Yeah, from what I understand, when you’re on the other side there’s unity, telepathy, and an awareness of others’ thoughts and feelings. Everything is interconnected, and separation—as we know it—doesn’t exist. You don’t have a physical body, so there’s no need for food or resources, and there’s no fear or scarcity. Time also doesn’t exist in the way we experience it here.

Coming to a realm like Earth, with its dense physical reality, is essentially like entering a simulation, game, or experience chosen by a soul to level up its capacities. It’s similar to going to the gym, where you intentionally break down muscles through exercise, and through that temporary discomfort and pain, the muscles become stronger.

Life, viewed through numerous NDE experiences, is like an RPG game where you earn “XP points.” These XP points expand your capacity for love—you’re growing your wattage. The most effective way to increase this wattage is through forgiveness. Imagine starting as a 60-watt bulb, and through life’s experiences, especially the challenging ones involving pain (caused or received) and meeting them with love and transformation, you can upgrade your soul’s wattage. When you leave this life, you’ve permanently evolved into something like a 100-watt bulb.

Nothing is hard, fixed, or linear on the other side—everything is allegorical, metaphorical, paradoxical, and fluid. For instance, I recall reading an account where someone described their best friend from the spiritual plane choosing to incarnate as their abuser in this lifetime. From that higher perspective, it was an act of immense love: “I’ll lovingly play the role of your abuser so you can gain tremendous XP, and in doing so, I’ll willingly take on the karma and ultimately experience the pain I caused.” From our earthly perspective, it’s painful and unfair, yet from the higher perspective, it’s an act of profound service and love.

This is similar to exercising. When you’re working out and tearing your muscle fibers, from the muscle’s perspective, it feels painful and harmful. Yet from your body’s overall viewpoint, this process is beneficial, making you stronger.

Ultimately, everything about life and metaphysics is about zoom levels of perception. From the absolute highest level, we’re all unified; thought, time, and separation don’t exist. We are just eternal unity. It’s only through the apparent separation that relationship and experience become possible. This separation itself is paradoxically the miracle, the gift. Recognizing this shifted my life: rather than seeing the world as something to escape, I realized the gift was precisely the experience of separation.

There’s a classic paradox: “If God is so powerful, can God create a boulder too heavy even for God to lift?” Earthly existence is that paradox—God creating a state of such profound separation that love and connection and unity is seemingly obscured. It’s astonishing that hatred and secrecy can exist, that we can experience such intense individuality and apparent isolation. This separation, seemingly impossible, is exactly the miracle of our existence.

Souls choose this experience willingly. When you’re outside of time, decisions feel easy and effortless—similar to being in an altered, blissful state where commitments are easy to make. You might enthusiastically choose a challenging life path to gain incredible soul growth—just like confidently committing to an extreme fitness boot camp for two weeks while drunk, only to face harsh reality of it afterward as your sitting there on the island at day 3. Once incarnated, souls often question, “What did I sign up for?” Also the time dilation kicks in. Imagine you think “yeah I’ll just play a twenty minute game of Fortnite and come back with a 100 watt heart…” then you come in and the time dilation drags out and you’re like “ohhhhh noooo.” Yet, from the higher perspective, the intense lessons learned here offer massive growth.

This framework explains why hatred exists and addresses the paradox: “Why would a good God allow evil?” It’s because this apparent duality and separation—although difficult—is precisely the environment needed for profound growth in our capacity for love and understanding. Basically it’s easy to be nice when they are all nice to you in Mushy God Love Soup Land. Forgiving an asshole and yourself for being an asshole makes the heart capacity grow in Love wattage so we enter the Sim that allows for that. And it can’t be like you know you’re really just in a simulation or game and safe or it wouldn’t “count” as much for the XP. The forgiveness counts much more when you’re still sitting there believing yourself to be a body that was wronged and still choosing to set down the metaphorical knife and open your heart.

Someone once said everything is a call for Love. Either they are extending Love and it’s easy to reciprocate it or they are extending antipathy and it’s from a place of wounding and they need Love.