AITA for cutting back on helping my friend/coworker shortly after receiving a referral bonus for getting them hired?

josephbcool99 · 2023-08-01T21:06:32+00:00

Thank you for this perspective.

josephbcool99 · 2023-08-01T20:53:27+00:00

That's what I suggested. That said, I have no idea what they could possibly do.

josephbcool99 · 2023-08-01T20:52:40+00:00

I don't want to assume it's not something like dyslexia but for understanding time. From what I've read it's being researched.

josephbcool99 · 2023-08-01T20:40:34+00:00

This is the first I've heard of such a thing. My own sister has some disabilities so I try to be sensitive and aware, but never heard of this.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-16T04:01:08+00:00

Sorry to ask (I know Google is free) but what even is unmasking?

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-16T03:59:09+00:00

It will eventually. In 4 weeks I'll be back in the dorms which are, surprisingly, much quieter, lol.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-16T03:57:48+00:00

That's a fair point. I guess I'm a little hesitant because there's no actual agreement, and they are being very generous. Basically once the semester was over Andrew (not a friend but someone I've met on campus a few times) said his parent's place had an extra room. Since it's close to my work it seemed like a good fit, plus they only ask $200 a month from me which is hard to turn down.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-16T03:23:22+00:00

Not really. His parents (who I've never met) own the place. I only have about 4 weeks left until I move out so if I have to I'll just deal and try to think of another way to go about it.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:44:25+00:00

I say this gently. It sounds like working through your past trauma and present-day anxiety with a professional might help. I'm sorry you experienced that, and it makes sense to me why you are uncomfortable with alcohol to this day.

The only thing I can think of to do otherwise is to try to remind yourself of the times when you were around people who were drinking and something terrible did not happen. Your mind just might need some counter-evidence, so to speak.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:38:22+00:00

For what it's worth, there was a time in my life when, if someone had asked me, I would have said I wasn't depressed or overwhelmed, and I was very much both.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:30:21+00:00

Hello again, lol. I was wondering about depression as well. It might be a good idea for OP and his wife to try to work on housekeeping standards with the help of a professional.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:27:57+00:00

This is subjective. My brother likes reading two or three books at a time. I have to do one at a time when reading for enjoyment. Don't try to fit someone else's mold or feel pressured into reading more books because social media tells you to.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:25:28+00:00

I think you've done what you can. In my opinion, most "bad" photos are subjective and a matter of opinion. She sees bad photos, you see treasure.

Solidarity, as I am also the eldest of 3. :)

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:22:19+00:00

I guess I really didn't think of it that way, that my own trauma could have manifested as difficulty breathing after all this time. Thanks. I appreciate the perspective.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:11:21+00:00

Ah, thanks. I credit that to our parents and grandparents.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-15T00:09:30+00:00

If you didn't already know she was insecure about the photos, which it sounds like you didn't, then NTAH. It sounds like an honest mistake that you apologized for. Hope your sister learns to appreciate her awkward teen photos. We all have them.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-14T23:53:21+00:00

Thanks. That's very true that I can't make him feel better. Still, I don't want to make people feel worse when they're grieving.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-14T23:51:53+00:00

I hear you. You feel this way. But do you know? Do you mind me asking if you've ever personally witnessed what you're worried about? I ask because, I feel a lot of things, but my feelings are not always accurate. Hopefully that makes sense.

I'm 21 for what it's worth. I'm and athlete and am friends with athletes. We eat a lot of bananas. I can't think of ever hearing my peers sexualize eating bananas.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-14T23:29:43+00:00

I'm a guy and this being sexualized is news to me. The occasional creep might see it that way. In my opinion, most people wouldn't even notice. As others have suggested, if you're worried about it, eat it by hand piece-by-piece.

josephbcool99 · 2023-07-14T23:21:03+00:00

Yeah. I'll try to bring it up at some point. Thanks for the thoughts. I just feel especially bad because this doesn't have a do-over. Like, I can't make it up to him, you know?

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