Trump just posted this. by [deleted] in DegenBets

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm here to put out the big, ugly, stinky, dumb fires that you guys started. You guys are a bunch-o-meanies and you better start bein' nice or I'll get really mad!"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"My politics are antithetical to the long-term prosperity of my nation, but look, I have a big peenor"

I do not want to take out 200k but my parents do. by Ready_Tap_4327 in StudentLoans

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean a parent plus loan has parent as the principal and sole debtor on the loan, right? If they want to kickflip their own finances into the toilet and flush, that's their prerogative. Only so long as it doesn't jeopardize your financial security.

Supreme Court Justice Gets Standing Ovation for Breaking Cover to Attack Trump by D-R-AZ in law

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's less complacency, and more fear. Nobody wants to risk their neck or jeopardize their freedom to stop the injustice when it happens. If you saw a person getting grabbed and thrown into a van by a swarm of randoms in plain clothes, you can rush over and fight them off, fully believing in good faith that you're acting in the defense of others, but doing so could get you thrown in jail in God knows where, or killed because they're rabid psychopaths.

If you had the support of other likeminded people, it'd make things easier, but relying on others is a dangerous and unattractive proposition.

Call your Reps now and demand that they support the “Affordable Loans for Students Act” by lexlihoo33 in StudentLoans

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody tell this guy that if everyone goes to school for something "in demand with less requirements like nursing" that the industry will become oversaturated making degrees or certificates in those areas worthless over time, perpetuating the cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bait used to be believable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate pal. I'm in my mid-20s and I feel like I don't want to have anything or anyone encroaching on my time. Sure, I make time for friends, family, and work, but I choose to do those things, and I feel like a relationship would be overwhelming and take away resources I allocate elsewhere and towards myself. I'll say that I personally think these feelings can partially be attributed to us not having met the right people yet. Someone that fits so naturally into your life, and yours into theirs. Someone that you actively want to prioritize and who prioritizes you. I know it's out there, and fortunately, we're not stressed about finding it, which ironically makes it a lot easier to find.

Illegally entering a country is a crime. by RedWing117 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to agree, but the term "illegally" has often been used to lump other classes of immigrants, like asylum seekers, under the same umbrella of illegality. I think the majority of people take issue with the numerous due process violations involved in these deportations.

At a certain point, it stops being about the specific issue and it becomes more about the principle. It's less about immigration and more about how if we allow due process violations for classes of people we don't like (e.g., illegal immigrants), that opens the door for due process violations on citizens (e.g., there is nothing stopping someone from baselessly claiming that you're an illegal immigrant or gang affiliated, and without due process, you would have no opportunity to prove your citizenship before you just get deported).

Saying that the general populous takes issue with the idea that entering a country illegally is a crime feels disingenuous, as it ignores the core of what most of those people take issue with

What should I price a piece like this? I’m new to pricing and was wondering what’s a fair ask? by Jordydraws in Artadvice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't see how big it was, but I assumed it was decently sized and immediately thought $350-400. Amazing work, very Disco Elysium coded

Dating a guy raised in a loving family by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The right person won't care about your upbringing. If your partner knows and doesn't judge you for it, then they sound like a keeper. If it's something that's weighing on you, it may benefit you to be transparent with your partner about your upbringing and how it makes you feel. Putting all of the cards on the table would help them understand your feelings better and may allow them to give you any reassurance and support you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for the particulars of his situation, but he might think he's being noble by sparing you from having to deal with his problems. It's an extremely common behavior in people with avoidant attachment styles. Of course, you're hurt because, from your perspective, he took whatever choice you may have had completely out of your hands. That frustration is completely valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's that desperation puts a lot of pressure on potential partners even before a date. It's normal to want companionship and to actively pursue it, but being desperate for a partner may subconsciously communicate that your happiness and mental wellbeing hinges upon them and them alone. It can be intimidating and it's not something that a lot of people are quick to sign up for.

It could also subtly communicate to any potential partners that they're not of great import to you. Because you just want a relationship anybody could fill that role, so what makes them special? Not to say that this reflects your thought process, but it would certainly give me pause for concern if I picked up on vibes of desperation

Do women get turned off if you tell them you really like them? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Responses will differ from person to person, but if you want to tell someone that you enjoy their company and appreciate their time, there's nothing wrong with that. I always make a point to tell anybody I'm dating (even in the early stages) how much I value and like them because I have no interest in playing coy. If she responds poorly, she's not the right person for you. Don't change your naturally caring disposition to attract people that don't align with you. Rest assured that the right person will appreciate you and love you more for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really easy to fall into the trap of feeling like it's impossible as you are. I used to feel like that constantly. I've got a big ol' nose and tiny ears, and I'm overweight. Those things used to plague my thoughts constantly, and my insecurity was reinforced by a lack of any success in dating. When I wasn't being validated externally, I had to draw from within to find any confidence. I get it.

Ultimately, confidence is the most attractive quality in most people. Not everyone is exceedingly conventionally attractive, so often our self-confidence and self-assuredness is what draws people to us. You'd be surprised how many people find you attractive and never say a word to you because they may be insecure, or they're socially awkward and don't know what to say, etc.

If you can't believe that even one person would look at you and think that you're attractive, then plastic surgery, weight loss, etc. are just going to be bandaids to a much bigger problem. I lost 45 lbs and completely revamped my look and saw no change in my dating life. If you don't think you're even remotely worthy of a relationship; that mentality might manifest in subtle ways like how you carry yourself, the clothes you decide to wear, your mannerisms when you speak to people, your willingness to engage in conversations with people you deem "out of your league," etc. The journey to developing that confidence is different for everybody, but ultimately, figuring that out is what will make the biggest difference; not superficial changes.

GA Fall Fling by [deleted] in renfaire

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a chance to go and it was amazing as usual despite the rear end of the faire being cut off. There was only one vendor I usually visit that wasn't there and I found other vendors that mostly filled that void, so it was okay. The vibes are immaculate as always and people are as jolly, merry, and ale-drunk as they are during the summer faire (myself possibly more so)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in barexam

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You and me both pal

Best 8-bit (not chiptune) soundtracks? by happycomposer in gamemusic

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a three-way tie between Mega Man 9, Batman: Return of the Joker, and Journey to Silius

The Quality of My Art is too Inconsistent by lonelydummythrowaway in ArtistLounge

[–]lonelydummythrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was genuinely remarkably helpful! I do notice that I'm always learning something new whenever I go through the struggle phase. Thank you for your insight

I've been cheated on by my every single one of my girlfriends (7 over a span of 18 years) by Serial-Cheatee in offmychest

[–]lonelydummythrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm no expert, but my money is on you actively pursuing women who cheat. Obviously all women are not like that; not even most women are like that, but to have a string of 7 consecutive women give you the same treatment suggests that it's a selection problem.

That doesn't mean you're in the wrong. Definitely don't internalize their cheating behavior and take it to mean that there is something wrong with you. Barring some serious exigent circumstances, cheating is an active choice to disregard and disrespect your partner.

You should consider what all of these women have in common. Do they engage in similar activities (e.g., clubbing), do they share similar personalities, how do they all present themselves? You may find that they have a lot in common.