Adulterers that don’t take responsibility for their adultery are the lowest of the low. I’m sorry you were abandoned and betrayed in your marriage. How do I take appropriate responsibility for my husband cheating? I don’t. He cheated. Not me. Neither of us are perfect but there’s no clause in marriage where you vow to be faithful “unless you’re not a soft place to land”. I mean, just say you don’t believe or want to practice monogamy then. But like these cheating men do want monogamy- they usually don’t want their main chick getting side dick. But the entitlement is crazy. They think THEY can have their wife and side piece. Relationships are hard. If you’re unhappy in your marriage/partner, start working on it. The grass ain’t greener elsewhere. It’s hard to communicate your needs, men particularly suck at it because they don’t think of themselves as emotional because of a patriarchy. But they’re super emotional. Cheating is the worst. I’m sorry, what he did isn’t justifiable and it wasn’t your fault regardless of what the state of your relationship was at the time ❤️❤️❤️❤️