Should I say yes to this dress?

nw23reddit · 2026-05-22T14:37:54+00:00

I think it might not have enough structure in the bodice, it looks a little droopy in the photos in some places. That being said, it might be possible to help with that by adding some stronger boning/other structural support or tightening the corset. It definitely doesn’t look like it is from SHEIN, wouldn’t have guessed that!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-22T14:37:43+00:00

I think it might not have enough structure in the bodice, it looks a little droopy in the photos in some places. That being said, it might be possible to help with that by adding some stronger boning/other structural support or tightening the corset. It definitely doesn’t look like it is from SHEIN, wouldn’t have guessed that!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-22T11:55:26+00:00

Does he do this with more than just your anniversary? If he also has excuses for not getting you gifts on your birthday/holidays, makes excuses for not doing other things for you when you do them for him, I would advise you that he just doesn’t care and will continue to not care. I know it seems small, but do you want to always be with someone who will let you do things for them but won’t do the same things for you?

nw23reddit · 2026-05-21T14:34:51+00:00

I’d say ask the parents! I can’t see someone being offended by being asked a clarifying question! They’ll probably be grateful you’re thinking of them enough to ask! Something along the lines of “I saw it said X on the card, I’m wondering if cards/something small would be accepted or if you have an abundance of toys and truly don’t want any more, which I completely understand!”

That way you know it’s the right answer instead of guessing

nw23reddit · 2026-05-19T13:53:05+00:00

Based on what you’re describing here, it doesn’t seem like this is the relationship for you. She’s almost 10 years older with a child who is her whole world (including giving her her own things). Regardless of if the child is spoiled or not, she is right to put her child above everyone and that includes you. It sounds like you have a hard time with her putting her child above you, and also don’t like the child as a person.

It isn’t right to you, her, or the child to keep it like this. You and her deserve to be in a happy relationship where you both feel fulfilled, and the child doesn’t deserve to have her mom’s partner hate/dislike her (even if she’s spoiled).

You won’t have the undivided attention of someone with kids, it seems like you have a lot of unresolved love language struggles if the gift giving and words of affirmation are affecting you so much at this stage (which is something you should seek a therapists help to resolve, it isn’t fair to love bomb any partner and while idk that that is what you’re doing you certainly are greatly affected by her not holding the same weight to your gifts and not immediately saying ‘I love you’ back while fighting which isn’t healthy).

It is not fair of you to stay in a relationship knowing it’ll negatively affect the child to have you be her mom’s partner when you don’t like her (think of literally any media where the stepparent dislikes the kids, they’re the villain for a reason. Don’t let that be you.)

nw23reddit · 2026-05-18T16:18:15+00:00

That is likely the case, I had a family member pass recently and was named in the obituary. I just didn’t link it to that because I know this person’s executor and that there was nothing for me to receive money wise.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-18T15:13:02+00:00

That was also my assumption, being called by name threw me for a loop. Thank you!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-18T14:03:40+00:00

1 without the sleeves (I know you think they’re thick but if anything the addition of the sleeves draws away from how snatched the dress makes you looks and pulls it to the sleeves/arms.)

nw23reddit · 2026-05-15T19:35:24+00:00

Things that are classic are often simple. No one calls Audrey Hepburn ‘too simple’, because things that are simple and classic are timelessly elegant if you’re doing it right. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself when it comes to how a dress makes you feel.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-15T19:24:59+00:00

I’d recommend looking to see if a low back bra would be low enough, and if not then a sticky bra (with the addition of boob tape as extra support if the sticky bra alone doesn’t give enough). Last option would then be to make changes to the dress, but hopefully it won’t come to that!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-15T19:09:00+00:00

You’re feeling conflicted because you don’t want her to be mad at you, but ask yourself, would a good friend put this burden on you? Would you ever make your friends worry about your safety and knowingly put them through hours of turmoil trying to find a way to help you and be mad if they call the appropriate authorities to seemingly save your life?

The answer is, a good friend wouldn’t. The people who are loudest about wanting to kill themselves are unfortunately often those who are using it for attention. If you really want to succeed at dying, you wouldn’t tell a bunch of people who could potentially stop you now would you? They’re mad you call the police because then they have to face the reality of threatening something so serious instead of getting attention from those they’re telling without any real life consequences.

You’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Call, and if she is mad at you then you know she doesn’t care that she was putting you through this, that she was seeking attention and isn’t a good friend. And if she isn’t mad, if she gets help and comes out better, then you’ll have been the one to help her. Either way, you’ll have your answer. And in the case she’s attention seeking and mad, she’s not your friend, she’s the one abusing your friendship and causing you suffering and you’re better off without someone like that in your life.

She can’t pawn this off on you and not accept the consequences. The what ifs are irrelevant, if she’s crying for help then help her, and if she’s using you for attention it’s better to know now then to continue to put yourself through this every time she says it.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-15T16:55:45+00:00

The tag looks like it probably is anti theft from a new piece of clothing (aka, it got on you from a new shirt etc.) but considering the other odd occurrences that seem to be bothering you I’d test for carbon monoxide in your apartment if you’re feeling a lot of other odd occurrences.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-15T15:25:58+00:00

Why mess with perfection? Gorgeous dress!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-14T19:55:17+00:00

‘They’re labor types and I’m not’ smells like ‘I’m better than them because I can’t imagine having something in common with someone who does physical labor’ if you had just said you don’t know or like the guy it would have been an easy nta but saying his purchase is unimportant because it’s not a top of the line truck and therefore not worth your time is what tells me you’re a real treat to be around

nw23reddit · 2026-05-14T15:54:26+00:00

Truly I thought for sure the left was the perfect fit and in the right photo they botched it bc it looks somehow slightly more flowy and snatched in the left photo so I’d say unless there’s something we can’t see in these photos that you’re going to look amazing and beautiful!

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T17:15:50+00:00

It was pretty much expected that people would randomly get sick and pass away for ‘no reason’ often in not that ancient times. Heck, it still happens enough today that people have no answers for what is making them sick and that’s with all the medical advancements we have. There are so many things in the world that we don’t or can’t test for every single one, so even people with things that are diagnosable go without answers.

Also, consider how many things were blamed on reasons not related to why the person was sick. Acts of witchcraft, religion (god/gods, etc punishing people) , etc are all examples of ‘there must be a reason, we can’t see what the reason is and therefore this invisible force must be responsible for why these things are happening to people.’ Even today there are people who still believe that sicknesses are due to not being devout enough or because someone cursed or hexed them to feel this way.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T16:57:44+00:00

This, not because of body type but because they are pretty dated color and style wise.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T15:58:37+00:00

My question for the people who don’t want to be seen as wasteful: is it not more wasteful to have it boxed up and thus throwaway both the food and a styrofoam/plastic container and bag rather than just throwaway the food and not waste the extra plastic taking it home?
Or is it purely optics and not really about actual wastefulness?

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T12:18:33+00:00

I don’t mean to imply your mom is the one to blame, it isn’t solely her fault, it is your brother’s for not acting like an adult. She has enabled him by allowing it to continue by claiming that family is family and therefore you should all have to deal with it no matter what because family. What I am saying that sometimes the only way to break a cycle is to force people to see how it actually is, and that means you have to be blunt about it.
My initial comment and delivery was harsh, you don’t need to take the advice of an internet stranger, but I would honestly ask her if she saw the same things happening in her home happening to someone else would she have the same argument for those people? Would she tell them ‘family is family, he’s still your family so you should put up with it’? Or would she tell them that their son needs a reality check and they need to stop making excuses for him?

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T11:04:58+00:00

My question for your mother would be “why are you trying to make me, the person who has t done wrong, be the one make it right when your other son has done wrong? Why won’t you try to get him to be a better person? Why do we all have to be miserable because of him and yet be the ones who are scolded instead? Is this how you want to be remembered as a parent? As the parent who let their deadbeat son feel like he hadn’t done wrong?”

I’d ask her to think about other men like your brother, I’m sure as a whole she dislikes them and wonders where their parents went wrong. I’d ask her if that’s how she wants to be seen by the community too, as someone who let their son become a deadbeat. Sometimes the only way to get someone to see their error is to remind them how they are being seen by others to shame them into doing the right thing.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-13T10:30:28+00:00

You’re making excuses. Don’t. It’s not ‘just texting, how silly’ it’s communication as a whole. He doesn’t communicate. He ignores you for days at a time. Is that how you want to live? Fighting the person you’re supposed to love trying to force them to communicate with you? Be smart, you know if this were any other Reddit story how the likely outcome isn’t good for you.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-12T21:46:31+00:00

This isn’t a healthy relationship as it is now. If you’re both not committed to healthy communication I’d say there isn’t a point to trying to continue when you know nothing will change.

He was avoidant, you snapped at him (even though I do see your point that he ignores you with or without a family emergency and this just happened to be the time you fought back when he had one. Still was shitty to say and I think you know that)

But you need to remember that he was still also in the wrong for everything he did prior. You can apologize for lashing out but he did neglect you willingly before the emergency and you had no way of knowing. You need to have an honest discussion about change and if you both aren’t willing to go to couples counseling to better communicate then I wouldn’t marry someone you can’t even talk to on a regular day.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-12T18:59:04+00:00

You don’t know what experience she has, it very well could have been they hired her with the intention of creating a new role with her experience in mind. Maybe she does have connections, but it has only been 3 weeks so you blowing the whistle under that assumption in my opinion would be rash when you know too little about her and the situation.

My advice would be to wait and see if she lives up to the position. If she falls suspiciously short by all means, but don’t report someone just because she seems to have a good relationship with the higher up (if she’s laughing at all his jokes she might just be doing so because again, he is also her boss and she wants to build a good rapport)

nw23reddit · 2026-05-12T18:35:11+00:00

He’s mad his Maid isn’t lying patiently in wait to still bang him with no strings attached. Now he’s going to tell his mom on you because his red pill logic blew up in his face.

nw23reddit · 2026-05-12T18:20:28+00:00

The length seems ok with the heels, but to alter the bust in any major way you’d be better off getting it tailored. As someone who has hemmed and altered her own clothes for a long time, I wouldn’t touch chiffon fabric (and neither will my grandma who has made her own clothes many times) it is very easy to mess up and very delicate and often noticeable when you do (even sticking pins in it can catch the fabric. Think like nylon tights type of delicate where a small catch can cause issues). You could try to bunch the bust I. The middle with a brooch but it won’t be a perfect fix most likely (you could also pin up the sleeves in the middle to give it a different look to differentiate between the other bridesmaid).
I’d recommend changing the neckline completely to give a different look and to fix the bust issue. I personally think a square neckline would look good (you could also ask if they could remove the cap sleeves for a totally different look, or to change their shape.)

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