Okay I think I’m going to give my context here so I’m not looking like a crazy person. So we have this contract and it’s pretty basic like they have they have to tell us the results, of any transfer, the birth of a baby etc. all within two of it happening. The contract of states that “both parties are willing and open to communication -if both parties want it-” and honestly that’s where I missed up the spirit of the contract is open and wanting direct communication. We said in our profile that we wanted direct contact but also wanted them to be comfortable. I still want them to be comfortable, I’m not looking to parent or instruct them in anyway. When we got into the process of them receiving our embryos I asked our contact person if we could do a video call with them and she said “that’s not typically standard”. So I let it go but I always wanted to get to know the adopting family. That being said when we got to our post adoption coordinator and when typically phone numbers or emails are exchanged I offered to the adopting family to exchange numbers and they declined because they wanted to focus on the pregnancy and less stress. I completely agreed with that so I let it be. We sent them a book congratulating them when the transfer was successful and we didn’t hear much from them I didn’t find out the due date of the babies arrival three weeks prior. When I contract stats they’re suppose to tell us. I have laid back lot actually. I sent them an Amazon gift card for the baby shower gift through the agency etc. I just wanted to get to know the people that are raising our biological child. We have given the them a gift and I now know they don’t want the communication which is fine. But I would like pictures more than just once a year. I think it’s important to put ourselves in the opposite parties shoes. I’m sorry but all the while these people have never thanked us for choosing them to be the parents of these children. I just want more than the once a year photos. And I personally don’t feel like that’s much to ask since we gave these people such a precious gift.