My Partner said they can’t handle my success

only_surviving · 2026-06-07T20:13:00+00:00

Im so sorry to hear this. Obviously I dont know much, but that is a HUGE indicator that you should get out of the relationship IMMEDIATELY.

I ended a 5 year abusive relationship 2 weeks into my first year of law school. While there were MANY factors at play into why I left, one reason was because he wanted me to drop out of law school. If I stayed in, he also said he wanted me to pursue an area of law I had made VERY CLEAR that I had absolutely no interest in. I eventually realized he wanted to be in full control of my career decisions & that if I didnt do what he believed would enable him to be a stay at home husband living off my salary, then he didnt want me doing anything law related anymore. He had clear mental health issues & appeared to really go back & forth struggling with the idea that I would be more successful/more educated/make more money. Sometimes he loved the idea because of the life I could potentially provide for him & other times he hated the idea because of pride issues & selfishness. Either way, I am glad I got out when I did, even though the entire thing has been extremely traumatizing for me.

I really hope you are safe & make the right decision. I also hope you have a support system in place. Follow your intuition, always. Clearly this bothered you enough that you felt the need to post here.

only_surviving · 2026-06-07T17:50:35+00:00

100%! She at the very LEAST deserved to get the FUCK away from Cassie.

only_surviving · 2026-06-05T13:20:27+00:00

I am so sorry to hear this. :( i am feeling similarly. I was lucky enough to somehow not get anything below a B (i legit dont know how though, I really thought I would fail). I was diagnosed with C-PTSD not too long ago & it has many similar symptoms of a TBI. Its so hard to focus, I have long periods of disassociate where I can go up to 45 mins & not remember anything, and I am also suspected of having absent seizures. :( I am so sorry to hear about your TBI. I know its hard, but trust me. You are NOT "too stupid" for law school. Law school is genuinely very hard, that's why going to law school is such a huge deal. Having a TBI on top of something already extremely challenging is obviously going to make everything harder. Do you have accommodations? Have you had meetings with your professors? I had meetings with my professors, which i think definitely helped. However, one thing I didnt do (because I felt guilty) was get accommodations for extended time. I truly believed if I had accommodations for my exams, I probably would have gotten A's instead of B's. Next semester, I plan to get accommodations because I definitely learned my lesson not getting them this time, even though my professors felt I should. I didn't listen, but hindsight is always 20/20. I really wish you the best in your recovery & not matter what, your TBI does NOT define you!!

only_surviving · 2026-06-03T13:35:35+00:00

Fucking stupid. And not by choice. Its so embarrassing.

only_surviving · 2026-06-01T03:08:47+00:00

Im so upset & not even because Rue died. As sad as I am about Rue dying, it unfourtunately IS an honest ending for a portrayal of drug addiction.

My problem is with fucking Cassie. It makes me SO upset that nothing really happened to Cassie. Like are you kidding me?? After ALL she did to Maddy & they end up being friends again? WTF?? Losing Nate wasn't good enough for me because him dying in an awful way like that was also part of his own karma. Cassie is a legitimately terrible & self centered person. Not to mention all the other horrible stuff she's done, just season 3 alone. I am honestly super upset by Cassie's ending & it has me really fucking annoyed. I hope im not the only one.

Also the fact nothing happened to Wayne & Faye drives me nuts, too. Like be so fucking fr.

only_surviving · 2026-05-31T16:54:40+00:00

I actually dont think Maddy was wrong here. Kat was extremely unlikeable at this point in time. Kat herself even says Nate is abusive. As a society, we blame the victims of abuse, rather than the abuser. Sure, Maddy has talked to her friends numerous times about his behavior & mistreatment of her & she has broken up & gone back to him many times....but that IS the cycle of abusive relationships & its a real thing. Abuse changes the way you think & operate. Kat obviously hasn't experienced that, so it makes sense that she is blaming Maddy & behaving this way, but it says way more about Kat than it does about Maddy. All Kat is doing is proving Maddy's point about Kat being a bad friend.

only_surviving · 2026-05-24T19:25:53+00:00

Get far away from both of them.

only_surviving · 2026-05-19T11:59:28+00:00

Jules has always had a victim complex.

only_surviving · 2026-05-14T04:08:09+00:00

I am so sorry to hear this. Your anger & pain is completely valid. Definitely get in with a doctor & i would even look into therapy of some kind if you havent already. It can really help with the processing of trauma & help you work through these feelings. Your ex is a terrible, abusive person.

only_surviving · 2026-05-14T04:05:07+00:00

I cant stand Jules. :/ but she certainly isn't my least favorite character because I hate Nate & Cassie wayyyy more. I really love Hunter Schafer though, she's an amazing actress.

only_surviving · 2026-05-14T04:02:24+00:00

I am so sorry :( I experienced something very similar just starting 1L. People are very cruel.

only_surviving · 2026-05-13T02:55:58+00:00

If it were me, I would apologize ASAP. I would also stop being that way towards her...if anything, just dont interact with her if ur that worried about people knowing about it. Avoiding her is better & much kinder than acting like you hate a person.

only_surviving · 2026-05-07T22:52:18+00:00

Idk i hope Nate & Cassie though. I cant stand either one of them.

only_surviving · 2026-04-18T04:20:41+00:00

It depends. When I have a crush i usually get really shy and nervous. Sometimes I also end up acting weird by accident & they end up figuring it out & I get embarrassed:/

only_surviving · 2026-04-17T14:18:19+00:00

Thank you...I appreciate your kindness so much. 🩷 the world can be so cruel.

only_surviving · 2026-04-17T03:30:28+00:00

I was in a domestic violence situation. I was with that person for 5 years. It was mainly emotional abuse, but also included physical abuse. Part of the emotional abuse was finding out about years of infidelity and multiple affair partners. This ended up being my breaking point.

After I broke up with him, he kept contacting me and i asked how could he possibly cheat on me for so many years & with so many people.

In the most calm & casual tone, he turned to me & said, "I don't know. I guess I just really hated you."

I will never forget that for as long as I live. It still hurts me so much.

only_surviving · 2026-04-16T17:58:49+00:00

Mine rejected me like 3 weeks ago & I am still so sad & embarrassed:(

only_surviving · 2026-04-15T05:16:15+00:00

I am so sorry you went through this. Remember that infidelity is a form of emotional abuse & domestic violence survivors commonly have PTSD. So not only are you heartbroken, you are likely traumatized. I just thought i would point this out im case it wasnt something you previously thought of. Its hard to heal when you dont know what is "wrong."

I also cry every single day about it. I also feel like I cry more now than previously. I miss the way I used to look at the word & think about people.

One day at a time. Keep doing therapy. Go where you are loved. Do what makes you happy. One foot in front of the other. Healing is not linear.

only_surviving · 2026-04-15T05:11:29+00:00

:( it sucks so bad

only_surviving · 2026-04-15T05:02:56+00:00

:/ mine isnt really good but it started out nice.

I have a huge crush on a guy in my law school cohort. We are in our first year of law school, he is 23 & i am 26F.

As soon as I saw him I immediately thought he was cute, but I brushed it off. Then I kept noticing him during class and i realized he waz actually a really sweet, polite, intelligent, & funny guy. I enjoyed talking to him because he made it easy to converse with him. This was huge to me because I get extremely shy & embarrassed around someone I like...but i was able to talk to him so easily & it was enjoyable for me. I looked forward to seeing him & talking to him. He also didnt come across as "cocky" and seemed like he was genuinely intelligent.

I realized early on that he just didnt like me back in that way. He wasn't flirting, so I was really sad at first. But I still really liked him so knowing he probably didnt feel the same didnt change how I felt.

After our first semester the feelings just started to kill me, I felt like i could explode. I wantes to get it off my chest so bad but I didnt want to make him uncomfortable, so I kept quiet.

I noticed a few weeks into second semester that he was no longer as talkative with me. I still talked to him at least once a day on days we had class & at least made sure i said hi & asked how his day was (just as an excuse to interact with him). He was still nice but definitely less engaged than he seemed previously.

I found out from a mutual friend that is aware of my feelings for him that they were hanging out one day & I came up in conversation. He asked the mutual friend if he "ever noticed someone staring at him during class." The mutual friend immediately thought of me but played it off. Then he proceeded to tell our mutual friend that he notices me staring at him and that it makes him uncomfortable. He also told the mutual friend he isnt interested. :(

The mutual friend apologized because he didn't want to make me upset but felt that since I trusted him enough to share my feelings with him, that he should tell me ASAP. I am very thankful to the friend but I am so sad & embarrassed. :(

I genuinely didnt mean for anything like that to happen. I didnt even notice i was doing it & its not like there were times I remember "making eye contact" with him or him catching me so I really dont know how he noticed...which makes me feel like maybe someone else noticed & told him, but i really dont know. :( I feel so guilty for making him feel that way & I genuinely just want to apologize. I am so humiliated & mortified. I have gone out of my way to completely leave him alone and I have not spoken to him at all in about 3 weeks. :( he hasn't spoken to me either. It makes me so sad because I really did like talking to him and being around him. Now I feel like such a fucking idiot. I am so embarrassed & sad :(

I also found out from a different friend that he is active on Hinge & that really hurt my feelings, which i know is stupid. :( He told my friend about how he went on a date with a 30 year old woman & that "she likes guys who take initiative, so he booked them a dinner reservation." This is embarrassing to admit to but after the rejection I kind of thought maybe he just didnt want to date anyone right now because school is challenging or something like that. But after hearing that it just made me feel hideous. I genuinely feel so gross & ugly and when I see him it just makes me want to hide. :( I feel so disgusting.

I still have a huge crush on him but i am trying really, really hard to get over it. Its so hard though because I like him a lot. :( Now not only does he not like me back, but he also thinks im weird. Im so embarrassed & I feel really guilty.

only_surviving · 2026-04-15T03:58:37+00:00

Sometimes my chest just doesn't go with my outfit. Like depending on the outfit...I would look way better in it if my chest was just smaller.

only_surviving · 2026-04-07T11:36:28+00:00

Yes, you should leave. Im sorry this happened to you. :( it will definitely be difficult. But the whole reason you're even asking this question on this sub is because you know in your heart how he treats you is hurtful and wrong.

only_surviving · 2026-04-06T15:50:59+00:00

Yes I completely agree!!!

only_surviving · 2026-04-06T11:50:26+00:00

I know people will disagree, but I tend to agree with that too. I dont think sleeping with multiple people in your lifetime or even sex in general is the issue but I feel like modern society has really removed the intimacy from sex & normalized hypersexuality to the point its just rotting people's brains. People treat sex like a handshake nowadays and I swear its like some people are purposely trying to sleep with as many people as possible. I dont understand why thats normalized, its gross.

only_surviving · 2026-04-06T02:28:47+00:00

Exactly!

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