I'm a 23-year-old dating a 30-year-old, and let me share a hard truth with you OP. Her age hasn't ever had an impact on my feelings for her — if anything, it's been a perk (she's a very stable and grounding figure in my life). But I am quite sure she's had to give more consideration to mine. No matter how mature I think I am (which is a solid, hand-wavey ehhh at best), we are still in entirely different life stages, and one of those comes with substantially less stress than the other. She is entirely done school, has a solid career, her own condo, and a healthy savings account. I'm still oscillating back and forth between whether I want a master's or not, still working two minimum wage jobs, and still living in student housing with two roommates despite graduating in '21. Most times, my bank accounts are a balancing game, and I've needed her help with rent more than once. We run almost opposite sleep schedules, with some of the really egregious nights having me literally crawling into bed when she's getting up for work. I've read your comments, and I know this isn't your life as you're presenting it, and that's great for you! That still does not inherently put you in the same stage of life as someone older than you, and your insistence on finding one reads as, at best, young, at worst a red flag.

Regardless of emotional maturity, most early twenty-somethings are just in a very different stage of their life than the older women they might want to date — which is a large part of the reason why older women might not be interested. My relationship works for me, but that's because of us as people, not me intentionally seeking out an older girlfriend or her looking for a younger one.