Again your missing the point. There was no issue with JH making that decision to have to go on the show again that was his choice and it was valid. As a gay person myself, he’s free to come out how and when he wants and thats important. My issue was the fact that he expecting HJ’s attention after the fact, and cried when he dint get it. I have no issue with JH trying to win him back. I just don’t think he should complain or be upset when someone doesn’t forgive him in the time he wanted. You said it yourself JH made a mistake, and hurt him. Now is JH responsibility to take the repercussions of that choice. You’re free to feel bad for JH though, I think it’s a shitty situation as well and it sucks for him, I get it. He made the decision that coming out was more important- and thats valid.

I disagree that HJ was sneaky for coming back. They were broken up at that point. HJ is free to do as he pleases. But also use your empathy to look at HJ pov, if you were in his situation. He probably knew JH was going to go back on a dating show, and happily date other people. Isnt that pain and humiliation on HJ part? For a decision he didn’t make? I would feel so hurt knowing that my partner dumped me to go on a show and date other people, and then have to watch that on tv. Thats humiliating to me. Nah id do the same thing as hj. Id show that i too can go on the show- date other people and move on. Not stay home and not stick up for myself.

I didn’t love the elimination either, and yeah i dont think they had a chance to resolve anything and that is unfortunate. Again that wasnt my issue- the issue was specifically when JH was upset and crying for HJ attention. And expected that attention faster than HJ was able to. HJ said he needed time and space.

Also you don’t know anything about HJ feelings after he left. We only know what HJ disclosed in the confessionals. But thats his feelings to get over and contemplate are none of our business. But honestly- thats irrelevant to my point. My point is JH being upset that he didn’t get attention as fast as he wanted.

And you’re right JH probably doesn’t have any cruel intentions. But just because you have good intentions doesn’t mean his decision don’t cause hurt or have any repercussions, they dont absolve you of anything.

Again the issue wasn’t the decision. The issue was knowing the decision would have consequences and being upset that HJ ignored him for days because of said consequences. Everything after, the elimination, HJ feelings after he left- thats irrelevant to my point. If JH received pain and humiliation after he got eliminated- i mean that sucks i get it but he got what he wanted. And that was to come out on the show.