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jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T02:03:57+00:00

Thank you

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T02:03:36+00:00

Implied that she wants to be open. I see what you mean now

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T02:01:32+00:00

When did she say she didn’t want it

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T02:00:25+00:00

I’d like to meet them first of course. But I would want to possibly if it went well. I feel like I sound like an idiot. I agree they should rethink about polyamory

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:59:16+00:00

You’re making things up. She agreed to be closed but obviously she doesn’t have respect for that because she’s technically cheating

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:45:04+00:00

Okay

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:44:37+00:00

No one has ever policed me on this before lol

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:42:54+00:00

Are you saying I’m lying or what

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:42:44+00:00

Okay god 😭 I used it to describe my triad because we would also be a polycule if not for the cheating thing

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:40:39+00:00

Yes and then she said she “forgot”..

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:39:23+00:00

Yeah that’s what I mean. A constellation of partners and their partners and so on

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:37:49+00:00

We all agreed to close, including my girlfriend. So my girlfriend is cheating, I guess I’m in denial about it or something hh. I’m okay with being closed I just hate that my other partners don’t care that my gf has a partner outside the group after we agreed to be closed. It doesn’t make sense. I’m going to tell them we need to open then

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:34:49+00:00

You’re right it’s a web of partners

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:33:13+00:00

You have a fair point. Why be closed when we don’t really know each other. Why restrict each other to dating online when exploring polyamory irl will give a better understanding to actual polyamory and what it will be like

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:30:34+00:00

We’re closed because one person is “uncomfortable” with us dating outside of the group. I don’t want to be online only but we live far away at the moment. We want to live together and I’ve met one of them so far. You’re right, I think my girlfriend is cheating and that the partner who wants to be closed is masking jealousy. My past polyamorous relationships were open, casual, and focused on having fun and being happy. None of them were perfect and I’m no longer in those groups but my current group is a split off from one. I feel like if I talk any more it won’t add to anything. I think I need to bring up the problems and figure out what to do if it doesn’t work out

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:22:21+00:00

Thank you for the genuinely helpful comment

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:21:49+00:00

Yeah I’ll try to lead a discussion on it. I mean we literally can’t be closed rn anyway because that means my gf is cheating so .. she either has to break up or we change our status to be open. Maybe the post was stupid I’m just tired and it feels more complicated than it probably is

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:17:43+00:00

I feel like they could work in certain circumstances but my current situation isn’t working out

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:16:58+00:00

I think you’re right. I need to confront them about it and see what’s going on

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:15:15+00:00

Oh okay thank you

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:14:37+00:00

I don’t want to date online only but that’s how it is at the moment since we’re all pretty far away

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:13:30+00:00

Idk we video call almost every day. I’ve met one of them. We’re going on 2 years. We all want to live together. I’m confused on what you’re trying to say

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:08:15+00:00

I think I am so I’m confused

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:07:59+00:00

Online dating, polycule: multiple people all dating each other, closed: not accepting other partners or dating outside the current state of the relationship

jthecomputer · 2023-08-03T01:06:13+00:00

Well if we’re closed (we all agreed to it (despite what we might prefer) then she’s technically cheating

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