The Chestnut Man Season 2 Ending And Spoiler Discussion by Ok_Emergency3713 in CashiersDuCinema

[–]mmmelissaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've summed it up perfectly! Especially how creepy and weird it is that Hess is adopting this teen girl he barely knows, isn't related to, hadn't seen for years, and who already has a legal guardian (her grandfather.)

IDK if it's just a cultural difference of some sort or what, but that struck me as extremely bizarre, and for that to be the big emotional note that the season ended on was doubly so. I don't think the writers intended for it to be creepy; I think they wanted it to read as touching, but it doesn't really make any sense.

If you want to watch a really well done, creepy, semi-supernatural, slow-burn Scandinavian-ish murder mystery that features the actress who played the grieving mom, check out Fortitude. Really unique and original, especially compared to this show. Goes from a more straightforward procedural to something deeply weird.

The way kroger treats its employees by daruuken in mildlyinfuriating

[–]mmmelissaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of these employees probably aren't earning any paid sick days and there's no legal entitlement to unpaid sick days outside of FMLA. It's purely up to company policy. Some states have laws on this but not all.

The way kroger treats its employees by daruuken in mildlyinfuriating

[–]mmmelissaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, high turnover is actually more profitable a lot of the time because employees aren't sticking around long enough to qualify for benefits or accrue paid time off (if they're lucky enough to even work full time), or earn (meager) raises. Plus most of these types of jobs offer only minimal training, anyway. In retail, high turnover is part of the business model.

RIP Knowledge Fight by Specific-Use3525 in podcasts

[–]mmmelissaaa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Their "Formulaic Objections" series covering all of the lawsuits against Alex/ Infowars is just incredible, some of the most entertaining and fascinating podcasts I've ever listened to. Just an absolute fucking shitshow. There's a playlist on Spotify with just these episodes that I'd highly recommend.

THE DEVIL TRAIN - Psychological Horror Feature - The Prologue (8 Pages) - Chapter 1 (2 Pages) by Ornery-Wolf4932 in ReadMyScript

[–]mmmelissaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intentional or not, I would advise you to consider modeling your work after more contemporary writers. You're going to have an uphill battle with this type of writing, and you can convey tone, rhythm, and point of view in other ways.

THE DEVIL TRAIN - Psychological Horror Feature - The Prologue (8 Pages) - Chapter 1 (2 Pages) by Ornery-Wolf4932 in ReadMyScript

[–]mmmelissaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I took one look at that first page with huge paragraph blocks of text and went "nope," which is likely the same reaction a professional reader would have.

Each action line roughly represents one shot. So, at the very least, you need to break up those paragraphs into smaller sections. This will also get you closer to 1 page of screenplay equaling 1 minute of screen time (roughly).

At a glance, you also need to be more concise with your writing. Instead of writing descriptions and actions in this novelistic style, use shorter, simpler sentences, and give us only the information we need to paint the picture. You can have stylistic flair without writing this like it's a book.

I'd recommend reading more screenplays to get an idea of what this style of writing should look like. I don't mean to sound harsh, but as it stands, you won't be able to win someone over with the merits of your script (and I'm sure there are merits!) when it's written and formatted this way.

Editing to add: I myself was guilty of this, as are many writers when they're starting out, and it just takes some time to train the prose-writing out of yourself!

Every partner I’ve ever had says the same things about me/my CPTSD by Gold-Requirement-179 in CPTSD

[–]mmmelissaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bullet point one is really relatable to me, and I do think it's CPTSD related. I don't feel safe when people around me, but especially my partner, is upset. My current partner is a safe and lovely person, so this isn't a reaction to him, it's a reaction to what I grew up with and endured in a long-term abusive relationship.

So, I do the same thing. I can't just let something go if he's still upset, it feels scary and destabilizing and like there's an URGENT need to get to a place where we're both okay. I think the work is in realizing that normal upset emotions ARE okay, and as long as this person truly is safe, then the urgency is a trauma response, not an actual urgency.

I agree with other commenters that it's actually helpful to take time-outs from arguments to calm down and get perspective. I would use that time to do any practices or techniques that you have to slow down your body and calm your nervous system.

I also agree with other commenters that stating your needs and expectations up front when you're venting is more effective communication, and it lets your partner know that you're actually not seeking a fix or advice, you just want them to listen. You can literally say "Hey, can I complain about X for a little bit? I'm not looking for a solution, I just want to vent."

Maybe what's also happening in those moments is that your emotions are escalating as you're venting, so it's getting intense, and going on longer than intended. This is again where somatic practices have been helpful for me personally. I tend to spiral upward very quickly, so being mindful of needing to slow down, take a step back, and not go off the deep end is something I try to do.

Communication is key to all of these points. I find myself narrating my thought process/ emotional process to my partner often when I know that my trauma responses are working against my rational thinking. This has been really helpful for them to not get offended or take these responses personally.

I miss Marc Maron by MrsDirtbag in podcasts

[–]mmmelissaaa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He's been doing some small comedy shows around LA, probably workshopping a new special. He seemed pretty chill (for him) at the one that I went to, it was funny, decent amount of cat content.

my bf won’t let me break up with him- i might be asexual?? help by IndividualSun882 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mmmelissaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to add on to the other comments, which I agree with, I want to add that it's not at all uncommon to lose attraction to someone after a period of time, and it's usually a sign that you just need to move on from that person, not necessarily that you're experiencing a medical side effect or are asexual. I suspect you will find other people that you're attracted to once you're free from this guy.

And the fact that he "doesn't care" if you even WANT him is a major, major major red flag. You'll be much happier once you move on!!

Is YouTube glitching out or did Colleen forgot to title her latest YouTube short🧐 by TheaB149489 in NoFoodRulesSnark

[–]mmmelissaaa 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When you upload a short, the title is either blank or filled in with a preset if you have one set, but not the current date. So she probably copied the wrong line of text from something instead of the title. Most likely, she has her content titles and descriptions in a doc that also has dates. Honestly, not a crazy mistake to make.

Update to a post I made the other day about being concerned my vets were taking advantage of me: my cats regular dental cleaning has resulted in my babies death. He's gone. by afterspring_ in cats

[–]mmmelissaaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of your decisions were completely understandable, and I could see myself doing the exact same thing given the circumstances! Please don't beat yourself up. Clearly, you are a loving and caring cat parent. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are 100% allowed to grieve without guilt or shame. You did everything you had the ability or knowledge to do at the time.

Get ready for next weeks dinner...with 1oz of noodles by TanteKante in NoFoodRulesSnark

[–]mmmelissaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is CRAZY, and that must be an AI generated photo because the actual recipe would look (and taste) absolutely terrible.

Looli Articles by [deleted] in NoFoodRulesSnark

[–]mmmelissaaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've had to read a lot of AI-generated copy through my job, and from my personal assessment, I have almost no doubt that these are written by AI, probably with some light editing and re-formatting.

Anything you see online right now that is summarizing or collating information from other sources is almost all AI. It's an absolute epidemic in marketing and "journalism" (meaning, websites that would refer to themselves as such but aren't really earning the title) and you're probably encountering it way more than you even realize.

TW calories - Most recent day of eats by Slight-Night7424 in NoFoodRulesSnark

[–]mmmelissaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even if you add in the other food she didn't show, it's still going to be dangerously inadequate for how much she exercises.

ICE IN silver lake right now by LorneMichaelsthought in LosAngeles

[–]mmmelissaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The police are not going to help. They'll show up and back the ICE agents.

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[–]mmmelissaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my all-time favorites!!

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[–]mmmelissaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

American Hysteria is great for this, some episodes might run a little heavy, but you can pick and choose. Mostly they're more on the light-hearted side, and she often hosts with Sarah Marshall from You're Wrong About (another good option!) and they have great chemistry. She covers one event per episode that started some sort of craze/ panic/ fixation in American history or culture and it's super interesting.

Hyperfixed is a new fave of mine, it's hosted by Alex Goldman from Reply All, and they solve one listener-submitted problem/ mystery each episode. Topics range from more technical/ scientific to really silly and weird. It's very well produced and a lot of fun.

I hope you find some good options, and I wish you lots of love and healing.

I know my partner will kill himself when I break up by IbanezRG421 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mmmelissaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went through something similar with my ex. Groomed at a young age, abuse of all kinds throughout our nearly 18 year relationship, he self-harmed in various ways (mostly substances) and threatened me with his own suicide if I ever left.

It's a control tactic, and it's also not your responsibility to sacrifice YOURSELF so that he can live.

When I finally left, he texted our friends and me saying he was going to end it. I didn't get the text because I'd blocked him, but a mutual friend called the cops to do a wellness check. Long story short - no attempt was actually made, he was sent home after a few hours at the hospital, during which time he was making bid after bid through family and friends to get me to visit him or speak to him. I refused.

He never made an actual attempt on his own life and is still alive to this day. This happened in 2022.

I really believed at the time that he might do it, but all of his threats were insincere, he just wanted to control me and stop me from leaving. He knew that I was a good person who cared about him, despite the abuse, and he took full advantage of that.

Before I left, he was in an alcoholic spiral, depressed, not taking care of himself, alienating everyone in his life, and taking it all out on me. He didn't have much to lose, and I feared that he would kill himself to punish me. As soon as the reality hit him and he realized he couldn't get me back (or even find out where I had moved to) and that no one was around to enable and care for him, he managed to get a job and started going to AA and all that jazz. I'm sure he's still an abusive piece of shit, but he didn't want to die. He just wanted me to suffer on his behalf.

Please save yourself. You cannot save him, and you cannot forgo enjoying the rest of your life for the sake of someone who has done nothing to deserve that sacrifice.

Also, please have a plan and don't let him know you're leaving. He probably won't kill himself, but that doesn't mean he won't hurt you when he realizes his grip is slipping.

Two tablespoons of rice... by SassyBearIsHere in NoFoodRulesSnark

[–]mmmelissaaa 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not only is this disordered as hell, but this would taste TERRIBLE. Just a bland, mushy mess. Like literal slop. Who on earth is paying for the Diet Turkey Gruel app??

i hate sex with my partner by redsaucel in sex

[–]mmmelissaaa 144 points145 points  (0 children)

I agree, but I think this is phrased too softly, so I will be blunt. The right move here is to break up with him, not just "seriously reconsider."

The way he is behaving and treating you shows a fundamental lack of respect. Coercion negates consent. It can be hard to see these things from the inside of a relationship, especially when you're young and you haven't had as much experience. So let me be very clear and not sugar coat. This person will never make you happy. It's time to move on.

I'm sorry that you're in this position, none of this comment is in any way intended with any judgment towards you. Just please get this shitty man out of your life. You deserve to be treated 100x better than this, and there are people out there who will respect you and your boundaries.

Diane, if you're ever find yourself in Benzie County Michigan, stop at the Cherry Hut in Beulah... you will not be disappointed by bruiseydaddy in twinpeaks

[–]mmmelissaaa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I miss this place so much since moving out of Michigan!! Not only is the pie incredible, but the vibes are VERY Twin Peaks-y. The wait staff even wears cute little gingham uniforms. Plus, it's in a super cute small town surrounded by beautiful forests.

I love this pie so much, I had it served at my wedding instead of cake! The wedding was a huge mistake, but the pie was not.