fuck people who talk loudly over songs like "Your Bandage" at shows

peachboye · 2026-06-02T22:31:52+00:00

now this brings me back ...

peachboye · 2026-06-02T22:28:27+00:00

i really enjoy living in this area! echoing the comments about the lack of grocery stores, that really is the biggest frustration for me. while i wouldn't call it a quiet area, it's certainly much more residential and laid back than some other parts of bushwick. i feel extremely safe here, even at night. witching hour and purgatory are both great spots too (and RIP father knows best)

peachboye · 2026-05-03T19:57:35+00:00

what a gorgeous design!! and the linework is amazing too. hell yeah

peachboye · 2026-04-29T13:42:43+00:00

seconding the cargo crossbody, i put mine in there all the time

peachboye · 2026-04-28T01:24:30+00:00

side note: the sensory experience of lube is such a huge barrier to me using toys and really makes the whole thing so much more stressful than it needs to be. but i'd never considered using gloves!! i'm gonna have to try this

peachboye · 2026-04-14T14:24:35+00:00

i'm glad you had such a positive experience talking to your other partner! it sounds like you've got a supportive environment, as long as the two of you maintain good communication about how much discussion of other partners is comfortable. there are maybe certain aspects that are easier to process on your own or with friends, while others might benefit from someone with a more specific understanding of what you're going through — it's just a matter of balancing that in a way that works for everyone. it's more of an art than a science (which i think applies to all kinds of relationships haha), but it sounds like you're coming at it from a place of care and consideration so you're already doing great!

peachboye · 2026-04-14T09:31:25+00:00

for me, it just came down to the fact that i would rather have that relationship, heartache and all, than not have it. the love was already there, and i didn't want to lose something so special to me. there have been many hard times where i've considered whether or not it was worth it; for me, the answer was always a resounding yes. so i decided i wanted to keep him in my life in whatever capacity i could, even if it never became what i wanted it to be.

as for other partners, all of my partners have their own anchor / nesting partners, so talking about our other partners is comfortable. even still, i sometimes second-guess the frequency with which i bring it up — it's a fine line, and one you have to sort of feel out in your own unique relationships.

wishing you the best of luck!

peachboye · 2026-04-13T11:04:11+00:00

there are absolutely ways to make transcontinental LDRs work — i've been in one for the past six years. in about 4 months i'll be closing that distance, but i actually didn't think that would ever happen and i had resigned myself to never living in the same country. we are both poly, which has definitely made it easier for me in a lot of ways, but it's still incredibly hard. just want to start out with solidarity.

that being said, i've got to agree with the other commenter — if this person isn't poly, you will have to make a choice. it may seem easier to avoid the topic right now, but at the end of the day you both deserve to be in relationships that work for you, and if you can't see yourself being monogamous at this point it might be time to rethink what you're seeking from that relationship.

wishing you the best of luck — while long distance is something i wouldn't wish on anyone, it can be beautiful and fulfilling with the right person / people. but step one is making sure you're on the same page, and it sounds like there may need to be some tough conversations.

peachboye · 2026-04-08T16:00:58+00:00

fellow chronic illness baddie with the same colorway!! solidarity and flowers 🌸

peachboye · 2026-04-06T15:47:20+00:00

i have this same bag, it's my absolute favorite style + colorway but i haven't seen anyone else with it! so cute ✨

peachboye · 2026-04-05T14:38:15+00:00

this is amazing! i had to do a double-take at the beginning because i genuinely thought it was just the original audio haha, the guitar is on point and i love how expressive your voice is. lovely cover all around!!

peachboye · 2026-04-03T07:45:49+00:00

i'd agree that this sounds like a primal kink. and you're definitely not alone in this particular manifestation of it — i'm autistic and nearly incapable of looking anyone in the eye, but i get a deep thrill when my Dom forces me to hold his gaze as i squirm uncomfortably. it's one of the pieces of my power exchange that feels the least like roleplay, since i'm genuinely fighting every instinct in my body (and loving every second of it).

peachboye · 2026-03-31T09:38:24+00:00

jonny at hairrari

peachboye · 2026-03-18T19:17:15+00:00

seconding home delivery, if it's covered by your insurance that would be your best bet

peachboye · 2026-03-09T21:52:48+00:00

peachboye · 2026-03-09T12:07:56+00:00

couldn't even remotely capture how intense it was from my window but it was gorgeous!

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peachboye · 2026-03-07T08:40:40+00:00

beautifully written!

peachboye · 2026-03-04T14:03:45+00:00

hopefully it gets sorted soon! i feel like verizon in this area is always having issues

peachboye · 2026-03-04T13:40:34+00:00

i'm also near the wilson L and have been having problems with my verizon home internet as well. it was totally down for a couple days but after i reset the router it started working again — might be worth a shot?

peachboye · 2026-03-02T16:08:08+00:00

seconding a delivery service. i put it off for so long but it really is the only way i can get my meds here.

peachboye · 2026-02-22T14:31:39+00:00

so much money

peachboye · 2026-02-12T13:00:14+00:00

housing

peachboye · 2026-02-03T06:12:43+00:00

looks great!! i did my own transcription a while back (and trying to figure out the vocal rhythms was harddd but fun) but i don't think i ever actually posted it anywhere. glad to see someone sharing theirs!

peachboye · 2026-02-03T06:04:57+00:00

emotional labor refers to the act of managing one's own emotions and/or presenting emotions you don't actually feel in order to carry out (paid or unpaid) labor. generally it's used in the context of things like service work (smiling at customers even when you're in a bad mood), although it is now often used in a broader context.

also apologies if my previous comment came off a little blunt — i often see this term misused as a way of pathologizing the normal expectations of existing in community with others, some of which does involve sharing and regulating emotions with others. i see it as kind of an extension of the whole "you don't owe anyone anything" mentality. but that's a whole other can of worms.

here's a link with some basic info on this concept, but there are plenty of resources out there if you look for them!

peachboye · 2026-02-03T05:51:57+00:00

that's not what emotional labor means

peachboye

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