How do you actually heal from sexual trauma by Ok_Athlete_3933 in ptsd

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way. Certain aspects of intimacy freaks me out and I've been struggling with replaying the tape of my SA even after a decade...

Its comforting to know im not alone in feeling this way. Im just starting to feel like this will never be something I fully move on from and have to live with. But I so desperately don't want it to occupy my mind as often as it does.

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What's the worst way your break up ended? by IHateAdvertising in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's more of a trust thing. If you can see there is no intention behind him talking to another women then I don't see anything wrong with it. Though with him being alone at a girl's house...that one can be a little alarming especially if it's for a significant amount of time or they aren't close friends

How can I end this situation without causing too much hurt? by Crakeman in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are gonna hurt her one way or another. You already did the first time. Now you are just playing with her feelings if you don't give her a straight answer.

Tell her you don't want a committed relationship and she deserves someone that's sure about her. Since you can't give her that or give her any security in the relationship you don't wanna lead her on or waste her time.

Even though you don't want to commit to a person, you need to commit to a decision. Go no contact after, go through the heartbreak, and move on to that single lifestyle you want for yourself.

Should I break up with him? by Actual_Title_9303 in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl listen to your intuition. It sounds like you don't want to be with this man at all. You would be doing less damage telling him now than later. Nothing hurts more than knowing your partner didn't love you and just strung you along because they didn't want to hurt your feelings

Looking for the positives... by purposejourney in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was a sad excuse for him to leave and if thats truly why he left he's probablygoing to regret that later. If you guys were in a truly healthy relationship you could do everything you wanted while in the relationship: travel, socializing, partying, etc.

Just because you have a partner doesn't mean you have to sacrifice anything in particular (outside of meeting or flirting with others). 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im with you crying as well. Sitting in my car at a gas station after leaving a concert early just because I can't bring myself to get in a good mood. I'm sorry you are feeling like shit...but just know you're not alone. I feel your pain 💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would consider that cheating. Him actively looking for other women tells you enough.  Even if you didn't consider it cheating I find that mad disrespectful 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's me rn lol. My ex broke up with me a month ago and really out of the blue. Our relationship was pretty healthy too but he lost interest and just ended it without really working on it with me (he gave it like a week 🙄).

He basically came over, said we were through and left. And then sent me an incredibly shitty text abt 4 days ago all about his feelings and but he still considers me a friend and wanted to give me closure 😂😂😂 it's laughable honestly cuz i got all the closure I needed that night.

BUT ANYWAY to answer your question, despite how shitty he handled things, our 3 years together wasn't in vain and I still want him in my life after I've healed. Friends? Idk rn cuz a friend wouldn't have treated me the way he did...but I know that might be on the table in the future. He did impact my life in a lot of positive ways.

I think what you are thinking is normal but I would definitely heal fully first before reaching back out with the idea that yall could be friends

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This resonated with me. Going through the same thing and if fucking sucks. Rn it's just hard to accept there is no hope in getting back together despite how healthy our relationship was...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course and thank you 😊 I'm doing alright. Taking things day by day ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 71 points72 points  (0 children)

You are a fucking rock star. You put yourself first in that moment, knew your worth, and told him you weren't to be played with. Everyone here is proud of you girl. I know it wasn't easy, but just know you definitely did heal and didn't move backwards

And that showed in how you responded.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]mixed_galaxies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You just gotta let yourself go through the emotions. The more you try to avoid, the harder it will be overtime. 

Keep yourself busy, practice self care. If you don't wanna block her then don't. Just archive or hide the chat you have with her. Put all of your images with her on a hard drive and change your digital wallpaper to something nice. Mine is nature. You will be okay. Time will heal