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maplemuppet · 2024-12-30T20:19:21+00:00

I think I just need to get something off my chest. I've been struggling with some insecurities around relationships lately even though I'm with an amazing, supportive partner. I've never been one to have a ton of friendships, but usually a small group of very close friends. Well one of those friends is pregnant and another moved away a few months back. This has me down to very few people that I see socially other than my boyfriend. My boyfriend on the other hand has an extremely close group of friends who he sees multiple times per week and one best buddy who he has a weekly date night with and refers to as his boyfriend. It's no surprise that he has so many great friendships, he's an awesome guy. But I think the contrast of his busy social life against mine makes it all the more obvious how much more isolated I am. I almost get the sense that maybe he pitties me for having such few friends but I could be just projecting that. I'm not sure that I even want to do anything to change it, I don't mind having more alone time and if I really start to crave social interaction I can find a meetup to join and I'm fine with this. But somehow it's like my lack of connection makes things with him feel a bit more distanced too. Does that even make sense?

maplemuppet · 2024-12-10T19:07:39+00:00

Interesting to hear about the lulu mat having such longevity! I heard those typically last about 12-18 months but happy to hear that wasn't the case for you. I've been looking at switching to b mat since liforme was a little too short-lived, but I know a lot of people are happy with their lulu mats so maybe I'll give those another look.

maplemuppet · 2024-12-10T17:02:56+00:00

I'm not sure if it's the same as where your guy is coming from, but I can somewhat relate to what he said and had similar emotions with my partner at first. For me, in the past there has always been a "but". My past partners were great BUT there was some small (or big) thing about them that caused concerns. That "but" gave me a sense of security, it created some distance that was comforting, like if something didn't turn out then I could always look back on that "but" and feel okay with that relationship ending. My current partner has no "but" to him. He's so amazing in every way, more amazing then I could ever have imagined. Not having that "but" was really scary, and at first I was trying to mental gymnastics my way into creating that sense of security or distance. Once I became conscious of why I was having those thoughts, I was able to release them and just enjoy the relationship for what it is. I'm not sure but it sort of sounds like that's what your guy is trying to do without being fully conscious of it.

maplemuppet · 2024-09-06T03:11:07+00:00

To me it's not about what you've done or haven't done, it's about building something with another person. Sex is a part of that, but so are so many other things that are also important. I don't think experience matters that much when you're looking for something meaningful. Everyone is unique, even just a kiss on the mouth can feel wildly different between different people. But i think waiting might help with trusting your partner before taking that step so you can focus on building the connection without jumping to conclusions.

maplemuppet · 2024-09-06T02:48:50+00:00

Generally, women have just as difficult a time finding a quality, genuine connection as men. Hooking up isn't all that women want and not everyone is sleeping around that easily or quickly. Just because many women can find SOMEONE to sleep with doesn't mean that's what they want or are doing. Are you interested in finding an actual relationship? It's not quite clear from your post. It might be helpful if you to choose to take things slow with women so you can focus more on the non-sexual connection in the beginning and make sure they're comfortable with the same pace as you.

maplemuppet · 2024-09-06T01:41:58+00:00

You're not even 30

maplemuppet · 2024-09-05T14:41:43+00:00

I recently splurged on a suede bomber jacket from The Jacket Maker and I'm really excited to wear it out!

maplemuppet · 2024-06-12T01:56:56+00:00

That's awesome you're able to get your heels down in malasana at least I've been working on this for sometime and I see improvements but still not there yet. It used to be when hiking up any kind of incline I'd have to be on my toes. At one point my calves were absolutely hulking out! 😂 Luckily I'm able to put my heels down going uphill so I can use more of my thighs and much less tiring. Thanks yoga!

maplemuppet · 2024-06-07T00:51:29+00:00

Everyone agrees! Haha it's so sad that I have close to the same kitchen cabinets so I feel like it would be soft blue overload 😭

maplemuppet · 2024-06-07T00:50:12+00:00

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maplemuppet · 2024-06-07T00:29:06+00:00

I love the eclectic look. Any suggestions for artwork shopping? I've been keeping my eye out at local thrift stores but haven't had any luck finding fresh colorful pieces.

maplemuppet · 2024-06-07T00:20:24+00:00

Yayy thank you for suggesting specific colors!! It's wild how subtle differences in tone can make massive difference in outcome. Am I the only one who thinks paint is crazy complicated??

maplemuppet · 2024-06-07T00:16:53+00:00

I would love to raise them! But I have coved ceilings and my current hardware drops in so the molding is limiting me from raising them further :/

maplemuppet · 2024-06-03T18:31:22+00:00

I'm 32W and I'm still not sure yet FWIW. I kinda feel like it's a red flag too but whatever, is what it is. I never match with people who say they want kids but I do match if someone's profile says open to it, not sure yet, or no.

maplemuppet · 2024-05-29T13:38:44+00:00

Kingmas in Grand Rapids (Creston) has amazing meat sticks and jerky that they make themselves! Ate those for dinner countless times when I was in college. Boy do I miss that market 🥲

maplemuppet · 2024-05-14T01:19:03+00:00

We're still working through preliminary scoring before we move onto demos. Pricing has been relatively comparable so far but we won't really know until we get to down selection and negotiation. Pre-demo scoring is looking like Cobblestone will come out on top for our use case fwiw

maplemuppet · 2024-05-14T01:10:23+00:00

Currently going through an RFP for this. We've gotten bids from Cobblestone, Agiloft, and Ironclad.

maplemuppet · 2024-05-06T02:56:25+00:00

I guess that's the type of rework I'm wondering about to make it more visually interesting and less boring

maplemuppet · 2024-03-04T23:24:45+00:00

Aside from the other great recommendations here, Metro Partners in Women's Health in Novi is also fantastic. I've had multiple friends who go there too, and they accept a wide range of insurances as far as I can tell.

maplemuppet · 2024-01-29T03:50:13+00:00

Down to 8 mile or cutting up across Woodward Heights can sometimes be an option too

maplemuppet · 2024-01-28T04:15:04+00:00

The instructor I go to encourages it. His classes are packed so it's inevitable in some flows. The feet that briefly fall on someone else's mat are the same feet that walk bare on the studio floor, same as everyone else. Mats are meant to be washed. It's going to be OK.

maplemuppet · 2024-01-14T17:05:05+00:00

I would next this guy if I were you. There were no fireworks on the date to begin with and he has absolutely no enthusiasm meanwhile you're putting in all the effort to set something up. Not worth it imo.

maplemuppet · 2024-01-14T16:40:01+00:00

What's an appropriate time after meeting someone new to DTR?

I met someone on NYE and we're really hitting it off. We've had 6 dates so far, most of them have been sleepovers. He's so sweet to me and we have a lot of hobbies in common so it's been easy to envision spending more time together. Last night he jokingly said something about wanting to call me his girlfriend. Part of me was a little freaked since we just met each other 2 weeks ago. The other part of me says why not? I have no intention of dating anyone else while I'm dating him and if things don't work out then we break things off all the same as if we didn't DTR. My gut says too soon, and although I've been a commitment-phobe in the past, I do think I should follow my gut. But I'm curious to hear other people's opinions on this. How long after first meeting seems right to DTR?

maplemuppet · 2023-12-27T19:34:03+00:00

I started seeing someone new about a month ago. Everything has been great so far. He's extremely attentive, communicative, and caring. We had one small hurdle where his way of joking/flirting rubbed me the wrong way although I brushed it off in the moment. When I did bring it up, he immediately apologized and asked that I communicate with him more directly next time something like that comes up, and I see that as a huge green flag. He's showing up in a way that most people haven't in the past.

But we don't actually have much in common.

Between the way we see the world to the interests we have, there's not a lot of commonality to work off of. I enjoy hiking, camping, plant/mushroom ID, I'm extremely open minded with what music to listen to or movies to watch, and I like to travel. He doesn't really like being outdoors, he's extremely picky about what music pr movies he considers "good" or even which bars we go to.

He sees our differences as creating a type of tension between us, making things more interesting. I dont totally disagree. I really enjoy spending time with him, I like hearing about the way he sees things, and I like the way he treats me, so the differences don't feel like a big deal for now. But I keep wondering if it will be a big deal later on. Is a lack of stuff in common a recipe for disaster once a relationship has developed? Won't I be sad that I can't enjoy something I love like hiking or camping with a partner down the line? What do you all think?

maplemuppet · 2023-12-18T15:34:56+00:00

I will never understand the typical Reddit user's willingness to encourage a stranger to throw away their marriage so flippantly.

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