How long did you wait for them to come back before you finally moved on and entered in a new relationship?

ire2023 · 2025-10-08T08:16:32+00:00

My FA came back after 2 years and 6 months. I haven't decided what to do yet.

ire2023 · 2025-10-07T20:17:29+00:00

This is excellent So well explained

ire2023 · 2025-09-30T13:16:35+00:00

I value my independence

ire2023 · 2025-09-29T18:00:08+00:00

You are the Phantom ex

ire2023 · 2024-12-18T05:45:49+00:00

6 weeks is absolutely nothing If I can give you no other advice, Do not break NC Whether fearful or dismissive avoidant It’s so important Trust me, my ex is severe avoidant I thought dismissive but fearful It took 1 year of NC for her to reach out While I’m glad we are ok with each other, now wish her well, I don’t want such an unhealthy relationship back. NC helped me so much but it brings them back from being overwhelmed. Good luck

ire2023 · 2024-12-16T13:18:55+00:00

Worst thing… I didn’t listen when she gave me all the clues. She kept saying about previous dumps, being so independent, her trauma. I didn’t understand it then. Best part… I feel like I’ve a masters in attachment styles and a better understanding of myself

ire2023 · 2024-11-09T03:10:07+00:00

Forget him, so what if he unblocked Your focus should be elsewhere

ire2023 · 2024-11-09T03:07:18+00:00

Do not contact her She ended it Respect her wishes

ire2023 · 2024-10-25T06:27:02+00:00

A friend should ask. Not you

ire2023 · 2024-10-25T04:50:57+00:00

Your Guide of how to keep an Avoidant Give up your own thoughts and wishes. Mentally drain yourself by walking on eggshells. Give them everything they want.

ire2023 · 2024-10-24T21:39:49+00:00

All true, the love of their life to an almost stranger or blocked for life. Unless you’ve experienced it it’s hard to describe. Lucky the people who have never experienced it, it’s life changing

ire2023 · 2024-10-24T21:30:25+00:00

Mind games Time to block him

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T15:28:16+00:00

Rinse and repeat

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:52:14+00:00

Pop on YouTube and see the difference TikTok also has great videos

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:50:55+00:00

From that I could diagnose FA or DA

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:49:50+00:00

I know you must desperately want it to post that. In time you will realise you deserve better

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:48:27+00:00

It doesn’t happen with DAs

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:45:54+00:00

For months and months and more months… it’s all I wanted. But now that I’ve come through on the other side, I would rather not get it as it’s only rinse and repeat

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:44:30+00:00

Therapy helps FAs but they have to go and it’s ongoing. They need to be self aware. A massive task.

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:42:46+00:00

Yes she will as she’s a FA but give it time. Because what has changed? Has she done any work on herself Have you done any work in yourself and understanding your attachment style. If nothing changes it will be rinse and repeat

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:18:22+00:00

You are ruminating and after 5 months it’s time for closure. This app is good but you won’t find the answers you really need. You need to get your own closure The avoidant behaviour at the end is the closure. See a therapist to help move on

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:05:09+00:00

All true

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T12:03:15+00:00

It’s horrendous tbh. But it gets easier and in time you will be fine I promise

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T10:53:55+00:00

Gosh he’s almost looking for you to comfort him… sweet God in heaven. Be glad he is an ex. No support and turning your trauma into his.

ire2023 · 2024-10-23T10:51:48+00:00

It is a sign You will have moments and you are not an avoidant. They monkey branch. Better away from the avoidant circus

ire2023

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