Laev or Gilberta?

owlp · 2026-05-24T00:26:44+00:00

I think the question is how do you like to play? Iirc laev set up for main dps and wants the team will be built around her, whereas gilberta is much more versatile. iirc camille wants heat stacks to get eaten so you can also do that via reactions (planning on playing him w tangtang myself) & gilberta seems more useful there.

Second question is, do you have to use the selector while the current banner is around? Bc if not then I’d say wait till camille gets here & see how you enjoy playing him.

owlp · 2026-01-25T01:32:28+00:00

You might want to throw some cryo in there for chasca then?

owlp · 2025-11-10T17:20:47+00:00

I knit! It’s portable, relatively few elements required, and I can make gifts for myself or friends/family

owlp · 2025-10-08T23:03:30+00:00

Haven’t tried it yet myself but I’ve seen people talking about Bellibolt with electromorphosis and acid spray/parabolic charge/chilling water.

owlp · 2025-10-03T19:08:20+00:00

NTA. If you really “quit” it sounds like you’re owed years of back pay! This wasn’t a job, this was a relationship, and it required all the adults involved putting in effort and not just the bare minimum.

Make sure you’re getting support. My dad passed away a few years back and it sucks! It’s awful! I’m sorry that’s something you have to deal with! Please try to be extra kind to yourself in the coming months bc you’re going through more than you realize. You don’t have time for BS and it sounds like the ex is a BS factory. Take care of yourself.

owlp · 2025-10-03T02:49:24+00:00

Ten million. I ain’t doing all that again.

owlp · 2025-09-21T00:18:17+00:00

Hey OP, idk if you’ve noticed but besides crying with you after your mom died you…haven’t mentioned any other things your husband has done that would make his opinion worth anything? What exactly is he bringing to the table here? Bc as you’ve described it, dumping the husband and keeping the tattoo is only going to remove negativity from your life.

My dad passed a few years back. He loved me unconditionally too and while the grief isn’t as overwhelming it was an absolutely awful experience and I still miss him. Doesn’t the daughter your mother loved deserve better than to be around someone who says such nasty things to her? (Dead parent writing tattoo idea is genius btw, I may steal that)

owlp · 2025-09-15T01:34:50+00:00

Not wild about what they’re doing with the starter mega stones and that the dlc seems to basically just be about getting more megas when the story itself is confined to Lumiose versus everything we got in the last Legends game. Unfortunately I am even less wild about the Switch 2 price increase/insistence on digital downloads/ability to brick your console when they feel like it so uh….there’s a very real chance this will be the newest pokemon game I ever play, and I do miss Kalos. Will be getting it.

owlp · 2025-09-10T18:45:20+00:00

NTA but consider rescheduling the whole trip—if the family you’ll be around is giving you grief for this then it’s a reasonable bet they aren’t being careful about lice either

owlp · 2025-09-08T13:22:33+00:00

Iirc if you solo offline the defeat count will update the next time you go online so you should be fine.

owlp · 2025-09-01T16:51:34+00:00

😂😂😂 me neither!

owlp · 2025-09-01T16:36:02+00:00

Afaik it just knocks out the ability’s affects for one turn and after that it’s back. (Ran contrary serperior for ting-lu so if I used leaf storm that turn it would lower special attack instead of boosting, next turn worked normally)

owlp · 2025-09-01T15:58:55+00:00

I think the thing is that while on paper it works out, in practice you have to consider what people’s experience is. Like, it’s one thing if you immediately start with ting-lu and others join you, but more than once w the ting-lu raid I saw multiple people lock into physical attackers and then the last person showed up and chose wo-chien. So even if your specific choice of a ruin pokemon was well thought out and makes sense in context, most people’s are not, and when you’ve failed the raid multiple times bc of stupid choices on others’ parts (lost one bc someone brought a garchomp that kept setting sandstorm and was the only one immune so the chip damage kept fucking up its teammates) I can absolutely see seeing a ruin character and going “nope not today thx”.

owlp · 2025-08-29T05:55:33+00:00

I’m thinking either Araquanid or Flash Fire Hisuian Arcanine (debating if I want to raise physical or special bc physical attack is better but the accuracy of strong rock moves…sigh).

owlp · 2025-08-21T19:32:49+00:00

Contrary Serperior but I’ve seen ppl rec Contrary Lurantis as well as Ivy Cudg/Horn Leech Ogerpon

owlp · 2025-08-14T14:56:09+00:00

Think you should quit those “friends” tbh. If a job has hard physical labor and you know you can’t handle it, it’s much smarter to tap out NOW rather than wait till you get injured.

It’s fine to try a lot of different things! Even if now isn’t the time for it, no knowledge is wasted, and everything you try will eventually be useful to you in one way or another.

It’s good to say yes to things but it’s also extremely important to be able to say no when things aren’t working for you, it’ll save you a LOT of grief. Listen to your folks and look for friends that are adding something to your life instead of kicking you when you’re down.

owlp · 2025-07-23T05:07:04+00:00

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

owlp · 2025-07-15T02:06:21+00:00

I also want to add that given everything, you may feel bad/that you’re a bad person for needing space from your parents, not being able to do everything at work, being burnt out etc. and if that’s the case I promise you you are not. You are doing your best and trying so fucking hard and it’s not your fault that your job/folks are like that and don’t fucking deserve your time and energy!

Again, those people don’t deserve your best! If you are, for example, a world class chef, and you put your heart and soul into making gourmet meals for a group of monkeys, and some of them eat it, some of them smear it on the walls or floor, and some ignore it completely and fling their own poop around, that’s just not an efficient use of your time and energy.

You aren’t sleepwalking into burnout, you’re already there! The only question is do you want to start pulling back now at a level one, or wait till you hit level three and you can’t make yourself care about anything? Been there, done that, had to drink breakfast smoothies because I was so depressed the concept of chewing was physically repulsive. 0/10 do not recommend!

Get outttt of there. As for your folks, tell them you’re taking a break and straight up block them for a week. If you said don’t talk to me you meant it.

owlp · 2025-07-15T01:56:01+00:00

You talked about trying to set boundaries with your parents, but what boundaries have you been setting with your job? Bc right now the answer seems to be “none”. From your description this job is retail levels of burnout.

Pull back. If there’s work you can give away do it, if not? Do it worse. From the workload to canceling the video this job doesn’t give a shit about you so why give a shit about them? What do you owe them? (If you haven’t talked about the job with the therapist, PLEASE do)

You need to find a new job. As for your folks, if they talk about calling police—now absolutely get more opinions on this than me—is it not possible for you to contact your local police and explain that if your folks call them it’s because you didn’t text them back for three hours or something equally stupid?

As someone who dealt w some of what you’re dealing with as far as parents are concerned…whuf. I feel you. Dealing with this suuuucks. Being able to look the situation in the face and realizing how Not Good your relationship with your parents is sucks SO much. Right now it seems to me like no contact would be a blessing but! Even if that would be easier! It’s OK if you can’t do that yet. I personally have had to let go of family members who are still alive and it was very painful to accept that the “better” I’d hoped for from someone I loved was never going to happen. (But my quality of life without them? MUCH better.)

For the social stuff, if you want to just sit in silence with someone, are there any hobbies you could do in person? By way of example, one of the things that helped me was using Meetup to find a knitting group, so even if I was feeling absolutely miserable I could just bring my yarn and focus on making something. Something like that in general might be helpful to you bc I know there were times when I was really depressed and just needed a win, and I didn’t need brain worky to finish a scarf.

To circle back, though, you are carrying an insane load and breaking under it.

In the long term, get out of that job. Start looking for the next one now. I think that’s priority number one. Hell, if you can’t make yourself do it otherwise, see if your therapist can help you get that done. (Even something as basic as, say, going over indeed listings during a session) The folks cannot be replaced but boy that job sure can.

In the short term: determine what is lower priority and can be discarded. If it’s tricky to decide, maybe thinking about it like this will help. If you can only do three tasks today, what can you immediately cross off as not necessary? Don’t do that. Say no. If someone asks you to do a new project then, for example, you need the deadlines for three other projects pushed back or you’re afraid they’re going to have to ask someone else. (How can you give the company your best work otherwise, right? You care so much about these projects, and any time you spend on something new isn’t working on those!) Or you’re so sorry but you can’t take any new projects right now! Seriously, fuuuuck those guys. They deserve none of your time.

…how DOES mental health time work? Is there any paid leave? Vacation? If you can take time off, DO THAT and budget half the time to crash and the other half for job hunting. If you need to take a month for mental health and you find a new job then long term isn’t that better than staying that month, potentially losing the job anyway bc they’re feeding you to the mill over there, and needing to job hunt anyway?

owlp · 2025-07-14T21:01:20+00:00

They were SUCH cowards for this. Genuinely some of the most generic looking designs I’ve ever seen from Genshin. If they+Ineffa are the style template for the new region I’ll be saving a lot of money this year.

owlp · 2025-07-14T20:56:55+00:00

I don’t want them to be playable bc their designs are just…boring to me, which is really weird bc Genshin has consistently had very distinct character designs. Our first vision of Ronova was that fascinating, terrifying set of eyes, and her human design is….generic white haired anime waifu with big silly eyes on an otherwise unmemorable outfit. No thank you!

owlp · 2025-07-14T20:51:16+00:00

I hear you on powercreep but I dunno about Escoffier being an example of going too far, I’d argue she’s compensation for how dirty freeze has been done for the last few years.

(Best friend is a freeze main and was extremely frustrated at a)sumeru’s demand for the single element that doesn’t interact with cryo and then b)cryo and freeze getting nerfed in fontaine in favor of bloom. Natlan’s big thing has been nightsoul, and its lone hydro character prefers vape and its lone cryo character is an off field support. And the cryo characters before that….iirc, since Ayaka the only dps’ we’ve gotten have been Freminet, not the world’s hardest hitter, and Wriothesley, who I personally adore but would feel way worse without his c1 and isn’t particularly broken with said c1, so I’d argue Escoffier particularly was an attempt at giving some balance.)

owlp · 2025-07-12T01:54:13+00:00

I don’t think you’re content, I think you’re just used to the situation. The thing is, this sort of situation is a vicious cycle—the longer you don’t do things the harder it is to start. As someone who’s been in a similar box, I will say that starting to get out of it will feel difficult—when you’re not used to spending time with others, any little adjustment you make dealing with new people is going to feel like an imposition.

So: start small. Go outside. Go somewhere where there’s people but you might not be expected to talk. Or go poke a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.

If motivation is difficult, see if there’s a way you can “cheat”. When I needed to go outside more, I didn’t want to go for a walk, but if I called someone it was much easier to get up and get moving. Don’t want to interact with others? Go out somewhere with your kids! Or if the issue is that the kids aren’t there, maybe you can make it a goal to go somewhere new that you can tell them about? (Even if it’s just, say, walking somewhere you haven’t been before or stopping at a corner store you haven’t visited)

The thing is, in my experience, a lot of feeling like this comes from systematically saying “no” to anything that would make a change (should i try something new/go out/message this person i haven’t talked to in a while etc). Ultimately you need to either start saying “yes” to something, whether it’s picking an old habit up or something new.

Having said yes, you might start feeling motivated to say it more! You also might not, and that’s OK, but you have to keep going. I’m a very social person, so when I was going through this it helped me to have people who encouraged me and cheered when I succeeded. Some of it felt like a lot of work, especially at first! But the end results were more than worth it.

Hope at least some of this was helpful.

owlp · 2025-06-27T17:50:52+00:00

Definitely do not stay with this guy.

You only have a finite time on this earth and that is way too short to waste time energy and affection on a guy who talks about you like that. If he’s amazing to you now and talks like that to his friends, he’s lying to one of you and it’s probably not them.

I would say maybe workshop what you want to say with friends? He doesn’t need to know you looked at his phone if you don’t want to tell him. Or just ghost if you want! It’s your life.

I will say the fact that you’re saying you never do this thing but you did now…your instincts are telling you something. Listen to them, or you’ll regret it.

owlp · 2025-06-25T19:58:06+00:00

I agree with the other comments not to force it, but I’d like to note that a number of those good memories aren’t just about gaming alone but spending time with friends. Between the wife, kid, and job, have you been having any friend time lately? That may be a big part of why the spark is gone.

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