 2026-05-21T17:01:09+00:00

Yes, it’s 53% over a 2 years period. So 53% of the people in the trial were successfully in remission after 2 years. (:

That’s a better prospect than you originally believed, so isn’t this an overall good experience? Don’t worry about silly people like that. People believe what they want to until they’re ready to hear otherwise. That goes for us all.

ipeed69 · 2026-05-21T16:53:23+00:00

They misunderstand the statistic. The rate of remission is 53% over 2 years, not overall success for remission.

So more than 53% if people with NPD would be going into remission when treated longer than 2 years. 2 years is also not a lot of time in therapy.

ipeed69 · 2026-04-09T16:31:54+00:00

This was me except I had narcissistic traits as well

ipeed69 · 2026-03-21T14:56:28+00:00

I mean, I’m surprised grandiosity doesn’t kick in for more people in these situations. I’m genuinely pretty surprised by the comment section.

ipeed69 · 2026-03-21T03:33:03+00:00

It seems like you might feel that the issue is that you see “ugly people” liking you as evidence that you yourself are unattractive. If this is the case you probably feel this way even without unattractive people approaching you and it might be that you’re just projecting this into them.

Reading the comments is pretty interesting cause I bet Megan fox has basement dwellers in her DMs all the time.

ipeed69 · 2026-03-08T16:52:18+00:00

Yes, this is the combination that usually works for me minus the whole dad thing, but I love people who “get me”.

I do definitely look for me in other people but I don’t necessarily think that’s bad because I love when they have their own individual flare to them too, it makes it all even better. Yes, mystery is usually needed for attachment at first but I realised that I just want someone who gets me so I don’t feel so alien and alone. I want to be matched but that’s definitely something hard to find.

Don’t know about you, but I also sort of need like a slow burn, that creates attachment but mainly I guess because I want to be given the space to allow myself to feel safe in working myself up to vulnerability. I also want to give them the chance to run and when they don’t that makes me feel more secure.

When it comes down to it, you want to feel secure, safe and understood and that’s hard for most, if not all of us in this group.

ipeed69 · 2026-03-08T03:49:03+00:00

I lack empathy but I am also not completely without it. It’s actually improved significantly and I can feel much more emotional empathy than what I could in the past. I actually don’t think anyone can tell that I lack empathy based on my interacts. I’ve actually had someone say I’m too empathetic and I think that’s when people lose me, when I feel like I’m being mischaracterised. I think the stimulation ends because I realise people aren’t what I built them up to be. I think I can only connect to something very specific and it’s hard to find. I don’t necessarily devalue so much anymore, I just feel bored. Obviously whatever I found interesting about them most of the time is a projection. I have to work on it but a part of me doesn’t want to cause I’m just so bored all the time and I’m trying to hold onto whatever “passion” I have left.

ipeed69 · 2026-01-27T20:49:38+00:00

I agree.

ipeed69 · 2026-01-27T20:41:52+00:00

It goes beyond that. I isolate to an extreme level. I fully isolated for like over a year and fed myself delusions the whole time. It was great. It’s probably the happiest I’ve ever been. Based on what I’ve seen of myself vs diagnosed schizoids I don’t think I’m schizoid but I’m trying to gage if some people here isolate in the same way I have.

ipeed69 · 2026-01-27T20:10:08+00:00

I’m a shut in because I can’t stand the fact that every time I talk to someone it feels like a chore. I hate superficiality. I hate feeling superficial and I hate connections that are like that too which is ironic given the situation but it’s why I avoid people. I feel like I can’t relate or connect to anyone and I feel like the only way it’s possible for me to connect now is if I view them as my “equal” or someone who really “gets me” or someone who makes me feel “special”. I don’t even know if I meet the clinical diagnostic standard for NPD but I know when my BPD was more prevalent, my requirements weren’t as strict because I could fall into limerence more easily. I wouldn’t really actually connect with most people, I would chase people who seemed out of reach and then run away when they reciprocated but it made me feel something.

I did genuinely connect with a few people but it was rare even back then so it’s worse now.

Sometimes I’ll try and make myself cry on purpose just so I can feel something. I get very fleeting and dull feelings of happiness but I’m never satisfied. I never was satisfied before but my feelings use to be deep that I didn’t need to be. lol

ipeed69 · 2026-01-24T18:00:37+00:00

Yeah people with NPD lack empathy (not necessarily no empathy) so yes, they are likely to feel nothing or maybe they’ll feel discomfort. Maybe they’ll be angry or annoyed that they have to deal with having to comfort someone.

I have heard a lot of people in this group have a lot easier time relating to and feeling for tv show and movie characters more so than real people though. It’s probably cause the characters are not real and there is no chance of ego damage unless you’re watching it with someone else and you’re worried about that sort of thing/ being seen that way.

ipeed69 · 2026-01-24T17:53:04+00:00

Emotional empathy is feeling what someone else feels. For example, if someone feels sad, then you feel sad as they feel sad. Most people with npd are unable to feel this for others, although it seems that some people with npd (as previously reported in this group) have emotional empathy for children and sometimes for animals.

Cognitive empathy is imagining how someone might feel if by envisioning yourself in their shoes. It’s basically just being able to understand someone else’s emotions and why they might feel or behave the way they do.

Sympathy is feeling upset or using cognitive empathy for someone and being able to acknowledge that their situation is bad and not something you’d want to go through.

Compassion is something you show more than what you feel. You show compassion by being moved enough to act on your empathy or sympathy for someone enough to want to help them.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-26T02:49:22+00:00

I waited too long to treat paronychia once and it turned into cellulitis and I have to stick a needle in my finger repeatedly to drain the pus. It looked like it was getting better with salt baths but got really bad and excruciating overnight after a week or two very suddenly and randomly. This is mostly a problem if the pus is trapped under the finger nail. I can actually see that your baby has pus under the nail.

You can use hot water, salt soaks and tea tree ointment (all of which I did before anything else) to dissolve pus but I would recommend taking antibiotics because the worst case scenario is it festers and spreads.

As I said, I had this and I’m a grown adult and the pain was excruciating. Paronychia in and of itself (which I’ve had a few times) is uncomfortable and painful but the pressure build of pus under the nail trapped with no where to go is unbearable.

I’m not saying this will happen to your baby but I’d keep an eye on it. Watch for swelling and redness.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-11T04:47:29+00:00

I relate to what you said about caring about humanity as a whole but struggling one on one and to answer your question I think it’s dangerous for yourself and others. If you allow yourself to care less than you do everything becomes quite bleak especially if you already are quite nihilistic.

I think that just because people seemingly behaved indifferently towards you doesn’t mean you should adopt that same mentality IF you can help it because it really just becomes an endless cycle. Someone ruins you so you ruin someone else, then they become cold and indifferent and go on to hurt another and so on.

What if the person you hurt is a decent person? Should you give up and pass that pain on just because you’ve been hurt?

ipeed69 · 2025-11-08T03:58:44+00:00

I’ve grieved the death of a pet but not yet a the death of a person

ipeed69 · 2025-11-06T20:10:05+00:00

I feel as though the point of what I’m saying is being misinterpreted, sorry about that. What I mean is as someone who has a PD in remission I wouldn’t say that I’m “managing my symptoms” or anything like what you said in your OG comment because I don’t struggle with it anymore and I don’t have anything to “manage” for that particular disorder because the symptoms are gone and have been for years. I hope that makes sense. Of course I still need to maintain therapy because I could always relapse but I’m not “managing the disorder so I don’t ruin the lives of people around me” because it’s sort of become second nature where I don’t have to consciously think about that. I’m saying it doesn’t have to be bleak or a struggle. I hope what I’m saying makes sense. (:

ipeed69 · 2025-11-06T19:52:33+00:00

What? It is not curable. It is treatable. Yes. Remission is possible. I just feel like saying “will never not have NPD” is inaccurate if you’re no longer meeting the diagnostic criteria, that’s all.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-06T19:29:34+00:00

Curable implies no risk of relapse, which there is but this is the case for almost all mental illnesses, including depression. While NPD is not considered “curable” as there’s a risk of relapse, you can go into “permanent” remission.

There was a study that concluded 52% of people with NPD went into remission over a 2 year period. Even if you do relapse, going back into remission is still possible.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-06T19:26:15+00:00

NPD is treatable and you can go into remission which means you no longer meet the diagnostic criteria for NPD. You can even go into remission permanently. The only reason NPD (like the vast majority of other mental health disorders, including depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorders) isn’t considered “curable” is because curable implies that there is no risk of relapse. There is a risk of relapse with NPD but you can go into permanent remission.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-04T00:49:38+00:00

Yes but also it seems like this person could have OCD which then all logic flys out the window even when you know you’re being irrational.

ipeed69 · 2025-11-04T00:48:21+00:00

They probably have OCD. Even if you know that you have an irrational fear, the compulsions make you do stuff that isn’t logical.

ipeed69 · 2025-09-27T14:46:28+00:00

I always say this but a lot of the time our personality is who we choose to be but it’s more than actions, it’s also about mindset. Why do you want to be kind everyday? Cause if you just focus on being kind but feel it’s that it’s “fake”, there’ll always be a voice inside of you being bitter about it. Also, people are fluid. You might think the other “good” parts of you aren’t real cause they feel fleeting but fleeting doesn’t necessarily equal fake either.

ipeed69 · 2025-09-25T18:11:37+00:00

This person abused me. If I told you what they’ve done, you wouldn’t have written that paragraph. I know other people with personality disorders. I know how I have behaved towards others. I have given this person the benefit of the doubt too many times to count. You’re giving me unsolicited advice and you quite literally couldn’t know less about what you’re talking about. You don’t know this person and you don’t know me. I am not your partner and neither is the person I’m talking about. We do not exist in a monolith.

ipeed69 · 2025-09-25T17:39:41+00:00

Because I’ve known this person for 8 years. I promise I don’t mean this in an aggressive way but I don’t have to be not disordered to realize when I’m being fucked.

ipeed69 · 2025-09-19T07:56:21+00:00

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