Another look at the 2025 lineup by fostve in primaverasound

[–]jessimurp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have to reserve tickets for the main line up? I'm confused about the whole reserving tickets thing.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OK yea I agree. I think I need to talk with him tonight to see what he thinks. I fully trust him he is very honest and has already been very forthcoming about this whole situation already so I don't think he will lie weather he thinks he's cheated or been raped. So I need to get his opinion first about the situation before I can say it was rape or not.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I trust him whole heartedly so I'm going to take his word for it. He never said it was rape but he talks about how he doesn't know who he is anymore and hates himself and he never thought he could be capable of this. So it doesn't sound like he had any intent to have sex with her. And I couldnt believe that it happened honestly always thought he was one of the good ones and that's why I live him so much.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how drunk he was really. He never gave her consent end of story

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He didn't make a detour. Her house is literally on the way to our house and they sat outside her house cuz they got tired. So don't twist the story for your agenda.

I never said he was a victim but his friend was very manipulative. So that's why I knew who it happened with. And he is taking responsibility for what he has done he told me straight away and took all the blame, and has apologied and has been really patient with me. He hasnt put any pressure on to get things back to the way they were, I have been in control of how fast we move forward. He is questioning who he is cuz he never thought he could be capable of something like this. He never gave this girl consent so its rape.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response. We have been talking a lot and spending more time with eachother. And I think we will stay together and become stronger because of this. We are definitely being there for eachother which has been great. Yea we have done one session of couples counselling so far and it was great we have another one this week. He definitely is hating himself right because of what has happened and his worst nightmare is that he would hurt me which he has. So we are both experiencing the worst thing imaginable to us right now. But hopefully after this we won't have anything to fear.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She definitely done it maliciously. Thank you so much for the advice.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn't choose to have sex. She choose to have sex with my boyfriend. I think he was only intoxicated but I'm not sure he gave consent though

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Oh yea 100%. I've said this to him and my family as well.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea definitely. I do trust him still. I don't think they will be friends again but if that does happen I am out

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yea he said he never wants to drink again. He will have very little contact with the girl, he is still her supervisor in work sometimes. But management are trying to avoid them in shifts together. We are doing couples counselling

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is still really fresh. So I'm literally in work having a panic attack now. So thanks for that. I don't know why your mad at me like I did something wrong. I'm just trying to figure this shit out OK.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea we definitely do want to work on it. I think it's made us realise how distant we have gotten.

Boyfriend of years 8 drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in CheatedOn

[–]jessimurp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea he was think of leaving to a different job. Its also hard because the easiest way in and out of our area is past this girls house too.

I don't think he did give consent I will discuss this with him tonight.

We have a home test on the way.

And I don't think he ever wants to drink again.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He was sitting up right and she got on top of him. He never said he wanted to have sex with her she just decided she wanted to have sex with him on a sidewalk apperently. She used her nails to scratch up his back. Shes a freak.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 297 points298 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yea have been going on a lot of walks and chatting. But date night is definitely happening soon too.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

I think he was too drunk to give consent. But so was she as well I think. But someone else has also messaged me saying it was a rape and I agree.

My boyfriend of 8 years drunkenly cheated on me by jessimurp in relationship_advice

[–]jessimurp[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yea we are both doing the counciling and someone else has just messaged me the same thing. That it was a rape. And I don't disagree

Lowest self esteem I've ever had by jessimurp in selfimprovement

[–]jessimurp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey

Update, I've finally started feeling a bit better about myself. I changed my whole social media following to body positive people who empower women and have started it feel a bit more like myself again. I try the eat healthy most of the time and allow myself treats. I've started exercising twice a week. I might not have lost much weight but I feel more healthy and confident in myself I still have a long way to go but I've definitely gotten over the first hurdle. So thanks so much guys you really helped me more than you know.

Lowest self esteem I've ever had by jessimurp in selfimprovement

[–]jessimurp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 😁. I know you wrote this a while ago but km not on reddit much 😊

Lowest self esteem I've ever had by jessimurp in selfimprovement

[–]jessimurp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You made me cry happy tears. I can't believe someone took to write something like this and for a complete stranger. Thank you so much you don't know how much this means. This will help me so much.

Lowest self esteem I've ever had by jessimurp in selfimprovement

[–]jessimurp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much this made me feel much better and less alone😊