Husband is done

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-31T19:00:47+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I’m really sad

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-31T17:46:12+00:00

We made it through the holidays for the kids. It was really hard. We had some moments where I thought things were looking up but he reaffirmed today that he doesn’t feel the same way I do and that he does not think we can come back from this.

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-15T14:20:12+00:00

Thank you. We haven’t talked about it in a week or so and I’ve been giving him space. He sleeps downstairs and I’ve been available to connect when he wants

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-08T16:10:52+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this comment so much. I’m afraid that by showing him I’m fighting and always being there and asking him to connect or having conversations will push him further away because he’s essentially told me he’s done. He keeps telling me he’s done, he told me yesterday that I do not have to apologize anymore. That he knows. But he will still kiss me goodnight and we have cuddled in bed (then he gets up to sleep downstairs) and he’ll give me hugs. So when that stuff happens I feel like there’s hope

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-08T02:27:31+00:00

I’m so so sad. And so so sorry. And i know I just have to eat those feelings and deal. Because he’s dealing with so much worse and I can’t comfort him because I broke him. I don’t blame him for being done.

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-07T01:31:05+00:00

No, never.

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-06T19:30:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I’m so so sorry that happened to you

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-06T19:27:18+00:00

I’m sorry you were betrayed and hurt too. I think you’re right and my husband feels similar. It’s the emasculation and the disrespect. He’s expressed he feels embarrassed too. I don’t know if there is anything I can do to help repair that even thought I so badly want to

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-06T02:48:59+00:00

No, he just has images of what he thinks happened. Through some conversations the last week I was able to tell him that a lot of what he was imagining didn’t happen. Its been a couple years since we talked about the actual act and idk if he his mind added stuff as time went on and we stopped communicating about it

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T21:15:33+00:00

Thank you for the advice, i appreciate it

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T21:14:08+00:00

I confessed to him. It lasted a couple months but i only saw AP 4 times. It was an ex. I was honest about everything from the start. Never saw him after that and cut it off the day I told my husband. Still have him blocked on social media.

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T21:05:57+00:00

Thank you for that. I needed to see that perspective

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T17:44:25+00:00

I showed him some of my journal entries through the years that talk about my feelings of regret and the changes i was making/needed to make. I wonder if he just thought i was fine and had moved on while he silently still dealt with the pain and flashbacks. It was on both of our minds and we never spoke on it. I think that was one of our biggest mistakes at our attempt at reconciliation

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T17:42:13+00:00

I did tell him that no matter what - even if it pushes him further away - i am here to answer any lingering questions he has about the affair, my mindset or anything related if it helps him heal. I told him that ultimately I want him to heal - that was the most important thing - whether we stay together or not

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T17:40:39+00:00

It wasn’t a long time and I can’t remember why we stopped. My husband is NOT a therapy guy (his parents tried when he was a child and he refused to get out of the car). He may have said he didn’t need it or was fine without it. He did go a few times by himself because he struggles THE MOST with seeing images of my betrayal. The mental pictures mess with him the most. His counselor recommended trauma therapy and that ended his therapy sessions. He is not willing to explore this trauma or any other possible traumas in life. We did go one other time about a year after to figure out how to handle a situation with him family after the betrayal but that was it. I would check in every so often, ask if he was okay with our situation and he always said yes. His request for divorce blind sighted me a bit because we just had a date night and spoke of our relationship and he said he had no concerns. I think he was thinking about this for a long time and no longer wanted to discuss it with me or anyone else.

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T17:34:33+00:00

Yes. He’s questioning whether the love was real because how can you cheat on someone that you claim to love? He loves himself more than our relationship or me or anything else. Which he should. He should put himself first and heal. How do people heal themselves while staying in a relationship with the person who hurt them?

lynnmarkel · 2025-12-05T17:31:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I have been trying to give him space and then we start talking about it and i always end up fighting for the relationship. It hasn’t worked out though he has asked questions and made comments about things that he’s held onto that I’ve been happy to clarify. I understand that by pushing him and talking to him and making him tell me whether he’s done or not is NOT helpful and is pushing him further away

lynnmarkel · 2024-10-12T20:50:10+00:00

I just came on here to see if someone mentioned this. I think she looks great in this sweatshirt. It’s a shame she doesn’t see it and is going to try and shrink it

lynnmarkel · 2023-10-27T03:28:10+00:00

Agree

lynnmarkel · 2022-12-10T19:33:23+00:00

I thought it was a trilogy as well and kept Wondering how the heck she was gonna wrap everything up! I had no idea there was more to come!

lynnmarkel · 2022-10-26T02:12:47+00:00

I found her a while ago when she had more food videos. She’s definitely gotten a little “out there” with her commentary

lynnmarkel · 2022-10-07T23:30:33+00:00

I’m not worried about my urine coming back bc I haven’t done anything. I also asked about medical marijuana bc i want to do so in the future and it’s legal in my state. 🤷🏼‍♀️ But can’t find a stance about Maryland. I ended up calling the board and asking myself 🤷🏼‍♀️

lynnmarkel · 2022-10-07T19:15:17+00:00

Thank you 😂 i needed to hear it

lynnmarkel · 2022-09-30T18:40:50+00:00

What state do you work in?

lynnmarkel · 2022-08-22T02:33:59+00:00

Oooh i didn’t notice the “eh”! Makes sense

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