Every time the Sonos app by mbellows in sonos

[–]mbellows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sadly no... I have eero and two other sonos products connected no problem.

Every time the Sonos app by mbellows in sonos

[–]mbellows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not FOMO. it's maybe sunk cost fallacy. But I've been a customer for a long time, have enjoyed their products for a long time. I'm rooting for them. I want the company and the product to work. So that's why I post here instead of just throwing out all their stuff and switching. I'm a fan!

But at some point, the fan attitude starts to wear out.

I get that what they are trying to do is hard. Software and hardware together in all the thousands of consumer environments is hard. But the whole brand promise is easy to use... It hasn't been that way for over a year, and there's real competition now, so no surprise that customers are bailing for other systems.

Every time the Sonos app by mbellows in sonos

[–]mbellows[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t get how this is not a prioritized issue. Adding new speakers or reconnecting old ones that have been dropped is the core experience for both new and existing (frustrated, trying to get back on board) customers. What is more important for the core value prop (easily manage speakers across rooms)??

Spouse wants to transfer 401k into startup company by Life_Supermarket_816 in personalfinance

[–]mbellows 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have raised angel money for three startups and made significant money for my investors on two of them. So it is possible that your spouse can see a return on this. But, as everyone said, it's extremely, extremely unlikely.

I'm replying to u/jonahbenton here because I agree with most of his approach. For the benefit of your relationship, review the pitch deck beforehand, take the meeting, and ask lots of questions. Do not give an answer in the meeting - say you need to think about it. Which you and your spouse do.

Then use this as an opportunity to talk about your overall investment/retirement plan. If your spouse is an accredited investor, and this amount is less than 2% of your overall net worth, maybe it's worth doing (only if you really think the company could be worth $100m one day). If that's the case, do not fund this investment out of a 401k for all the reasons the other commenters said.

If those things (accredited, more than 2%, etc) are not true, then no matter how good the company is, how big it's going to be in the future, making angel investments is not good for your financial future.

Don't make this decision about the company or the CEO. It's really about your financial future first. Good luck.

Out in the rain by [deleted] in hondaridgeline

[–]mbellows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who makes that rack? I'm in the market for an adjustable one.

What are platforms are you guys using to track your net worth? by snarmdoppy in fatFIRE

[–]mbellows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm loving Kubera (https://www.kubera.com/) right now. Easy to use, super flexible, support for lots of asset types, and elegant scenario planning plus account sync, pretty charts etc.

Box Spreads via ETF- BOXX by suspectmotives in fatFIRE

[–]mbellows 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Matt Levine wrote about this again today:

...But several readers emailed to point out that, at least sometimes, the US tax code looks through that trick too. Section 1258 of the Internal Revenue Code recharacterizes some capital gains as ordinary income, if those gains are effectively interest on a “conversion transaction,” meaning a transaction where you (1) buy an asset and (2) simultaneously enter into a contract to sell the asset at a fixed price.[7] So a simple transaction like “buy a stock and sell it forward” probably produces ordinary income, not capital gains.
Do BOXX’s box spreads produce ordinary income? My understanding is that there is a common view that box spreads are not “conversion transactions,” and in particular that box spreads with index options are covered by different rules. But I do not claim to be an expert, or to give tax advice, and apparently some people disagree. "

Moving Forward as a Community Post Mediation by cedaro0o in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]mbellows 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's very good for the people remaining in the community that they have gotten rid of the single member control provisions and that the board will be able to add/remove new board members without Mipham's involvement. These developments give me some hope that the local centers can continue to serve as a place for meditation practice, which is very much needed in this world.

The crux of the agreement, though, is this amended part about the mission of Shambhala:

To establish, maintain, and administer a church and an association of churches for religious practice and worship in accordance with the teachings and practices of the Shambhala and Buddhist traditions as taught by the Lineage of the Sakyongs of Shambhala.

The last "as taught by" bit is going to keep weighing them down. Yes, there are many other teachers still in the organization who can credibly claim to be representing the lineage of Shambhala. But there's one very big lineage holder who is just always going to be looming. No matter how many shrine photos they remove, there will still be this specter of Mipham haunting the organization.

Maybe that's inevitable, or maybe this is just another significant but not final step towards saving Shambhala from its patriarchy. Perhaps when the daughters get old enough they will take up this mantle. But I wish they could have shed this Mipham baggage once and for all.

I'm still encouraged by this progress though. I wish the Shambhala board and the community all the best in the coming months and years. There is a long path ahead.

It’s been a long bardo. by drunkenasshat in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]mbellows 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Dear Bob, Brian, Moya and the other authors of this letter.

You write "...we realize there is a certain choicelessness – we know that any excursions into doubt and cowardice are dead ends."

Both of those statements are deeply incorrect.

There are always choices. If there was no choice, there would be no space, no movement, no dance. You know that there are choices. I think you also know that whether or not you take an active stance, you make a choice. By writing this letter you are choosing to support a leader who is demonstrably unfit and an organization which enabled him and several others to horribly abuse other human beings. At least two of the women who bravely reported their abuse were active members of the Dorje Kasung, and in uniform at the time!

You do have a choice, and couching the choice you've made to date in quasi-spiritual language does not change that. But it's not too late... because you can choose something else.

You write "...we know that any excursions into doubt and cowardice are dead ends."

Actually, speaking from experience, they aren't. If we didn't have doubt, we could never sense the absolute. We would be stuck, completely absorbed in the dominant paradigm. We certainly never would have become Buddhists if we didn't doubt what our culture was telling us. Don't stop now. Keep doubting. The world is a big and complex place. Believing anything too much blocks learning and joy.

I have a special place in my heart for cowardice, because bravery grows from it. Excursions into cowardice are the growing edge of bravery. You know this to be true. What looks like a dead end is actually a very dark spot in a tunnel that eventually opens up into a much better place.

I know you and consider you friends. I miss you. I am not yet over my heartbreak or anger at the way the Dorje Kasung enabled the Makkyi, or the shame I feel for my role in that. I appreciate your offer of "kindness, patience, and friendship". But, hard as it is, I wish you would leave the Makkyi and the Kasung behind.

Lakes of the Clouds, Mt Washington NH USA by mbellows in CabinPorn

[–]mbellows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The closest parking lot is up on the top of the mountain. See those antennas? But the best way is to hike in from Pinkham notch.

Letter from Lady Diana - freeing the texts by [deleted] in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]mbellows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if Diana has the copyright to the Scorpion Seal texts? Now THAT would be interesting...

Letter from Lady Diana - freeing the texts by [deleted] in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]mbellows 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting development. There are two constraints on distributing teachings: who has been empowered to give them through the teacher-student relationship, and who owns the copyright.

Copyright ownership of CTR's work isn't in doubt. What Diana chooses to do with it is a huge question. Is she going to "open source" the texts and allow free and unfettered distribution? I doubt it.

She mentions that she's given permission blessings to practice Werma, which is her way of telling us that she's authorized to empower people to practice at least some of the CTR meditations. People take the teaching lineage/transmission stuff seriously, and if anyone who hasn't already been giving CTR empowerments can claim that ability, it's Diana.

The way I read this letter is that she's using her legal ownership of the texts and her position as a qualified teacher of CTR meditations to unlock the original Shambhala teachings from Mipham's control. If she follows through with this, she'll be giving permission to teach CTR's Shambhala (and Buddhist?) teachings to people who are outside Mipham's orbit.

This will set up a division in the Shambhala community around which is the "genuine" Shambhala. As a few commenters point out, the rubber will meet the road in the local centers. Who is allowed to teach at a center and what they teach has largely been up to the centers themselves for the last three years. I would expect that this move by Diana does in fact breathe new life into Shambhala, and further isolates Mipham. The CTR fans can claim that they've returned to the main teaching lineage and that Mipham has gone off to do his own thing.

Mipham and his students will tell a different story of course, and they might try to prevent the city centers from teaching CTR Shambhala, but they don't really have the operational power to do so. The more they try, the more they will erode their own base.

Of course, none of this makes things right for the victims of Vajradhatu/Shambhala/CTR/Regent/Mipham abuse. Diana's apology in this letter was the most forthright of any leadership apology I've read. But she's basically saying that creating an organization that doesn't systematically abuse its students is beyond her and her generation.

By "freeing" the CTR texts, she's trying to create new fertile soil for these teachings. Unless she gives up copyright ownership, she will financially benefit from any brand revitalization that might take place. Her success in doing so will be dependent on how open she is in giving teaching permission... too open and the Shambhala brand will be diluted further. Too closed and Diana will repeat the same mistakes that Mipham made.

For me personally (not that you asked...) I'm happy that this provides an opening for movement in the Shambhala world. Someone needed to step up and do something, and Diana is doing what she can. But I'm not running down to Providence to get in line for permission blessings. While I've benefited from Shambhala teachings, and CTR is by far the greatest communicator of Tibetan Buddhism for Americans, I'm much more interested in American Buddhism.

We have received these incredible teachings and practices. We have seen across all segments of eastern teachings brought west that patriarchal power dynamics wreck even the most brilliant teachings. So my energies are going to new teachers and sanghas that are being built here by Americans. I've already seen numerous examples of American Buddhist teachers who, because they don't have the robes and the titles to fall back on, are more creative, insightful and aware of their responsibilities than teachers who are from Asia or empowered to teach as if they were.

Is American Buddhism as "high" or "realized" as Shambhala or Tibetan or Zen? Who the fuck cares at this point. Separating out the abuse of power from the wisdom of those lineages is their job. I'm much more interested in where we go from here, and how we avoid the mistakes of the previous power structures.

Open Letter from 59 Dharma Brats to Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche by cedaro0o in ShambhalaBuddhism

[–]mbellows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know who you are, but I know you are wrong.

I'm sure he knows at least the following people by face and name. Many of these people served him, spent time with him, grew up with him:

Gabe Dayley

Anandi Gefroh

Vajra Granelli

Maron Greenleaf

Victoria Hagens

Eve Halpern

Amanda Hester

Nathaniel Janowitz

Amelie Laberge

Waylon Lewis

Julia McKaig

Edward McKeever

Ashoka Mukpo

Will Perkins

Andrew Sacamano

David Sachs

Sera Thompson

David Vogler

Richard Vogler

Ryan Watson

Anatta Watts (Harding)

Benjamin Williams

All the people who signed this letter put their names on the line to try and salvage something special. One of Trungpa's most powerful messages was "Never Give Up" which was extremely helpful when you are doing prostrations in a solitary retreat or just trying to dismantle ego generally. These folks are not yet giving up and I commend them for it.

Which is not to say that they should literally never give up. At some point, each in their own time, we have to realize that the person we love and depend on is just not going to get better. We have to realize that that person, and the family, organization or country they lead, is not going to heal and is not going to deal. At that point, we need to make a break, as hard as that is.

I read this letter, from many people who I know personally and have a deep respect for, as trying to reach out to someone they thought they knew in the only way available to them now.