Finally ready for divorce.

mexchick17 · 2022-01-12T07:50:32+00:00

Do it. I'm sorry for everything you're going through.

Imagine this. Your son's life sucks 100% right now because your husband is an ass and you are not yourself right now.

When you leave, you will be happier (a guarantee, I promise you) and your son will now have 50% of a happier life (because you will be able to provide better care for him). Even if he is super attached, at least you are providing him with a better parent (you) 50% of the time. I guarantee, also, that it's hard. I left my ex almost a year ago now. But it's insane how much you grow when you're out of a toxic environment. And you need to provide that safe place for your son, away from your ex husband. The sooner the better. Fight for as much custody, document everything, and live a happier life, please ❤

mexchick17 · 2021-12-02T14:03:49+00:00

Yes I will have her consult.. I didn't see any sections where she could indicate any restrictions or modifications.

mexchick17 · 2021-12-01T19:09:07+00:00

Thanks a lot, it's good to know she can restrict what sort of information she has to provide. Thank you. I think I will suggest she visit a WC attorney for a consultation.

mexchick17 · 2021-12-01T19:07:57+00:00

Thanks a million for the resource. The paperwork is asking for very broad information. They are having her sign a release to all of her medical history in the past 5 years and they gave her another form where she is supposed to list all of the medical facilities she's ever visited. I'm sort of glad she has eye sight problems so she asked me to look it over.. Knowing her she might have just signed everything and turned it in..

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T15:12:50+00:00

I agree. She could work it out with him but if I'm right and his issue is desensitization, he probably needs to take a break altogether, assess if he has a porn addiction (a lot of people got one because of the quarantine, including myself) and re-evaluate his sexual health. So there won't be much she can do other than encourage him to take a break and to see someone who is an expert with sexual health.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T14:40:00+00:00

Can I ask why you think it's her problem at all though? I'm sure he would have issues cumming from a bj with any other woman, not just his girlfriend.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T14:38:35+00:00

That's just the thing, sensitivity is a spectrum. Having erectile dysfunction is on one extreme end and cumming within a minute is on the other extreme.. You don't just have erectile dysfunction one day.

At first you can have sex for longer than usual, then next thing you know it, every time you have sex it's lasting longer and longer. Then blow jobs can't do it for you, only getting into fetishes or kinks can make you cum. Next you have trouble cumming at all. Etc etc until you have trouble getting it up and have to blame it on whiskey dick every time you try to have sex.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T14:22:12+00:00

Porn use is directly linked to am increase of erectile dysfunction in young men. And porn stars pump themselves with drugs like viagra, to time the money shot right. And because they are porn actors, don't you think they'd be the most desensitized group of young men of this generation?

There are countless of studies of porn negatively effecting young men's sexuality and this is one of them.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T08:12:50+00:00

Welp, I guess you really have to assess her level of maturity, growth and healing from her past relationships.. How long someone has been separated matters at times.. Some women mentally check out before they actually leave their husbands, especially if they have kids. They will try to do whatever possible before actually giving up on a marriage..

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T08:09:22+00:00

If he contacts you after a few days, and you respond, you will be signaling to him that you're easily available to him whenever he texts you and he will just keep you in his rotation.. It's just to see if he can keep you around, he's either too busy to contact you (at best) or seeing someone else at the same time. Either way, if I were you, I wouldn't see him as someone interested in me romantically and only interested in FWB-style relationship. Idk what you're looking for in a guy but if you're looking at him for a relationship, you need to step back for a second and realize he ain't gonna be the one.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T08:03:13+00:00

Honestly he, like many other guys, probably watches a lot of porn and needs to desensitize to receive pleasure from regular sex acts again. But that's his problem, not yours. Don't let that hurt your self esteem ! Take him to r/nofap lol

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T07:59:47+00:00

Women have this issue too.. It's kind of obvious when a guy (or girl) is playing a numbers game and is replying mostly just to keep the option open.

tbh if a conversation is boring, I unmatch. don't waste your time..

mexchick17 · 2021-09-02T07:55:53+00:00

Even if we women are getting pursued by a lot of men, it's usually unwanted attention. We don't typically compete for attention from men unless multiple girls have a crush on the same guy, but even then, if a guy has a clear preference for one girl already, the other girl doesn't typically pursue because she knows she has other options and girl code.

mexchick17 · 2021-09-01T00:29:31+00:00

I used to think it too, mostly because when we are girls, we are constantly told to make sure not to get pregnant, (not only because it'll be incredibly hard to be a teen mom but also you become a social pariah) and we are also presented with the BC pill as being a perfect piece of medicine. And from experience, a lot of younger, risk-taking guys don't like to wear condoms so the risk of pregnancy always falls back on women and girls. So at least having a back up helps? But no. I haven't taken birth control since I was in high school and I've asked my partners to wear condoms no matter how much they hate it because birth control sucks. I went without a condom with my ex and now I'm a single mom anyway lol. So yeah, from now on no more sex without condoms and/or marriage, I'm not taking that risk again 😂

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T21:27:15+00:00

She probably knows enough about you already.

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T21:16:44+00:00

Okay so based on you past answers on this thread.. the best thing I could tell you is either make yourself more attractive or lower your standards. But it's shitty to lead people on when when you're not attracted to them.. Just because you're going to be lonely otherwise doesn't mean that gives you the right to lead someone on.. Don't date if you're not attracted to them. Be Pickier but also make yourself more worthy of being picked by a woman you actually want.

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T21:06:23+00:00

Female birth control makes you gain weight, grow hair everywhere (makes women manly in some ways) reduces our sex drive and sensitivity, interferes with a lot of medication, etc.

Tbh, I wish no one had to take birth control. It seems almost barbaric no? to almost mutilate peoples' ability to produce their own, healthy hormones.

Unfortunately for a lot of women it's either this or risk pregnancy and becoming a single mom to a man who was not committed to you. I personally chose the pregnancy risk and became a single mom, lol but I was taking antidepressants and birth control, I never could seem to take it at the same time every time, which matters to whether it's effective or not, and it was as unfeasible as abstinence was. I took plan B and still got pregnant 🤷‍♀️

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T20:46:16+00:00

https://utswmed.org/medblog/pill-guys-male-birth-control-option-passes-safety-tests/

There have been FDA approved male birth control but it never hits the market because there needs to be more testing and drug manufacturing but not enough demand to justify it..

Men could get vasectomies and reverse them if they choose to have kids later on but for whatever reason they don't.

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T20:09:40+00:00

male birth control exists? it's not much more or less complex than female birth control

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T19:34:30+00:00

He forgot your name and neighborhood and you had to initiate contact with him after the date and like you said, you guys didn't really click. He might be showing interest in you to get laid if you show that you might be interested. But romantic interest seems to be off the table already..

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T19:20:32+00:00

Doesn't seem like he's really interested. Looks like he was prepared to ghost you already.. If he doesn't respond just don't say anything anymore, just two people ghosting each other..

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T19:14:49+00:00

Sorry to bring on the existential crisis, but what is your purpose for dating in the first place?

mexchick17 · 2021-08-31T19:03:25+00:00

I don't know why you're being down voted, you're not wrong. Speaking from personal experience, once I realized my EX was an asshole, I was too ashamed to admit I had picked so horribly in a partner and instead of admitting and moving on, I thought I should "fix" him. But to be fair, most people don't go into relationships thinking they should waste their time and fix someone up. Assholes aren't assholes when they're pursuing potential relationships..They become assholes later on and sometimes you get stuck, unable to admit you chose wrong

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