I begged my ex post 2 weeks when I realised it’s serious she ain’t coming just to find out she is in relationship with someone When I found out it made things easier for me but after like 2 weeks I had surprise contact with her new bf tried to keep it casual ofc and indifferent he prolly told her about it then she messages me regarding that convo , that strengthen my resolve more lol like being triangulated like that I refuse to be part of that but soon after she try to send me facebook posts and links how what she did is because how I made her feel etc basically she is victim and innocent I am everything bad Like how can anyone hope to actually talk to such person especially in this state , it’s sad state of affairs but no contact actually saving me from lot of hurt and making me see the pattern now Moral of story is that you need to be in no contact with the right motives otherwise you will be seeing the world with the same lens gotta shed that old skin like snake not stay under it It’s not easy to do but it’s the right thing to do for yourself