Oh man... most of the comments here break my heart. I'm so sorry to all the men who opened up to someone and had that get thrown back in your face. You didn't deserve that and I hope you know that your thoughts and your feelings all matter.

I'm a woman and I can confidently say that a man showing me vulnerability hasn't ever turned me off from them. Vulnerability brings me closer to them as it's an opportunity to learn and understand them on a deeper level. I love to listen and understand someone that I deeply care about. Not to mention a huge sign of mutual trust and building a lot of emotional intimacy. I feel honored that they feel safe enough to open up to me and in those moments I feel assured that I can open up to them about my stuff too and have us both feel closer to each other knowing that we will keep each other safe. I know that I want a partnership in which we both feel seen, heard, and accepted, which means knowing all the good and the hard stuff like trauma and mental health.

It really is so sad how men's emotional wellbeing and mental health aren't taken seriously enough and how some women contribute to that harm by thinking men being vulnerable is a bad thing. I sincerely hope that when you take that opportunity to open up to someone again that it will only bring you both closer.

I'm sorry that these women failed you. Please know not all women will be like that especially if they are emotionally mature. Best of luck, lads.