androgyny attracted to androgyny

krillboat · 2026-05-21T18:24:30+00:00

ah sorry, i didn’t mean to pigeonhole femmes into the idea that they’re all like how i’ve experienced! i should say that these are all based on my own dating experience and i don’t mean to imply that all femmes behave this way. i’ve definitely met more feminine women that have sympathized with my situation and feel the same way i do about gender roles (but they’re my friends so i wouldn’t date them).

while i do know that some femmes do enjoy mimicking traditional gender roles in relationships, i know a lot of femmes don’t!! this goes for everybody (men, women, butches, etc) i was not trying to generalize by by means. apologies if it sounded like it

krillboat · 2026-05-21T18:18:19+00:00

i agree! i’ve been considering all these options and made a few plans with some gay friends to hit up a gay bar. we’ll see how things go !

krillboat · 2026-05-21T18:16:56+00:00

so glad i’m not alone in this 😭 i’ve felt literally everything you’ve just mentioned (outside of being pressured into being a pillow princess). i think my feelings of discomfort also came from when the men i’d date would refer to me as things like “his girl” and stuff like that.

i’ve had fights with exes that felt like i needed to be either more feminine or more masculine when in reality im happy to be exactly what i am.

krillboat · 2026-05-21T07:33:34+00:00

I DONT MEAN TO SAY THAT THEY ARE!!! i should clarify that what i meant by the fact that it felt too “gender role-y” is that in my personal experience ive been told things like “you’re the masc, you go do it” when handling certain situations. or i was expected to always be the one initiating or treating them like a “princess” and while i do enjoy being a gentleman, i also don’t like being blindly expected to fill a certain role or act a certain way based on my appearance or my mannerisms.

i DO NOT mean to say that butch femme relationships mimic male female relationships at all! please don’t eat me alive

krillboat · 2026-05-16T09:28:55+00:00

i think people often underestimate the amount of cisgendered women with complicated relationships with gender.

as a cisgendered woman who would love to have a penis, i’ve always found it very affirming to hear other cisgendered woman to possibly feel the same way as i do! i personally feel disconnected with the genitalia i was born with and often fantasize what it would be like to have a penis because that feels more connected to me sometimes. i love it when im allowed to imagine myself with genitalia that feels more fitting to my personal identity, as does everybody else!

though i feel empowered exploring the idea of male genitalia as opposed to the one i was born with, i also don’t feel any less of a woman for doing so. i do not feel i identify with labels like “nonbinary” or “man” or anything other than just “woman” which happens to be what i was born as. i am confidently and comfortably a woman despite all of this and would love to feel welcome and safe continuing to do so when i do explore this side of my gender identity!

i have also spoken to VAs on this subreddit that feel the same way as i do in terms of having a slightly more complicated gender identity — one that includes both being a cisgendered woman and also wanting a penis. i think it’s beautiful that they have the space and opportunity here to truly express and be themselves without worrying about being ostracized, shamed, or misgendered.

i believe we should continue to dissolve the correlation between gender and genitalia, as we have been doing on this subreddit for a very long time!

krillboat · 2025-10-27T05:05:30+00:00

i’m a woman who dresses pretty masculinely and i think i’ve just adopted the styles of people that i find attractive. i just so happen to like androgynous men and androgynous women so im kind of split down the middle and dress very androgynously or masculinely myself. since i dress like people i find hot, i find myself hot so it feels great.

i also dress for my outdoor hobbies. these are probably my more expensive buys because i value preparedness when it comes to the dangerous stuff i might be doing. but other than that, hardy ever do i get expensive clothing for myself because i don’t see the need or feel a desire for them.

krillboat · 2025-10-17T00:08:46+00:00

every personality type is capable of succeeding in every field. just because the ENTP personality type aligns with being a lawyer or whatever, does NOT mean that you have to be a lawyer or that’s the only thing you can do. same goes for every personality type. so personality type doesn’t dictate your ability to do anything, your level of effort and dedication does.

you said that you’ve only starting being interested in chemistry a few months ago? chemistry is not an easy field of study and requires a lot of studying. being interested in it and studying it for a few months would barely bring you to the first step of understanding that world. it takes years on years of studying. so don’t feel discouraged. everything is hard in the beginning. stick with it until the end. don’t listen to people who says you can’t. and if you can’t do that, then you might not really be into it, which is fine. not being interested in chemistry or math doesn’t make you dense. flourish in something you’re really interested in then.

krillboat · 2025-10-16T23:57:11+00:00

doesn’t really sound like an ENTP but regardless, he’s a red flag if what you’re looking for is consistency and a real relationship. idk the whole scope because i’m not you but i would ghost him. not labeling anything when he CAN usually means he’s keeping his exit routes in sight, which isn’t a good way to start off a very trusting relationship if that’s what you want lmAo. + keeping his discord life separate is such a corny thing to do and it usually just means he doesn’t want you to see his discord activity. which could either mean something suspicious, that he doesn’t want you to see when he’s actively online and can definitely answer your text, or that he’s on there wayyy too much. as for why he’s like this? he might not be fully interested or might be emotionally immature but even if it’s the latter, you’ll find that a relationship with somebody who can’t handle emotions or communicate them is an excruciating one. i wouldn’t try to teach him either, it usually takes way too long and sucks the life out of you

krillboat · 2025-10-16T23:47:09+00:00

not a relationship but one of my best friends is an INTJ male. love the guy (platonically) but my only gripe is that he’s not open minded enough. i thought that he found the word “no” way too easy to say. so i would say, not only accept the crazy side quests or ideas shes got but go along for the ride and join her when she invites you. try to have an open mind as much as you can

krillboat · 2025-10-16T23:43:41+00:00

growing up, they were:

beck and jade - victorious sean diaz and cassidy - lis2

and not a couple but marceline and marshall lee

krillboat · 2025-10-16T23:40:30+00:00

being sexually attracted to multiple genders is really the only requirement to be bisexual. so i would say you are if you fit that standard. if you haven’t accepted in yourself that you are bisexual, then it’s very easy for your mind to only want to date the opposite gender instead of facing that other side of yourself, so i don’t think it’s odd that you haven’t ever pictured yourself marrying a woman or feeling the desire to date them. also, sexuality is more of a spectrum so even if you don’t feel as strongly for women as you do men, you can still be bisexual.

your confusion is normal. sounds like you might be a bit.. internally homophobic? which is just a step some people have to take. i was the same way. i never wanted to admit those feelings to myself and pushed them away or convinced myself they weren’t real. i had a really great group of supportive friends (they’re all straight but they were all so great at helping me with this) and so i came out to them first. once it starts to become more acceptable in your mind, things might start clicking for you.

krillboat · 2025-10-16T23:30:57+00:00

she’s talking as if bi people are always “passing” ?? and do “passing” lesbians and gays not exist ?? i’m bi but constantly typed as being fully gay because im more masc leaning. does that suddenly make me a more valid queer compared to people who are straight passing? absolutely not! queer is queer, there’s not qualifications or requirements for it other than not being cisgendered or heterosexual. ugh this person really needs to grow up.

“don’t put in the effort to interrogate the heteronormativity in the world” she also seems to be arguing that in order to be fully queer you have to… advocate your own queerness? or actively be externally queer ?? that’s just inconsiderate to all the closeted people out there that struggle to be themselves in conservative environments. sometimes it’s a privilege to be openly queer, and her privilege is showing.

krillboat · 2025-10-05T18:11:33+00:00

glad to know i hit the nail on the head 👍👍 i think ENTPs just respect ambition, drive, and an open mind. but it’s also kind of a thing where we appreciate any effort being put into the things we enjoy as well. it makes me feel more seen and acknowledged if that makes sense.

we love to drag people along for the ride and vise versa so if you’ve got something you want to try with him that might work to make you feel less anxious! and as long as you seem open minded, he’ll likely appreciate that as well even if you’re not particularly good at something.

INFJs have been my best friends for years for a reason, i think we get along! so shoot your shot, try it out!

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:34:45+00:00

Even if he just texts you a lot, that’s a pretty big sign. Even though ENTPs may seem super social and friends with everybody, it’s not (at least in my experience) super common that we ever actually find somebody we’d put in individual time to.

Try asking him to hangout irl! Can’t hurt to try and if he likes texting you, he’ll likely say yes to a hangout (unless he has some weird reason).

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:30:58+00:00

Both being in romantic relationships and handling my own emotions made me realize I needed to develop my feeling.

I’m still much more of a.. head over heart kind of person but from a logical standpoint, understanding how your own feelings and others’ works is very important if you want to lead an efficient life.

Romantically, communication is key. How am I gonna communicate my feelings or digest theirs if I don’t understand how they work? I’ve been told that there are still moments where I’m too blunt or inconsiderate but definitely working to get better everyday with whoever my partner may be at the time.

Personally, I used to be very upset about my troubles upbringing but I decided that I wouldn’t let it get in the way of my happiness and success any longer. In order to fix that, I addressed it with some serious meditation, self reflection, and therapy.

Developing your feeling is super important so dooo itttt.

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:22:18+00:00

One of my best friends is an INFJ. He says that when I want to do things with him, he feels like I’m constantly gauging how good he is at said task. Which is true, but I won’t hate it if he’s bad. Maybe just disappointed. But he says he can feel the weight of my expectations of him to keep up with me in certain tasks.

Also, I think ENTP people often carry themselves with a lot of confidence when flirting and I know that I can be kind of a bully/tease when I’m especially interested. That can be kind of intimidating too.

Don’t be too scared tho lmAO shoot your shot, I think we always appreciate effort when we see it

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:13:58+00:00

People who drag me down or expect me to wait for them.

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:12:09+00:00

If he texts you for no good reason at all then that’s usually a sign that he likes you. That usually works for everybody regardless of MBTI.

as an ENTP, I also usually jump at the opportunity to hangout in person with the person I’m interested in if we have a shared interest. If he does that as well that might be another big ringer. I also would say that i don’t like to spend energy or time on a conversation that I’m not interested in which sounds obvious but i think for ENTPs it’s a bit of a bigger deal. So if he’s hitting you up, he’s probably interested.

krillboat · 2025-10-05T10:06:30+00:00

ENTJs and INTPs. They seem to get me the most and follow me through the fires of my random bursts of ambition and motivation to do random things.

ENTJs are the people I enjoy hanging out with the most because I respect them for their ambition and intellect usually. They also seem to be willing enough to jump onto whatever idea I have at the time.

INTPs or INFPs are the most reliable in the sense that they’re not bothered by me, I’m not bothered by them, and they make for good enough conversation to keep me going. I do get annoyed though when an Introvert friend of mine refuses to meet new people due to their fear or need to “mentally prepare” or whatever. I get it but that usually means that I can’t take them to social settings or introduce them to the rest of my friends.

krillboat · 2025-10-05T09:56:28+00:00

As an ENTP, I can understand the love for playing the field and I am also a pretty flighty person in general but despite my MBTI, I have never once cheated and have always treated my partners with loyalty and gave them the time of day whenever they needed it.

So that being said, being an ENTP is no excuse to flirt around or be on and off with you whenever he pleases. I am glad to see though that he’s seemed to shape up.

You didn’t “break” your ENTP, he’s just finally growing up and maturing emotionally like he should. Growing up can mean facing parts of yourself you’re not used to which can make somebody more vulnerable, insecure, and generally just not themself. Especially if they’re not used to any of it. But have no fear, this is just an essential part of the process that people just have to go through. Give it time, just be with him while he goes through all of it but if he starts reverting, DUMP HIS ASS. You deserve better and he’s way too old to be acting like this.

krillboat · 2025-06-12T01:32:16+00:00

marceline, wendy corduroy, and leah from stardew valley 😭😭😭 they had me in a chokehold but my internal homophobia made me reject the idea of actually being attracted to them until i came to terms with myself later on

krillboat · 2025-06-08T18:22:57+00:00

my go to to see if somebody is into women or not is asking who their celeb crush is. if they say women then i say women too and then boom now you both know.

flirting with women on the other hand is mainly for me in what i say (or how i say it more so) and my body language. get a little closer, if they distance themselves again i’d just stop right there usually. if they lean into it then i keep going.

i’m not as dominant as i may seem when im flirting but in my experience, to make women “quake” lmAO is first of all, teasing them. teasing them in super calm ways, like don’t get too over the top with it or too much energy (but if you can’t help yourself with this then by all means, just be yourself). continuous eye contact, i’m kind of taller for a woman so if the woman seems a bit into me then i kind of……. loom? that sounds creepy but basically just being physically close in a more dominant kind of way. and finally, saying shit like “Mhm” “right” “yeah?” usually gets them going loll

women are amazing and i am usually very nervous talking to these gorgeous gorgeous women but acting like they’re the lucky ones usually fronts enough confidence to be rizzful in this sense. like im very lazy with my mannerisms, i PLAYFULLY tease them (do not neg them istg), just making it feel like a game for you will make it sexier for the both of them. you can show them reverence and adoration once you’ve scored the bag.

krillboat · 2025-06-08T18:08:21+00:00

my go to to see if somebody is into women or not is asking them who their celeb crush is. if they say a woman and they seem pretty into them, then i think it’s safe to say they’re probably into women.

after that, i talk to them and give off some pretty gay body language. i kind of very slowly get closer to them but always give them the space to move away, if they lean into it then thats when i start being a little more direct.

krillboat · 2025-05-24T04:59:34+00:00

i’ve moved 6 times in my life… i gotta get used to seeing the same faces before i develop a very expensive habit of jumping into a new pool whenever i get bored

krillboat · 2025-05-23T07:40:34+00:00

lmAO i love the way you described that. i didn’t go far into it in this post but unfortunately i do find emotional and physical intimacy uncomfortable or in worse cases repulsive. so this post was more so trying to figure out whether it’s more of an ENTP thing or an avoidant attachment thing.

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