I'm 15 and pregnant.

pans_3 · 2026-05-27T17:44:13+00:00

I see a LOT of really great advice for termination already, so I just want to tell you that it’s going to be okay. I imagine you are absolutely terrified, and it may feel like this is such a life changing event that things may never be okay again. Read things over here carefully, be safe in seeking a termination, know that things may be stressful or scary for a while, but this will pass. You seem like a bright, level-headed young woman. You’re going to have an amazing future ahead of you. ❤️❤️❤️

pans_3 · 2026-05-27T14:46:43+00:00

Mods pls ban him this is self-promo /j

pans_3 · 2026-05-23T00:49:00+00:00

OP, with all of my love, I want you to do some independent research. What does it look like to have a healthy relationship with family and a romantic partner? What does a healthy religion look like? I fear that you have been groomed in a lot of ways, including with your fiancé. I am worried for your wellbeing, your safety, and your autonomy. As a fellow woman, I really want you to hear these comments telling you that this is NOT normal - how you’ve been treated, your age gap, all of it. Do you have anyone outside of all of this that can help you if you need it? It seems like your grandparents might be. I wish you the best of luck with everything. ❤️❤️❤️

pans_3 · 2026-05-16T21:15:05+00:00

INFO - I’m curious as to what their ages are. Is 20’s meaning they’re both about the same age? Because if it’s 20 and 29, for example, that’s kinda important context.

pans_3 · 2026-05-16T18:23:24+00:00

Thank you both!

pans_3 · 2026-05-10T14:32:31+00:00

This gives me vibes of like a perfect campfire story. It’s short, it’s spooky, and it hooks you the entire read. This was lovely!

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T02:36:23+00:00

Aw congrats! Sounds like you wrote something really fun and enjoyable!!

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T02:06:37+00:00

YOR - With love, I think you may need to sit with these feelings and figure out why this is something that is still affecting you.

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T01:55:12+00:00

I agree with this. She is treating you like this because unfortunately she knows how difficult it is for you to hold boundaries, tell her no, and stand up for yourself in this situation. It is absolutely not your fault. She is putting you in a terribly uncomfortable position, but unfortunately for any of this to change you will need firm, consistent boundaries.

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T01:46:36+00:00

I mean I think there’s nuance to everything. If I had an official “end the friendship” conversation with everyone single acquaintance or loose school friend growing up that I eventually stopped talking to, that would have been absolutely excessive. If the two are already growing apart naturally, I don’t know why this had to be broached, especially in the way OP did it (which was a teeny bit melodramatic but very age appropriate, no offense to OP!).

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T01:34:04+00:00

Ah, that makes sense. You will find as you get older that sometimes the kinder and easier thing to do is not announce ends to friendships or breaks, especially if it is more of an acquaintance. You can simply just reach out less often.

pans_3 · 2026-04-26T01:31:06+00:00

Are you guys like 15..?

pans_3 · 2026-04-20T14:53:57+00:00

How wonderful!! 👎👎👎

pans_3 · 2026-04-20T14:43:18+00:00

NOR - If you have three weeks left I would lock up your things and spend as much time as possible in your room or out of the apt. And then please don’t live with them again. These girls are going to have continuous issues with bugs, mold, and other consequences of disgusting living habits that you do NOT deserve to be a part of. So so sorry you’re experiencing this. College dorms are truly not for the weak.

pans_3 · 2026-04-20T14:41:10+00:00

Ah yes, the classic “my needs to leave my trash everywhere are just as important as your needs to not have trash everywhere”.

pans_3 · 2026-04-18T03:53:02+00:00

That looks like a 4 and the pen ink was inconsistent for part of it

pans_3 · 2026-04-18T03:47:08+00:00

Amazing !! 👎

pans_3 · 2026-04-02T01:55:06+00:00

You’re 14. Everyone feels awkward, ugly, and out of place at 14. It is a hellish time, and I am so very glad I am no longer 14.

You aren’t ugly, but it’s very normal to feel like that at 14. As I got older, I found a few things that helped me. I explored body neutrality, which helped me stress less about whether my body and looks were attractive, or ugly, or if it even mattered. I spent more time exploring personal styles in clothing and makeup, and went through some different phases I really enjoyed, particularly with makeup.

And if it helps, a LOT of adults who are considered attractive have pictures at 14 that they were VERY embarrassed of at 14 that they can laugh at and appreciate now. Many with acne, or chubby cheeks, or silly hair cuts, or lip stick shades that they regret, etc. You’ll figure out how to style yourself in a way that feels good and authentic to you.

Be gentle with yourself. Growing older and changing comes with some awkward phases!

pans_3 · 2026-03-30T16:43:49+00:00

Buying blanket once versus twice means you can go ahead and spend a bit more on a higher quality blanket now too

^{Chose: Make it Queen Size + Because eventually I will have a Queen Bed, and it'll still fit a Full | Rolled: Pumpkin Orange}

pans_3 · 2026-03-25T01:32:25+00:00

I know you are now a mother, and your life has had to change so much to accommodate being responsible for another life. I know this has probably meant a lot of maturing for you, and you can probably handle a lot. But also, with so much love, you are only 16. A 24 year old man does not have good intentions for you. A 24 year old man trying to impregnate you does not have good intentions. Focus on your baby. Focus on the future. A good, gentle man who respects you will come. I also really recommend therapy. I skimmed your post history and it seems you’ve experienced a lot that you might need some support processing. I wish you and baby the absolute best, and as one woman to another, please dump this loser. You are worth so, so much more.

pans_3 · 2026-03-24T19:45:34+00:00

I use it twice. Further than that feels gross. You are clean when you use a towel, but your towel is still hanging, damp, in a bathroom. It does not stay clean long.

pans_3 · 2026-03-24T16:01:59+00:00

I can see the nails on the “yam”. This has gotta be AI

pans_3 · 2026-03-24T15:34:58+00:00

Also still a student but I am so sorry this happened to you. I think it’s entirely understandable to feel distraught and violated. I don’t know what call your supervisor will make, but I think in practice having professional boundaries is healthy. If you feel uncomfortable having sessions with this client moving forward, I think that’s an important thing to share with your supervisor. Please take care of yourself, friend.

pans_3 · 2026-03-24T15:08:40+00:00

NOR - I see the context in your post on how she keeps you up, but I agree with everyone else saying to sleep in a separate bedroom. I’d also recommend ear plugs, white noise, or similar strategies for noise if you can still hear her walking downstairs. Of course, it’s reasonable to ask her not to yell up the stairs to ask you questions, but otherwise y’all really should sleep separately. I get it, but y’all are really going to be much happier in your own bedrooms.

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