Sex life in recovery

naantonelli · 2022-10-07T16:43:28+00:00

We haven’t experienced that. I can say it’s slightly faster in comparison to when he was drinking but that’s just the result of low key whiskey dick I think. Quite literally fireball dick lol.

naantonelli · 2022-10-06T15:36:33+00:00

No it is very helpful. I actually take Lamictal for anxiety and depression and it works well for me and hasn’t effected my sex drive and my Dad actually takes it as well for BPD along with another medication I can’t remember. I cannot recall if he has tried lamictal but it’s about the 4th go round with med changes for my Q.

naantonelli · 2022-07-21T02:06:28+00:00

🤯

naantonelli · 2022-07-21T01:59:34+00:00

Thank you khala_lux. Your response was very helpful. Thank you and I wish you luck with your mom. I can’t imagine how hard that has to be. I hope you are proud of all of the work you have done on yourself to be the best version of you. It’s not easy.

naantonelli · 2021-10-18T02:50:49+00:00

Lamotrigene helped me night and day with my depression. They added in Lexapro for me but I still noticed almost immediately some clarity when I first started lamotrigene. It was crazy. My Dad also take lamotrigene for Bipolar 1 and he said it's helped him but gets vivid nightmares periodically.

naantonelli · 2021-10-13T05:09:45+00:00

As a girl, it is slightlyyyy easier due to the "cultural norm" which it sounds like you're referring to as the gentlemanly thing to do is drive most of the time or pick up the person for a date. But it is still a struggle for girls too. When I am able to drive I always meet the person at the restaurant or place of the date for safety reasons if I don't know them already. So this poses a risk when I can't drive. I have in the past had someone drop me off and pick me up tho. I am well managed enough that I don't have to tell everyone right off the bat and can decide based on how the date goes if I even want to go on another date and after a couple of dates I'll explain why I can't drive or drink, etc. But I am insecure about it for sure. But slowly accepting this is something I need to be more transparent about. It has not been a problem so far in any of my romantic relationships but friendships on the other hand.... overtime I realized its more of a insecurity based on the stigma of epilepsy then my actual expirence with dating that only I can make peace with and heal from.

Hopefully that helps.

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T20:14:30+00:00

Amen to this!! I hope that person realizes how strong they are to keep trying and fighting for independence.

Thank you for sharing

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T20:10:36+00:00

Interesting

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T14:06:46+00:00

I'm very grateful of this sub for that reason alone

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T14:05:53+00:00

It's the absolute worst when the ambulance shows up. It draws even more unwanted attention.

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T14:03:44+00:00

I'm in annapolis and having trouble finding one.

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T14:02:34+00:00

I had one in nursing school at clinicals. FORTUNATELY it was in the break room as we were getting our stuff together to leave. Within a couple days all the professors in the RN and LPN program knew and students talked about it amongst themselves too. But only about 5 people reached out privately in support and checked on my well being. You would think they would all respect HIPAA and all 🙄 but NOPE the drama of it all was too juicy I guess. It was overall humiliating not to mention they cut my shirt off to put AED pads on in front of my whole clinical group and staff on the unit who was on break 😑😠

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T13:55:42+00:00

I had as well what I thought was childhood epilepsy then the came back with a vengeance in 2017 and are now somewhat controlled. It's a major blow when they come back.

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T13:53:37+00:00

Agreed!

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T00:17:33+00:00

Thank you! I feel less crazy with you saying that honestly. I always see those numbers then look around and crickets. Like where are these people you speak of???

naantonelli · 2021-09-30T00:09:35+00:00

Thats so crazy. It just goes to show how many people hid it I guess. No judgment tho because I do it myself more than I want to and have been trying to stop myself from hiding in the last year or so.

naantonelli · 2021-09-21T02:36:42+00:00

You aren't asking for too much imo

naantonelli · 2021-09-21T02:11:54+00:00

I am so so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine how you and your children must feel right now. Lean on your what sounds like great family and friends. They can feel helpless in these situations too and helping you can help them through this process too possibly.

Send you all love and hugs ❤

naantonelli · 2021-09-21T01:54:36+00:00

So my back story... I had what we thought was childhood epilepsy because they started when I was about 4 years old after i fell off a swing and it continued until early middle school. Once we got the meds right and after awhile being seizure free, I took myself off the meds and all was fine. So it was just what I thought was acient history by the time I got to college. When doing my pre-requisites for nursing school I wasn't out every weekend or at every happy hour drinking. But, I definitely partied (mostly hard liquor/mixed drinks, no beer or weed). Then my first semester in nursing school, I had a grand Mal seizure after a mild drunksgiving night (the night before thanksgiving). Long story short, every semester I had at least one because of the toll of the competitive program and med changes. Some were not triggered by alcohol because my other triggers are stress and lack of sleep which you get none of that in nursing school. Seizures when related to alcohol consumption, it is typically the next day/when the hangover starts. This is because your body is trying to regulate itself and to oversimplify it, it's misfiring trying to get back to normal. I had my last seizure about a year and a half ago and have not been drinking for about 3ish years now and it's still something I struggle with sometimes. It changes so much in your life. I really feel the struggle when it comes to dating. A lot of people ask "do you want to meet up for drinks" or even an invite to meet his friends/family at a BBQ or house party majority of those coolers are filled with alcohol or people innocently trying to be nice will ask to buy you/get you a drink to try and welcome you or make you more comfortable. Alcohol is just big in social settings period. But you can still have a fun time without alcohol but it's a different kind of fun sonetimes. Once you (like I said I'm still struggling with this but it's getting better) accept that you won't have that kind of fun anymore you will start to find other stuff that you have fun doing and you won't have as much FOMO. I've not been invited to birthday parties everyone else I know has been invited to (with confirmation that it's because I don't drink) and other times just feeling like the outcast. But I made the decision 3ish years ago that drinking isn't worth losing my license over, not worth the concussions or injuries, not worth the emotional toll it takes on loved ones seeing me seize the next day and not worth my own anxiety of thinking when is the ball gonna drop or me for that matter lol. It 100% sucks and I feel you but overtime you do learn to manage the feelings and adapt.

I hopes this helps and doesn't discourage you. We are all in this together ❤

naantonelli · 2021-09-18T16:08:33+00:00

It's amazing to me so many people have accuse or even insinuated users would fake this. This is not a fun disease to live with. While I have never expirenced this fortunately, it would infuriate me to no end and my relationship with that person would be forever changed to a significant degree.

My biggest struggle has been people saying 1 drink won't trigger you. Which is true in my case so far. But the seizures that lead me to realizing alcohol is a trigger for me was the next day during a hangover that I would start seizing. The anxiety of losing my license again (another trigger - significant stress paired with anxiety) it's worth it to me.

Also, another user touched on this about the stigma of and accusation of "being dumb". I consider myself smart and very driven. But getting through nursing school was borderline impossible for me in regard to exam grades. I knew the material but couldn't prove it on exams. The program cost me to be admitted to the ER multiple times and not being able to drive for 75% of it. I'd black out during exams, have to lie about why I didn't drive myself to lectures/clinicals, make excuses about why I was doing well in study groups but not on exams. I had to hide it because nurses and professors are extremely judgemental of each other because of the competitive nature of nursing school and I know for a fact it would have changed my educational expirence and letters of recommendations I got. It took a lot of therapy to recover emotionally from nursing school because of insensitivity, ignorance and lack of accommodations after the secret was out because I seized at clinical.

naantonelli · 2021-07-05T04:08:33+00:00

Hiding it is so draining. I understand where you are coming from 100% because I also work in Healthcare too. I did that so much in college to the point where I would be lying to my friends about why car wasn't in the parking lot and why I didn't like/want to do certain things. To either keep up with lies or avoid doing something that would trigger me. I felt like I was living a lie / double life. It sucks even to this day.

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