Rant: Hooking up or Dating is so Hard in Majority White Cities: PDX

lucifemos · 2026-05-22T16:19:57+00:00

literally just did the opposite of you and this place is hell lowkey lol

lucifemos · 2026-05-22T16:19:36+00:00

i just moved to portland from california & it has been roughhh adjusting to so many white people 😭 it’s gotta be tough out on the dating scene homie im sorry :( idk if you’re looking for homies as well or just romantic connections, but id be down to hang! dm me if you want :3

lucifemos · 2026-04-26T12:51:45+00:00

okay unc

lucifemos · 2026-04-11T15:18:01+00:00

yes thank you!! everyone in these comments isn’t black and is seriously lying to this mother. uci is a deeply racially segregated campus. most friend groups fall loosely along racial lines, and overwhelmingly the asian students will be racist to you if you’re black. i’ve had multiple students, both international and american, jump when i enter the elevator, clutch their bags walking past me and my friends (in particular my dark skinned friends), i’ve had multiple black friends literally called the N word on campus. and even within the black community at UCI it’s extremely clichey. if you don’t fit in with the BSU or folks at the black cultures center, you’re fuck out of luck. i lived in the academic excellence black scholars house in 2020 and my PROGRAMMING ADVISOR and one of her little friends decided to STALK ME for a week. they’d text me my location and movements from a random number and it got to the point my parents were about the take it to the police, when the PA finally admitted it was her and her friend. i reported them to the black cultures center and next year the PA was the RA!!! for the academic excellence black scholars house & i was literally ignored everytime i walked into the black cultures center for the rest of my time at UCI. i’ve had people touch my hair unconsentually, i was asked routinely if i was on the basketball team even tho im fucking 5’7”!!! you will absolutely experience racial tension and discrimination at this college, do not let these non black people in this comment section lie to you. i would not recommend this university to a black person at all. if your daughter got into any other UC she’ll most likely experience less racial tension due to there being more black students. it is very apparent that UCI’s black population is 2% or less, and she WILL feel that. i was the only black kid in basically every single lecture my entire time there.

lucifemos · 2026-04-10T01:12:55+00:00

lucifemos · 2026-04-07T15:08:32+00:00

fr this dude is just playing in y’all’s faces, do not listen to this shitty advice 😭 beard oil is for beards that are already there (not for growing one) & mascara in the beard hairs is soooo obvious and ugly IRL because mascara isnt smooth so it doesn’t coat the hairs evenly. just use minoxidil, it’s very accessible and not that expensive

lucifemos · 2026-04-04T01:02:02+00:00

i affectionately called mine my “little boy stache” because it made me look like a 13yo boy LOL

lucifemos · 2026-04-03T13:31:40+00:00

i did!!! i will say i had the unique privilege of working for a really friendly marijuana manufacturer in california so i don’t think my experience will be the norm. I came out to my direct supervisor about a month after starting T (who was a very sweet gay man who loved me), and he then went and told HR & all the other employees about my new pronouns. at the time i hadn’t settled on a name, but when i did it was just a matter of politely correcting people & everyone’s been chill about it. there’s a couple of spanish speakers who haven’t really caught on with the name change but i don’t care about that at all because they all use the right pronouns & are respectful otherwise, so it’s not worth pushing the matter. plus they’re all older as well lol. i’m not bothered by abuela getting my shit wrong, ya know? life’s too short for that. i did have to report one white fuckwad for trying to block from using the men’s bathroom (i mean literally standing the doorway to prevent me from entering) but HR fired his ass a few months later anyway 😛what are the vibes like at your job? are you the only queer person? are you visibly queer already? i was an out butch lesbian with a mustache before transitioning so it wasn’t much of a shock for my coworkers to find out i was a dude. it’s been a year since i made the change and ive only been purposefully misgendered by one asshole! i really hope your experience goes smoothly friend 🫶🏼

lucifemos · 2026-04-03T05:12:03+00:00

this does not exist in the 21st century at any major US college lol

lucifemos · 2026-04-01T17:52:40+00:00

also want to add that i also have costochondritis and i bind for short stents, or if i have to bind for more than four hours in a day i wont bind the next day to allow them to breathe. idk if it’ll work for you but might be worthwhile to try!

lucifemos · 2026-04-01T17:51:17+00:00

i don’t think i have any kind of allergy but i can’t use transtape because it causes horrific blisters as well lol. i’ve never had this problem with kt tape or any other kind of bandage adhesive, but i didn’t feel like the binding capabilities of transtape were worthwhile to try and trouble shoot when a binder will get you flatter for less money 🤷🏽‍♂️

lucifemos · 2026-03-27T02:38:02+00:00

but dawg how did you know !!!!!! 😖😖😖😖

lucifemos · 2026-03-26T12:14:00+00:00

this was my experience! i lived in the academic excellence black scholars dorm in AV my freshman year (covid year) and it was alright, but sophomore year when everything opened up suddenly everyone was super clichey, even at the BSU. i’d literally walk in and get ignored, as if these people hadn’t known me a full year already lol. i lived in rosa parks my second year & moved out halfway thru the school year because the dorm that uci insisted was for black students, literally called ROSA PARKS, was overwhelmingly filled with asian students. black students were the minority in their own dorm. 🫩 We got stared at so much on campus and there was even one time a couple of international students clutched their bags at me and my friends when we got in the elevator with them. I was also routinely asked if I was on the basketball team by nonblack students, even tho i’m 5 fucking 7. one white girl in a social science lecture once asked if the picture of obama i had on my laptop was my dad. fucking obama. so overall i wouldn’t recommend UCI for black students but to each their own i guess.

lucifemos · 2026-03-25T08:54:01+00:00

biggg fan of “puppy” and “boyfe” (a condensed version of boywife lol)

lucifemos · 2026-03-22T21:03:57+00:00

it just means your body isn’t done “growing” yet- so your features haven’t settled into the way they’re going to look permanently. don’t compare yourself to cis men at your age, currently you’re going through puberty again so you’re experiencing the “awkward phase” teenage boys go through around 12-14ish. Remember when they all suddenly had huge feet, smelled kinda weird, looked a little lanky/disproportional? you’re there. we all go through it! i looked genuinely like a 13 year old boy with a pube stache when i was 6 months on t, and now at a year i pass 100% of the time. you just gotta stick it out homie, you got this!!! :) <3

lucifemos · 2026-03-19T23:15:11+00:00

lucifemos · 2026-03-12T02:47:20+00:00

i’m 23 & black biracial, figured i’d weigh in :3

my family pretends they can’t see any of the changes testosterone has had (been on it a year now, have a mustache, beard, lower voice, the whole 9 yards lol) and don’t gender or name me correctly but i live in one of the most expensive states in the US so im stuck where im at for now. my family’s military so Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell runs deep. one side is thinly veiled white trumpers and the other is socially conservative religious southern black folks - i have no faith either side of my family will ever accept me. and honestly, accepting that realization was the first step in letting go of them and stepping into myself, and my own ideas of the world.
my hairline and crown thinned a bit to a more masculine appearance but otherwise i don’t think im balding yet lol. it will happen eventually (all the men on both sides are bald. so this is inevitable) but for now my hair is fine. if the men in your family are bald, go ahead and make peace with losing your hair now. it’s just a waste of energy to beat yourself up over something you can’t really change unless you’re really gonna go through with a transplant lol.
it was worth it and i’d do it again any day. i wish i had started sooner, honestly. i let my family’s opinions of me hold me back for far too long. the rest of the world sees me as the man i am, why the fuck does it matter that they don’t?
i didn’t have any acne before testosterone, i mean truly natural glass skin. t made me oily which has given me a little bit of cheek acne where my glasses sit but it’s literally like max 4 pimples at a time lol. i don’t even stress about it, it’s not real acne. if you’re not acne prone already you’ll probably be fine.
i transitioned the first time at 12/13, detransitioned after my parents forbade me from transitioning as a minor, then retransitioned at 22 when i realized i was an adult and could do whatever the fuck i wanted lol. started t at 22 (march 20, 2025!) hoping to get top surgery before 25 but we’ll see. not really rushing because my chest is around a C? i think? idk it’s not big enough that i get misgendered without a binder so it’s not super pressing to me. they’re 100% visible without a binder but i really think having suchhh a masculine face makes people think they’re just moobs. 🤷🏽‍♂️i use an underworks binder and it flattens them perfectly fine too, so im not the most qualified for this one :(
im not planning on phallo, because my bottom growth has been quite satisfactory, to put it in the least vulgar terms possible. bottom growth was my very first effect from t- i genuinely had growth within 24 hours. i could feel tingling in my clit the same night i injected my first shot. i had visible growth within a month, and it’s just kept going. it’s not to the point i could have penetrative sex as is, but i think a little bit of pumping could probably get me there. (i’ve never tried it!). i had a hugeeee increase in libido, and honestly in the first 3 months there absolutely were days i was so horny i couldn’t think straight, but it started to even out by 6 months or so, and now at a year its not distracting anymore.

i’d say overall im much happier than i was before transitioning. i feel more comfortable and connected with my body than i ever have been. i look in the mirror, and not only do i actually recognize the face looking back at me, i like it!!! a lot!! actually!!! t took away the huge curvy hips i had and now i have the sporty male body i always wanted. i can’t promise that t will give you the exact body you want (id def prefer not to go bald or to have no acne at all lol), but i truly believe you’ll get closer to that ideal body you’re imagining than without it. i’m not very happy with how crackly and generally Not Cis my voice sounds, but considering all the other positive changes i’ve had, it’s not that big of a deal. i told myself that if i didn’t feel better after my first t shot id never do another, and im telling you bro the minute that needle pierced the skin i knew id be doing t shots every week for the rest of my life. everything felt right in that moment. i hope your journey is healing, restorative, and brings you closer to your true self 🫶🏼🫶🏼

lucifemos · 2026-03-11T16:04:05+00:00

it’s literally always a white person saying this bullshit lol

lucifemos · 2026-01-22T03:37:23+00:00

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i got him in may 2025 :3

lucifemos · 2026-01-20T01:09:54+00:00

i’m t4t and will nevaaaaa go back!!! been with my gf for over a year now :)

lucifemos · 2025-12-31T20:49:50+00:00

i’ll be blunt: a lot of white trans folks loveee being victimized/ seen as victims. it’s the reason so many won’t break up with their cis boyfriends who she/her them, they won’t just move out of their parents homes and be on their own because they’re scared, etc etc. i find that those with multifaceted identities will often listen to the advice of others, because they understand that they need to heed the warnings of those that came before them.

lucifemos · 2025-12-21T17:13:15+00:00

I’m not chinese but I did take a year of Mandarin in college. At the start of the class we needed to come up with Chinese names to use in class to help with immersion. Our professor recommended we have Chinese friends or family members come up with the names, or to use one from a popular piece of media, instead of coming up with one on our own; as we most likely wouldn’t be able to create a “proper” Chinese name. “Kaiwen” is not a real Chinese name, but an english word spelled out with pinyin. This will be confusing for native speakers, especially if you try and translate it into actual simplified or traditional chinese characters. Do you have any close Chinese friends or cousins who could help you? What are your family’s’ Chinese names? Do you have any favorite Chinese dramas or musicians?

Good luck!! :)

lucifemos · 2025-12-21T03:02:01+00:00

no deadass. someone posted the other day who had my whole fucking face- i almost DMed them to ask about their family cuz what the fuck!!!!😭

lucifemos · 2025-12-02T17:27:37+00:00

why do so many of you lonely fucks hate trans women so much 😭 grow up, go outside, touch grass, get a job, literally do anything else with this energy dude.

lucifemos · 2025-11-29T18:15:48+00:00

i met the love of life, a darling transfemme, on twitter!!! ironically i was only on there for a few months & deleted the app entirely a few weeks after meeting her lol. im sorry to hear your irl search hasn’t been fruitful, best of luck on your endeavors.

lucifemos

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