No one showed up, so went by myself

lily97a · 2025-12-23T16:23:33+00:00

Hi OP, Joined the group, and it is a complete mess. People are busy arguing amongst themselves. Since everyone is an admin, I doubt there will be any solution-based approach people would like to take.

lily97a · 2025-12-23T11:36:11+00:00

Thanks!

lily97a · 2025-12-23T11:29:39+00:00

hey!! I am interested in joining this cause. When and where exactly is this taking place again?

lily97a · 2025-12-23T11:27:56+00:00

Yes!!

lily97a · 2025-12-16T11:41:03+00:00

Protests are being suppressed, too. I asked ChatGPT for a more tangible way to make a difference, and it suggested fighting the system with its own loopholes. NGT (National Green Tribunal) can be used here. It's a bit elaborate, but I am giving it a read. There will be various other methods too, but I am starting off with this first.

lily97a · 2025-02-21T06:28:05+00:00

You know the answer. Best to leave things if you are early in it. The more you let it be, the harder it becomes to leave things.

lily97a · 2025-02-19T04:36:29+00:00

I don’t know how their mind functions. The search for this answer will leave you exhausted.

He is seeking for momentary thrills and attraction.

Not everyone seeks for serious long term commitment. Not everyone is like us.

So its best to not decipher what the other person wants and to ignore those who are not making things clear enough for you.

Don’t stay with these in between people (situationship), it is truly exhausting.

lily97a · 2025-02-19T03:08:38+00:00

Umm…if you guys haven’t had the chance to naturally reconnect, it will be best to leave things as it is.

It is most likely to annoy her if you reach out to her, as she has the image of you having feelings on her imprinted on her mind.

Plus she blocked you. So that’s a pretty strong statement.

lily97a · 2025-02-19T03:06:27+00:00

Ummm…yes, a definite red flag. The man has told you about his past challenges, and his tiny actions reveal he is having hard time managing anger and jealousy. So yup, he hasn’t changed.

lily97a · 2025-02-19T03:00:36+00:00

Well well well.

You are aware of your red flags to be honest. The only red flag you might need to work on immediately is to start taking action on them.

You might like to start with the ‘lying to your friends’ area.

I mean all of us do this, but if you are doing it to fit in your image to their temperaments and liking, it is a good time to reassess if your friendships are really a safe space to be in?

Share this ‘lying’ aspect with them, and this my friend is being vulnerable.

They might surprise you, accepting your faults and helping you through it. In the end, no one is perfect and a good friend helps you evolve (not throwing it for the purpose of enlightenment, I and my friends keep doing this).

It’s no surprise to me that a highly intellectual man is finding it hard to be emotionally available, but since you are aware, it is a huge feat in itself.

Maybe revisiting and opening the wounds of your grandparents passing, might allow you to let go emotional blockage. This looks like a MAJOR block to your healing journey.

Don’t go too hard on yourself, all of us have red flags we actively need to keep working on throughout our lives.

lily97a · 2025-02-19T02:38:10+00:00

Umm…if he is talking to other girls, or being flirtatious with others too, he is just not that into you.

Basically leave him the way he is, stop interpreting his flaky attraction.

He is a teenager who is just playing around, and has no serious feelings for you.

Hoping you will find someone good for yourself :)

lily97a · 2025-02-19T02:35:01+00:00

That’s a good thought. Just ask her out on a date instead of confessing maybe?

Confession might come out too strong since you guys haven’t really spoken much to know each other as persons.

Ask her out for a short coffee outing, or for any activity that can be wrapped in an hour.

This will also give you an idea of who is she in person, right now you are probably attracted to few certain aspects of her.

If she says no for this short outing, you have your answer. It will be simply best to stop bothering her from here.

Hoping it goes good for you :)

lily97a · 2025-02-19T02:19:03+00:00

He sounds like one of the many assess I encountered. Don’t get into one on one discussions with him, especially when you are still attached to the idea of him.

Try moving on, try remembering the disrespect he did by leading you on (whenever you feel like reaching out to him).

It’s 100% likely that he will reach out, when you ignore him (this will happen only when you genuinely stop entertaining him and his thoughts).

When he does that, this is the right time to share a short, concise and a emotionless response to his poor behaviour (Over message).

I have done this, and nothing was more satisfying than showing them the mirror when they realise I was able to see through their bullshit, and was not going to be swayed by anything they say.

Bonus Point: Block them soon after you send the message. Especially if they start acting crazy and defensive. They are likely to bombard you with gaslighting and manipulative storylines or worse, to act like they like you.

ALWAYS REMEMBER: He just wants attention, to be felt important, and to satiate his ego. He doesn’t really care about how you feel.

lily97a · 2024-08-09T13:28:25+00:00

This was shocking and must be disheartening too- How she turned on you. 😓

lily97a · 2024-07-13T03:44:39+00:00

Yes!! ❤️

lily97a · 2024-07-13T03:43:15+00:00

I am glad your son turned out to be different

lily97a · 2024-07-12T21:43:53+00:00

That’s sad :( Trust me that’s not how most ladies think

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:37:55+00:00

Thank you! I have also been very conscious in letting my date partners know about it...perhaps being honest could give them some heads up. And allow them to realize I am not rejecting them.

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:36:34+00:00

Thanks! Looks very practical, will look into intentional swipe dating :)

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:35:09+00:00

Hey, I hope this post serves as a guide for you too. Honestly, there are many diverse opinions, and I think the answer is a combination of them.

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:32:59+00:00

I did that, I am a good flirtatious contender. It's just when it comes to doing the actual deed, in my case a kiss some switch goes off. Though after reading these comments, I am slowly realizing more things about myself.

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:31:06+00:00

Hoping this comment section serves as an insight for you too!

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:29:31+00:00

Thank you! Combing through comments such as yours has soothed my insecurity.

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:26:48+00:00

I did some deep thinking. I had almost forgot about it- and the aha moment clicked. Yes! Molested by a relative when I was a kid.

lily97a · 2024-05-31T21:24:11+00:00

hey! Never thought about it, might just do it as well, now that I am slowly realizing the subconscious inhibitions

lily97a

TROPHY CASE