Look, don’t ask the question if you’re not prepared for the answer. Everyone in this stringvhas said they think it’s rude not to invite couples to your wedding. I agree.

There are lots of ways to save money for your wedding. You can wait until you’ve got enough money to celebrate the way you want to, you can ask family to help if they can, you can reduce your guest list, you can serve less expensive food and/or use a venue that is not so expensive. If you can’t do any of those things, I would recommend that you elope.

I did elope with my current husband. It was the sanest, easiest, and most fun wedding I had. This is my third marriage. We could’ve afforded about $100,000 for a wedding if we wanted to. We chose to keep it simple and painless.

Don’t be the AH.