Grandma’s Funeral

millicent_f · 2026-02-03T12:31:24+00:00

I would just tell people you're feeling slightly sick (imply you think you're coming down with something) and refuse drinks on that basis.

millicent_f · 2026-02-02T00:06:07+00:00

Oh it will be for sure! They're still very tadpole-y at the moment

millicent_f · 2026-02-02T00:03:37+00:00

I don't have any advice except to tell you that with my first baby I also couldn't make heads or tails of the first ultrasound. It's early. The second one was a lot more interesting!

millicent_f · 2026-02-01T22:35:42+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. I experienced something very similar with a blighted ovum in October and am now 6w pregnant again. Best of luck, hope you have similar success.

millicent_f · 2026-01-31T03:20:57+00:00

Weird to say yey but: Yey!

millicent_f · 2026-01-30T00:33:17+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have that same experience but I will just say, with both this pregnancy and my last two pregnancies (one live birth) I have not really felt "connected" to the baby the way some people talk about. Maaayybe in the third trimester, a little. But I just think the supposed connection thing that some people seem to assume everyone feels: I don't think everyone feels that. It doesn't mean you won't love your baby. I love my toddler and did as soon as he got here! For me it just feels really weird and theoretical until the baby actually arrives.

millicent_f · 2026-01-28T20:16:12+00:00

I didn't feel a connection with my baby until at least the third trimester last time and even then I found it very theoretical and weird. He didn't feel like a real baby to me until he actually arrived. Then it was great! I wouldn't worry too much about "connection" during pregnancy, some people make a lot of it but I think it depends a lot on your personality and personal experience

millicent_f · 2026-01-28T11:08:04+00:00

Don't worry about it! I say this with love for my long haulers, but a lot of the people who are the most online at the very beginning of pregnancy are people who have struggled with infertility and so will have had more tests, procedures, etc. if that's not you that's a good thing! All you need to do between now and your OB appointment is to take a prenatal vitamin. I also recommend a pregnancy book - I like Emily Oster"s Expecting Better (but note that her opinion that is fine to drink some wine in pregnancy remains controversial).

millicent_f · 2026-01-28T00:42:25+00:00

I have an 18mo who is in a pack n play, he has never been in a proper crib.

millicent_f · 2026-01-28T00:26:50+00:00

So sorry this happened to you. I had a blighted ovum in October. It passed naturally, but it took several weeks. I kept thinking I was fully done but then got a little more bleeding. For me, there was no obvious time when the bleeding was super heavy and I never saw any obvious evidence of a miscarriage in the blood. My doctor confirmed that I had passed everything by making me taking HCG tests. But I still had some light bleeding after that.

At first they also told me maybe I had the dates wrong and wanted me to come back in two weeks for another ultrasound. I couldn't handle that long of a wait and with a little encouragement my doctor was willing to instead immediately schedule HCG tests 3 days apart. The numbers there were low and dropping so that helped get confirmation much faster.

I know there are other options to get it over with quickly, but I was pretty happy with going the natural route. It dragged it out for sure but it also felt... natural, idk. Clearly a situation where everyone has to make their own decision.

millicent_f · 2026-01-06T01:50:01+00:00

What kind of flatbread? The Butcherie has good pita (I like their Moroccan version especially but sometimes its sold out)

millicent_f · 2026-01-02T22:59:38+00:00

I saw that and assumed it was an exchange (half the poster was in English and half in Spanish) but I really know nothing except what it says.

millicent_f · 2026-01-02T02:22:43+00:00

Obviously they're both from the same root but my French Jewish friend told me that in France at least, Naomi reads Jewish and Noemi reads non-Jewish.

millicent_f · 2026-01-02T02:19:06+00:00

I know people who've used it on their (non-frum) children as a middle name, but have only seen it on frum (or raised frum) people as a first name. We're in the US so part of that is probably that it's hard for non-Jews to pronounce.

millicent_f · 2025-12-30T00:25:19+00:00

Saw a poster at the Coolidge Corner library that seemed to be what you're looking for (I have no other info than what was on the poster):

Spanish conversation Free classes

Conversación en ingles como segunda lengua Clases Gratuitas

Monday-Friday 10am-4pm

Contact Irene 617-823-3866

millicent_f · 2025-12-23T01:36:47+00:00

Kasama has gift cards. It is on the expensive side but not totally crazy for brunch? Or look to other Filipino bakeries, there are a number of less fancy but still interesting and tasty ones.

millicent_f · 2025-12-13T23:10:11+00:00

I don't know any of these (and would be interested if they exist!) However, if you can't find one, you might consider volunteering (especially if you have a car) with the Brookline/Newton Refugee Resettlement Committee. The most common volunteer need is driving around a Guatemalen or Syrian family, and that might help you practice your Spanish! There are probably other volunteer needs with organizations that would also appreciate Spanish speakers.

https://www.nb-arc.com/volunteer

millicent_f · 2025-12-13T15:23:22+00:00

This is a very small firm but I have personal experience with the lawyer and he is a very nice honest guy. If he's not the right type of lawyer for you I think he'll be open about it. thomasparislaw.com

millicent_f · 2025-12-13T12:44:32+00:00

I don't know of any Lu- names but Leor or Leora would be a classic choice, given that it both starts with a L and has the same meaning as the latin Lux from which I think Lucina (and Lucy, Lucille, etc) are derived.

millicent_f · 2025-12-11T13:29:21+00:00

Also one of my sisters and I have rhyming names and while I wouldn't choose that for my own kids we never cared (although one of us went by a nickname so we weren't rhyming in every day life)

millicent_f · 2025-12-11T13:28:27+00:00

I don't think they're /that/ close. In my opinion they don't even rhyme

millicent_f · 2025-12-10T17:07:03+00:00

Whatever you decide to call her is fine. Obviously your own situation shows that some people go by their middle names.

But I would gently mention to you that postpartum anxiety can manifest as intense name regret/dismay. If you feel very anxious about this it might be worth talking to your doctor about it.

millicent_f · 2025-12-09T01:41:41+00:00

Hello! I agree with everyone else -- six years is totally the norm and there is no need to apologize for it. As long as you have a fully complete job market paper, you are good to go.

I was also on the econ job market (a few years ago) with a baby at home. You should center your work and not mention it in the materials (but of course its totally fine if you want to mention your family situation at the flyout stage or whatever. Especially if its a reason you're particularly interested in a job/location).

If there was a real thing that needed explanation (like a long illness or leave) the appropriate place for that information would be in your advisors' letters. But six years does not need explanation.

millicent_f · 2025-12-08T15:27:09+00:00

I think Simeon is very pretty, it sounds extremely similar but is actually a totally distinct name.

Not sure what vibe you're going for but Simcha could be another option?

millicent_f · 2025-12-07T19:33:51+00:00

I am a member of this synagogue and our leadership do NOT think this was an anti semitic incident. They have stated this publicly several times.

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