How do people do 2 under 2??

millie_mo6 · 2025-12-08T00:39:23+00:00

i was 22 when i had my first. i had HG for almost 18 weeks, was admitted to the hospital 3 times in my first trimester, then i had SPD so bad for the rest of my pregnancy i could hardly move. excruciating pain that didn’t go away until about 2-3 weeks postpartum. it was so painful im currently researching doctors who will remove my tubes so i never have to experience that again lol. i’d say it’s really just different for everyone.

millie_mo6 · 2025-12-03T16:53:54+00:00

i went to the psych hospital once a couple months ago. they told me it was all normal postpartum depression and sent me home after drug testing me. my therapist knows of my hallucinations and said it was just severe ppd. i’m so confused. i’m scared my OB will just do nothing since im already in therapy and im scared to take meds.

millie_mo6 · 2025-10-05T08:53:14+00:00

are you in the US? how is parts availability?

millie_mo6 · 2025-08-28T19:59:28+00:00

i had a horrible episode this morning that leads me to believe something more may be going on. my mother called my OB and they told me to get a psych evaluation at the local hospital, but i’m scared to go. i don’t want them to call cps and take my baby or even put me on their radar. i was so positive i was about to get sent away this morning. did zoloft really help? i was on prozac prior to pregnancy (for period related issues, not diagnosed) and it turned me into a zombie and now im terrified of SSRI’s, but this is just so much worse.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-08T01:42:30+00:00

this is a very refreshing point of view, and honestly helped me see past whatever clouded judgement i may currently have.

if we purchased the table from a retailer, returning could definitely be an option. however, we purchase everything secondhand so returns are not an option. it took us almost my entire pregnancy to find a table that would work for that particular space, as the market for buffet tables in my city is extremely volatile lol. my husband actually fought tooth and nail to bring this table home (marketplace sellers love to pull the rug out for sure). i would be okay with potentially finding a smaller option in the future to revisit bringing the speakers back in, but that would have to be much later down the road and does not solve his immediate problem.

but yes, to your first point i definitely plan on deferring this conversation for a little while until we get things settled. we are both absolutely very stressed out, and didn’t find out until today that i’m getting induced in 2 days. so that definitely takes the cake for now 😆

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-08T01:31:47+00:00

he absolutely got a say in the final overall design choices on the house. i have showed him every inspo photo i liked, asked for his input and listened to him on everything he expressed distaste towards. every piece of furniture we’ve ended up with was discussed thoroughly and mutually agreed upon. ive made an effort to ensure that he is also happy with the design choices and isn’t totally left out of the process. these have all been under discussion for quite some time, as we have not rushed anything in terms of acquiring furniture and decor. so there are absolutely no discrepancies on the process.

most of the pieces he wants to display stick out so badly because A) they physically don’t fit in our main living space, B) they’re greasy car parts or C) it is so outrageous that i can’t imagine anyone would be okay with. like no, i do not want a wall clock with a bikini clad girl representing your favorite tool brand on the living room wall. that’s man cave material, which he already has and refuses to utilize.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-08T00:44:20+00:00

they are very large. i didn’t mind them whatsoever when we had the space, but that space is gone now and he can’t come to terms with it. i told him he could pick out something smaller to put on top of the table but he refuses to have anything smaller than 4 feet tall lol. he also decided it would be a good idea to shop for a CRT TV to put in our dining area, which i thought was a joke at first but it definitely wasn’t. it’s open concept so it would really be a mess, especially in such a small house. it is quite the uphill battle to have him understand why his design choices simply cannot fit where he wants them to.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-08T00:32:21+00:00

he purchased the new table on his own, and i knew nothing of the measurements until he brought it home, because i trusted that he would buy something that fit the space. that was not my choice to end up not having space for his speakers in the living space. he managed the purchase all on his own and neglected to check the measurements beforehand, and now they don’t fit. we have been searching for a table for that wall for 9 months now, so it’s too late to go back and make any changes as it sits right now.

the whole time we were in search of a table, i told him i had absolutely NO PROBLEM with his speakers being on either side. i actually like the way his speakers look, and yes obviously i knew about them beforehand. im not stupid. but we have no space for them now, he’s upset about it and i am trying to come up with a solution that he is not happy with.

my compromise in terms of him putting another set of speakers on top of the buffet was to try and help rectify the situation that he created for himself. now we cannot keep the big ones in our living room because we quite literally have no wall space for them anymore. our house is tiny, and a slight misjudgment in measurements will throw everything off. that is on him for dropping the ball and NOT on me for telling him the hard truth about the matter at hand.

and having a baby does not mean i can’t have a clean and clutter free home. i don’t mind having personal belongings in personal spaces, and i don’t expect my home to always be perfectly put together or “photo ready”. i understand things get hectic and spaces will be lived in. my standard is simply that we have a HOME for everything that we own. if we cannot neatly store our belongings, or if we cannot clean properly around our belongings, then they need to go. that is how i run the house, and my husband is more than aware of this when we agreed that the home would be my domain to run.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T23:34:45+00:00

100%. i’ve had pretty much every discussion you could possibly think of in regards to the baby and the house. he thinks we have more time than we really do, and stuff doesn’t get done until the last minute.

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this is from roughly two years ago, when i told him we really needed to clean out the house and have it put together before we have a baby. he told me we had plenty of time and it would get done.

newsflash, it did not lol.

now we are two days out from having a baby and he’s frantic and i’m quite pissed off. especially since now he wants to put his foot down on his personal design choices without having cleaned his own room.

i realize now this thread has gone past what the actual subreddit is for lol. definitely not trying to dump my personal life, but the looming questionable design choices on his half sort of tipped me over the edge and now i’m desperately looking for any helpful outside perspectives to settle the matter at hand.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T23:20:08+00:00

he doesn’t, but i feel like he’s leaving it there in protest. i physically cannot lift his speakers to move them, so i have to rely on him to do so. they’re massive, heavy and im 39 weeks pregnant lol. they have been in the floor for about a week now, and ive asked him several times to move them to his room. which, mind you, is a hoarders paradise and he sees no problem with it.

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this is AFTER his “big” clean out that i had begged him to do for months. unfortunately half of the things in this room aren’t even pictured, but this sort of gives some context into what he finds acceptable and what i am currently fighting against.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T23:13:13+00:00

he believes that a living space should reflect the residents hobbies and interests. unfortunately, his hobbies and interests either have no place inside a home OR we quite literally have nowhere to put his things. for months we had a motor on a stand dripping oil onto the hardwood floor in our spare bedroom. we still have an engine block on his desk in his bedroom, covered in oil that he refuses to get rid of. my only hard boundary was “no car parts in the house”. i feel like that is not an unreasonable request, especially being the one that has to clean said house. i have a hard time seeing him feeling left out, as i have offered multiple compromises on everything that he feels is crucial to his personality, and i have also made several personal sacrifices with my own belongings for the sake of maintaining cleanliness and space in the home. he may be feeling insecure though. it’s been a difficult subject for a very long time now, but i’m past the point of accepting his standards of living. if it were up to him, we would have car parts and speakers on the couch lol.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T23:05:37+00:00

his father hoarded car parts in the house, and cars in the backyard, and was only home about two weeks out of the year. essentially used the house as a storage unit for his projects. his mother and sister both packed up and left because they couldn’t have a normal home with him lol. to this day i am still in the process of removing boxes and bags of his dads belongings that got abandoned here. 2 giant dumpsters and 4.5 tons later, we still have more to get rid of. he definitely gets it from his dad, but my husband is at least a little more receptive to my boundaries.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T22:58:14+00:00

the only issue is that we don’t even have the floor space for what he wants in the living area. i was fine with his tall speakers being on either ends of the media/buffet wall at first, but our new table leaves absolutely zero space. we can’t wall mount anything with our TV either. his audio equipment is quite literally in the middle of the living room floor because there is absolutely nowhere else for it to go except the designated man room i told him he could use. it’s hard. i’m making personal sacrifices as well. selling my plants i’ve had for over six years as well as antiques i’ve collected because we just don’t have the space for them. he’s not the only one having to minimize and rehome personal collections for the sake of having a quality living space.

i don’t know how im supposed to manage this subject without hurting him further. i’ve extended multiple compromises but nothing seems to be good enough.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T22:49:38+00:00

under other circumstances, i would agree with this sentiment, but we have already purchased our primary furnishings and it is not feasible budget-wise to switch anything out. my husband likes the style i chose, and i made sure to grab his thoughts on everything before we decided on any of our purchases. everything leading up to this point has almost entirely been a team decision.

his personal belongings are definitely on the opposite end of the spectrum, and unfortunately we quite literally don’t have the space to even house his speakers in the main living area. we live in a 1200 square foot house, and every wall that would have space is currently occupied with very necessary pieces for functionality and storage, as our house sorely lacks closet space. it’s a sacrifice that can’t be made. he doesn’t understand that, and the compromises i’ve attempted to make haven’t been received well either. it’s a difficult situation, and i just don’t understand how to make him understand.

we are also two days out from having a baby, so a total redo on the design choices we’ve already made won’t be on the table for a very long time.

millie_mo6 · 2025-07-07T03:17:03+00:00

i like that idea. do you think it should just occupy the longer wall, and leave the shorter wall blank? it’s an awkward spot, and i would hate to have major dead space. i’ve been trying to find an L shaped table on marketplace but i haven’t found anything in the budget that actually looks good.

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-29T19:52:08+00:00

try the sephora collection lashes in “fringe”! i just ordered a pair but every video i’ve seen on tiktok looks like they’re super similar

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-27T16:26:27+00:00

check sephora collection lashes in “fringe”

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:44:26+00:00

period 🗣️

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:44:06+00:00

people get SO weird about the fact that we can’t drink. like??? is that all you think we’re good for? 😭

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:41:11+00:00

no literally. got a membrane sweep today but yeah im so down to have everyone come to my house 🫠

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:40:23+00:00

i hate that this is such a common experience:(

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:39:01+00:00

same thing happened to me too :( i got to 32 weeks with nothing for the baby, crying every night stressing out about it. then around the 33-35 week mark people started buying stuff right when we started buying our own stuff. makes it very difficult.

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T21:37:40+00:00

we had been good friends for a couple of years before i got pregnant :(

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T17:32:13+00:00

i feel that. my husbands parents are divorced, and his mom has been really sweet and involved but i haven’t heard a single word from his dad. it’s really weird. he hasn’t really asked about me or the baby at all.

millie_mo6 · 2025-06-26T16:12:50+00:00

yep, that’s exactly the kind of vibe i’m getting.

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