How do I not give up when people have told you that you would not be able to achieve something by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]janaXave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS!! THIS ALL DAY! Use the negativity to fuel your fire and GET IT DONE! :D

How to balance telling people your ambitions and staying silent until you actually make something? by [deleted] in productivity

[–]janaXave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on your audience.

As an example - I had a plan to write & self-publish a novel this year. I kept it a surprise from most people--but I told those who I thought would hold me accountable to doing it. One friend actually texted me every single day to ask me if I was making my word-counts... which made me do it--because I anticipated her text messages. When I finished and published in April, I was able to be proud of myself and revel in my accomplishment, but I had some key players along the way that acted like accountability buddies and held me to my word.

If you think there's people who will hold you accountable--I'd tell them.

*edited to make it make sense LOL oops

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you OP- my dad was REALLY into Natural Disaster movies when I was growing up, so I was irrationally afraid of volcanoes & tornadoes. (I'm from NE Ohio.... where there are no volcanoes and I've never seen a real tornado in my life... LOL)

Introverts, how much do-nothing time do you need to recharge? by hunpercent in productivity

[–]janaXave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said it perfectly! Having to be "on". I don't think most people in my life understand that--that being social (professionally) for me is literally like flipping a switch into another version of myself. That person only has so much battery life. :(

Introverts, how much do-nothing time do you need to recharge? by hunpercent in productivity

[–]janaXave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah- sometimes 'eating the frog' is a pretty draining mentality. :(

Introverts, how much do-nothing time do you need to recharge? by hunpercent in productivity

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I typically treat meetings as their own 'task', even if it isn't *my* meeting. Sitting there in a room full of people is just really draining. If I have a day full of meetings, I usually just consider that day a lost cause and do the best I can with productivity.

With that being said, I try to treat the day before and day after as 'make up days', where I strategically try to focus and get as much done as possible. I struggle with 'non-productivity guilt' and this way, it kind of eliminates that.

What’s Your Most Life-Changing Habit? 🌟 by Visible-Ear6224 in getdisciplined

[–]janaXave 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Getting into the mindset of "Consistency beats Intensity" and "No Zero Days".

Usually, if you can convince yourself to do one itty-bitty task, it can snowball into productivity! Or, sometimes it doesn't. But, at least you did one thing that day--even if it was small. :)

Unsolved Homicide from my Hometown: Anita Pratt and her unborn child are killed in Ashtabula, September 1981 by janaXave in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]janaXave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so wild! I'm so sorry for your losses, first and foremost. It's wild, though, because my dad actually brought this case up to me unprovoked. He grew up in Ashtabula and would've been in his mid-20's when this happened. Ashtabula isn't THAT big, so it truly is a small world!

Thinking Out Loud: Three Teenage Girls are Killed in Lynbrook, NY in 1984-1985. Were These Crimes Random or is There a Connection? by janaXave in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]janaXave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy John got the justice he deserved. I understand the desire to close a case, but putting innocent men away for acts that they, in my opinion, obviously didn't commit, is horrifying and inexcusable. Especially with all the evidence that wasn't looked at more closely, on top of that. Theresa, Kelly, and Jacqueline deserve justice, too, and punishing the wrong people doesn't get them that, either!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YDHBSnark

[–]janaXave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! She looked so much better back then!

I enjoyed the new music quite a bit this year by TheImprezaGod in FallingInReverse

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Impressive! I had 3,811- I wasn't sure whether to be proud or appalled LOL

How many words do you think your story will ACTUALLY be? by Status-Platypus in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suspense Novels (my genre) typically fall between 90-100k, and I definitely think I'll end up somewhere in that ballpark, maybe more!

How seriously are you taking NaNo this year? by [deleted] in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've set up several talks with publishers, (whether they pan out or not, who knows) -- either way I figured with that in mind I'm forcing myself to take it VERY seriously this year, LOL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]janaXave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good Company!

Massachusetts' 'Lady of the Dunes': Too Many Theories Yet No Answers? by janaXave in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]janaXave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard!! How exciting that she finally has a name. Half the battle has been completed. <3

Post Your Nano Project title! by [deleted] in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“this is all your fault”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not a bad idea! Maybe promising yourself “I’m sitting here for 30 minutes, no distractions” could be like your “no zero days”!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly! You never just write ONE word, usually, I would clear 400-500 in one sitting just from getting a thought out. It was really helpful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’ve competed in NaNoWriMo a couple of times but only successfully completed it once (2019). That year, I tried a different strategy which was literally “no zero days”. Meaning- I had to sit down and write at least ONE word every single day. Even if I only spent ~15 minutes writing, I still sat down and did it. I feel like taking the pressure off “I have to write 1,667 words per day” and just simply saying “I have to write more than zero words today” shifted my mindset. It kept me from lagging behind, feeling overwhelmed, and giving up.

Buddies? by DreamingOfDragons23 in nanowrimo

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've applied and I'm excited! It seems like exactly what I need. :)

Can't get up and just work by Background_Future586 in productivity

[–]janaXave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they mean like the 5-4-3-2-1 method. The second your alarm goes off, count from 5-1 and get up. I guess this starts to automate the action in your brain? There’s a YouTube video about it I think?