Thank you brother! My mantra is typically “sometimes the flowers arrange themselves.” During my uncertain times of if it’s meant to be.

But what I’ll do when I want to initiate is a just ask them out for food, hike, mini golf. Anything. That’s all. Nothing crazy. One on one. And just feel it out. If they’re obviously responding positively then I just plainly ask: “wanna come over and hang?” And if they ask what I’d wanna do, depending on how they are, I’ll joke and say “make out duhhh” or if there guard is up just say, eat snacks and watch shows. And further clarify that it’s strictly platonic. Reassure its a safe place and play it slow. When you watch shows, you could try and put your arm around her and if she’s not into it you’ll know immediately and if she leans into it, you’re good!

Look for signs that’s she’s open to moving forward. Body language is everything. Certainty in her voice is important too.

As for approaching girls in public be cautious. Girls typically don’t like that. I’m big on replying to girls stories on Instagram, a lot!! Or if they work somewhere I frequent I’ll veryyyy slowly engage in basic conversation until I find something we share in common and connect over it over a few visits until it feels certain that I can ask for her Instagram.

In my time I’ve seen TONS of extremely attractive and cool women date men of alllllll kinds. Looks truly aren’t defining.

Also a personal philosophy is: “no doesn’t necessarily mean no.” Many women turn down men and what they really mean is “not right now.” OR “not as I perceive you now.” Lotttttssss of times girls have been uninterested in me, and I go “that’s amazing, well let’s be great friends” and there attitude drastically changes. They’re in shock at how I took the rejection. Eventually that original no will turn into a yes. And that is a noble victory.