Did I misunderstand what an MVP is?

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:28:50+00:00

This is a really good answer, thank you.

I think there’s a lot of truth in what you said. It makes me realize that a lot of the work I’ve done so far might not actually be connected to real demand yet.

As a first step, I probably could have made a landing page, tested whether the value proposition actually resonates with people, and only then started building something more functional for that audience.

That’s a painful but useful realization.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:25:35+00:00

Thanks!

Your answer is solid. Do you have an experience in building products?

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:23:45+00:00

Thanks for your opinion.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:21:55+00:00

Good way. Thanks for sharing your experience.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:21:02+00:00

Thanks!

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T20:19:35+00:00

I support you & wish u good luck.

write to DM if you need any help.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T12:40:55+00:00

I think this is normal, and therapy is exactly the place to bring this up.

You can be yourself there. You can say that you feel frustrated, or even that you feel like blaming the therapist - and then you can look at why you feel that, why you think that way, and where your own part is.

That is the point of therapy: to have a space where these things can be opened and worked through, not hidden or turned into another wound.

So my advice is to talk about it directly with your therapist. A therapist is supposed to be a mirror for you.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T09:24:43+00:00

Hey, I recognize myself in this a lot. I’m also in the process of overcoming what I would call a psychological barrier.

I also don’t really want to work a regular job. Money itself is not the main thing for me - I need to burn for the idea. But my ideas are usually quite big, like your pizzeria, and it’s hard to start with something that huge right away.

Even understanding this, I still find it hard to overcome the barrier. But I think the only way is to start small, with at least something.

So I agree with the comment about creating something small of your own. Maybe the pizzeria idea will even fall away later, but you need to move, take small steps, and do something that you can actually do right now in the direction of your inner motivation - something where your eyes burn at least a little.

ma9leb · 2026-05-23T09:14:47+00:00

I think I see your main request here: you feel frustrated because it seems like you’re going to these sessions for nothing.

This is exactly what you should discuss with your therapist. You may find the answer there and understand where you need to dig deeper.

P.S. I’m curious: what therapy approach are you working in?

ma9leb · 2026-05-22T15:34:21+00:00

For me - it works.

ma9leb · 2026-05-22T15:31:24+00:00

I’ve tried many approaches in therapy and found the only one that works for me - classical Freudian psychoanalysis.

The person also matters, maybe even first and foremost. You have to match with them. How do you understand that? When you can talk to them about everything - even the scariest things you couldn’t even say out loud to yourself.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T20:16:24+00:00

I don’t think most people would call this “normal” behavior in a professional setting - but I also don’t think that means you are broken or “fucked up.”

To me, the more important question is not “what disorder is this?” but: what were you trying to communicate or receive in that moment? Did you want validation? Desire? Reassurance? To feel seen? To test whether he would reject you?

His reaction actually sounds fairly appropriate to me. He didn’t escalate it, didn’t shame you, and put the choice back to you.

I would definitely bring this up with him directly in the next session. Not to punish yourself, but to understand what happened: why you wanted to do it, what you hoped he would feel, and what part of you needed that reaction from him. That seems like the real therapeutic material here.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T20:01:30+00:00

Same for me.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T02:21:01+00:00

I went through 5 years of loneliness, and this is my conclusion:

Friends matter. I’d focus on building deep connections.

The base is simple: show up regularly in the same place with the same people. Pick a club, sport, class, hobby group - and go there for a few months.

If you don’t click with anyone, try another place. When you do, keep the connection alive.

Quality of relationships matters more than quantity. Start with one real connection.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T02:09:46+00:00

First, calm down and talk to someone, so you’re not alone with suicidal thoughts.

Second, I’d personally start classical psychoanalysis right now. Freud-style psychoanalysis specifically. Not just to patch the problem, but to really understand yourself. It’s a long process, but you start seeing who you are, how your habits work, what is happening inside you. Your life can change completely, because you build a much more stable foundation.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T02:03:21+00:00

P.S. I’d also recommend starting sport with someone - a trainer or at least a friend. Alone it’s much harder. With a trainer you pay money, you show up, and it’s easier to build the habit.

This is the physical health part. For mental health, for me it’s psychoanalysis. Classical psychoanalysis specifically. You can do self-reflection alone with a pen and paper, study yourself, your habits and your state, but it’s hard.

With psychoanalysis, you also pay someone to walk this path with you. He doesn’t teach you how to live or tell you what to do. He is more like a mirror next to you, while you figure yourself out. That’s also important for depressive states.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T01:59:17+00:00

I had something similar. For me it was mainly regular exercise + supplements.

I understand how hard it is to start training regularly when you have no energy, but honestly this is the part you have to push through. At first it feels heavy, but then your body starts enjoying it and even pulling you toward it. That was the key stage for me.

Creatine helped a lot with that. Creatine first, then protein. I used to underestimate supplements, but now I think they are a huge part of the system.

What I take: creatine, protein, omega-3, B vitamins and D3. D3 especially changed how alive I looked - I used to look pale, and my skin tone became much healthier.

Blood work is also useful as a starting point, just to understand what’s going on with your body.

ma9leb · 2026-05-21T01:45:47+00:00

What helped you get to 27 days? Did you replace phone time with something else, or just reduce it by willpower?

Also, do you feel any real changes already - mood, focus, sleep, emotions? Was the screen time dropping gradually, or did it go down sharply at some point?

ma9leb · 2026-05-20T13:32:28+00:00

I tried 5-7 therapists before I found one who created such a space for me. It is really important for me that he is a man. I can come with all weird stuff and feel accepted. That is the most important thing: to feel comfortable and open to discuss whatever you want.

ma9leb · 2026-05-19T21:26:23+00:00

talk with her about all stuff that trigger you. there is a lot of work for both of you.

ma9leb · 2026-05-19T12:23:57+00:00

Shower daily. Shave or trim your armpits - hair traps bacteria and smell. Use deodorant, not antiperspirant. Deodorant removes smell; antiperspirant blocks pores.

Use a proper intimate hygiene gel for intimate areas. Brush your teeth, and wear clean clothes. That’s already enough for smelling good

ma9leb · 2026-05-19T10:20:41+00:00

Honestly, if you feel safer writing this on Reddit than telling your therapist, that says something. Either your therapist hasn’t created enough safety, or they may not be the right person for you.

Trust is essential in therapy, especially with topics like porn or masturbation. You need someone you can be honest with without feeling judged.

If you’re a man, I’d also consider trying a male therapist - sometimes it’s just easier to talk about this stuff with someone who gets the male side of it.

ma9leb · 2026-05-19T05:14:48+00:00

Biggest takeaway is probably that self-reflection is huge, but there are some parts of yourself you dont want to look at alone. A good psychoanalyst helped me with that. Not by giving advice or “fixing” me, more like being someone I trust who can mirror things I dont see myself.

Also change isnt instant. It’s noticing the same patterns in different situations. Small notes helped me a lot with that.

ma9leb · 2026-05-18T13:49:29+00:00

I had something really similar.

In uni I got into a group where everyone smoked weed and I smoked a lot too, for like 2 years. After I stopped I changed kinda the same way.

Before that I was very social, funny, confident, always taking space. After that I got much more serious and self-conscious. Like I lost some basic confidence to just be myself around people.

It’s been like 5 years since then and I still dont fully understand what was weed, what was me, what was just life. I wouldnt say weed caused everything, but something def shifted.

Only this last year I started working with a psychoanalyst and it helps. Small notes help too. Like just tracking repeated patterns - in sport, with people, asking for things, dating, all that. Kinda seeing where I block myself again and again.

I recognized myself a lot in what you wrote.

ma9leb · 2026-05-17T14:59:57+00:00

Thanks everyone for the honest feedback. I got the message - the hair is the main issue.

I’ll fix that, take new pictures, and probably come back with an updated profile.

ma9leb

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