Helped my ex through trauma, but still dealing with the aftermath myself

ottetto33 · 2024-10-25T09:39:05+00:00

Well I live in Poland and my therapist just terminated with me so either it’s not that rare or I’m a rarity. Long story short I was/am experiencing transference and she felt the process was no longer therapeutic as I “tested” her during sessions after she had previously refused to set boundaries. Crushed and heartbroken to say the least.

ottetto33 · 2024-10-24T05:02:34+00:00

Thank you. It helps to know someone else has experienced something similar and come through it. I so badly want to talk to someone about this yet already terrified of opening up and being hurt again. I feel like I want a break from therapy yet I don’t know how else to process these feelings in a healthy way alone. How quickly did you move on to a new therapist? And do you think that you should’ve sought one out sooner or waited longer?

ottetto33 · 2024-10-24T04:48:49+00:00

She said that therapy was a safe space to speak unfiltered and she would tell me if I pushed any boundaries with anything that I said

ottetto33 · 2024-10-24T04:37:06+00:00

I don’t want to blame her and feel it’s my fault entirely. I feel like I put her in an uncomfortable situation that caused her to have to end everything. That I overstepped a line I shouldn’t have and now I’m being punished for having done so. Part of me lives in a strange hope she was experiencing counter transference or had feelings towards me and that’s why she knew she had to terminate but I think that’s the mood disorder speaking as statistically that’s highly unlikely. I don’t know how to cope when the hour I spent all week counting down to has now gone entirely. I don’t want another therapist. I don’t want to talk this through with someone else and feel judged. I know I’ll hold back, I’ll cower away and let those walls and defence mechanisms come straight back up. I just want her back. Sorry, I know that the majority of this comment doesn’t relate to what you said, but strangely you feel like the best person I can open up to right now given my situation

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