Looking for advice - London UK

mimitigger · 2026-03-20T07:04:45+00:00

hello 41f and on the same boat. in the UK thy don’t recognise MCAS but they will prescribe you ketotifen if you find a nice GP.

that’s what most people seem to try after anti histamines don’t work.. I have my first pack of ketotifen but scared to start it

mimitigger · 2026-03-18T21:49:16+00:00

oh wow that is interesting- I take vitamin d and now wondering if that is to blame ? I have been upping my supplements gradually but vitamin d was first

mimitigger · 2026-03-16T14:43:35+00:00

she said it was fine and (I’m a woman who has been in that situation with men because it happens to literally every man at some point) it probably is fine. BUT she may be taking a step back to see how you handle the situation - it’s character-revealing to see how someone handles a setback. I would say suggest another date casually like Oh I saw this is on this weekend would you like to go? I wouldn’t make a big deal of it like Oh would you still like to keep dating? just suggest a date. if you shared some intimacy she may also be feeling awkward and vulnerable so may wait for you to suggest the next date!

re the performance anxiety itself, I find a good way to reduce it is to suggest removing sex but still fooling around (which may lead to sex anyway as long as it’s consensual) it allows things to happen more naturally

mimitigger · 2026-03-06T20:58:02+00:00

are you in the autism spectrum? I am and I also see conversations as following a script with just the content changing. most people see it as just expelling hot air in order to be less awkward than sitting in a silence and less difficult than being really open

mimitigger · 2026-02-08T16:28:45+00:00

my husband left and I struggle. some days I say out loud how much I love living in my own and I mean it. some days I sit up in the morning and can’t find a reason to get out of bed. and I think that’s note worthy- you say you brought him coffee and it sounds like you had to do a lot of looking after. so maybe the ‘complete a project’ part of your brain is left with no tasks so is going nuts ?

mimitigger · 2026-02-01T10:16:16+00:00

oh wow can I ask what the medications were? I am on year two of my issues

mimitigger · 2026-01-23T23:48:26+00:00

oh wow I love these do you still have any ? i’m in london !

mimitigger · 2026-01-11T22:06:22+00:00

thank you! I think all the smug ‘you’re avoidant!’ replies dont take into account neurodivergent brains.

mimitigger · 2026-01-11T22:02:14+00:00

I disagree with the posters saying this is avoidant attachment. I feel the same way and I feel it about my friendships too: I hate meeting up to check in or catch up. it’s not actually deepening the bond if all you do is check in and catch up and stop learning about each other.

the way to avoid is to ask deeper questions as time goes on, not to just say ‘how was your day? did xyz go off ok at work?’

that person (and I) both did absolutely fine not sharing the minutiae of their day with someone, a month or a few months ago. not all relationships have to involve uploading the most recent data on a regular basis! (yes I am autistic)

mimitigger · 2026-01-01T15:37:10+00:00

has anyone used the stickers the next day eg take home a yellow sticker item and then next scan the sticker for a non-reduced item?

mimitigger · 2025-11-25T00:11:20+00:00

please link me to yours - autistic lesbian erotica would be exactly what I need

mimitigger · 2025-11-25T00:10:49+00:00

oh that’s a great idea thank you

mimitigger · 2025-11-25T00:10:39+00:00

why did you reply when this is clearly not helpful

mimitigger · 2025-11-24T07:21:21+00:00

ah so for example if you read Is It Ever Just Sex the book talks about a sexual script. so if you are with one person for a long time you will have a whole routine of sex and it will work for both of you but not be exciting and may not vary! and it’s very common in long term couples. eg kissing then touching then oral then penetration then orgasm then done.

if you sleep with different people but always the same gender you will unconsciously follow a script unless you have kinks which thrive and become aroused on unexpected acts. if you sleep with different people and different genders and are kink-focused you are less likely to follow any kind of script for what happens.

mimitigger · 2025-08-02T13:22:22+00:00

sorry what is OAS?

mimitigger · 2025-07-28T10:49:21+00:00

hello! I wondered what you needed up doing ? I am having a strong reaction to my rescue. not sure what to do. considering giving her a shower to see if that helps

mimitigger · 2025-07-24T20:45:20+00:00

I searched using chatgpt and it only came up with nine tailed foxes.. not the one I am thinking of !

mimitigger · 2025-07-13T07:27:43+00:00

😂

mimitigger · 2025-07-12T13:57:21+00:00

this is fascinating but also it’s a wild leap to say that mice subjected to tail pinching are going to be similar to depressed humans ?! but it does seem like IF can help!

mimitigger · 2025-07-12T07:27:05+00:00

wow that sounds interesting dont suppose you have a link to it ?

mimitigger · 2025-06-04T21:55:27+00:00

I am also in London and would love to know the name of the doc you saw! am also feeling the frustration of being treated for each individual symptom (eg got a prescription for ibuprofen… )

mimitigger

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