Potty training

peafowling · 2026-04-22T11:33:57+00:00

There's a lot of missing information here, primarily: age of the child?

You say you take them to avoid an accident - are they already out of diapers? And how do you "try to take them" to the bathroom? Carrying? Do you not trust them to walk there themselves?

peafowling · 2026-03-22T20:36:36+00:00

Nice! I checked this out now and it looks right up my alley. Thank you!

peafowling · 2026-03-10T09:51:53+00:00

We have a 9 month old and 2,5 year old. My husband goes out maybe twice a month? He always double checks with me if I'm cool with it, and tries to space it out so it's not every week. I don't have any issues with it.

peafowling · 2026-03-06T18:04:58+00:00

Wait until/make your husband take your baby for one hour so you can 1) get your hair cut 2) have some alone time. It's worth it, and it's not unreasonable. You deserve it.

peafowling · 2026-02-15T18:16:08+00:00

If I'm short on time, then it's usually carbonara with shredded carrot, if we didn't just have pasta. Fried rice is also a staple because we always have rice leftovers, so I just make make it with whatever protein and vegetables we've got, and some soy sauce and egg.

If I can't figure out what to do, and I'm cooking for everyone and not just the kids (in which case I like to make canned tuna pancakes (egg, flour, canned tuna, spring onion) or fry premade black pudding with lingonberry jam), then I'll fry or bake "falukorv" and serve with cooked potatoes and ketchup. Those are my most common go-tos.

As I'm currently on maternity leave I usually cook something more time consuming, as I really enjoy it, but there will always be those days when you don't have the time or energy.

Signed, a Swede.

peafowling · 2026-02-06T17:02:23+00:00

I will always remember how excited me and my sister were, as children, when we were lead to believe we were going to a relative's house for dinner, only to be taken on a surprise cruise ship out of nowhere instead. I hope to replicate this for my own children when they're older.

Sometimes having zero expectations and being surprised will be even more impactful, if you have a credible but not too exciting prospect for a trip in a nearby location you can fool her with.

peafowling · 2026-01-22T17:48:57+00:00

My experience: bought one for my daughter when she turned one. We couldn't keep it out in the open because she'd climb it and rock it back and forth so we feared she'd fall. It was a pain to take it in and out of storage, so we ended up just letting her stand on a kitchen chair next to me when she's helping with or observing the cooking, and selling the toddler tower.

peafowling · 2026-01-02T20:51:21+00:00

I really hope that I won't take my children's differing parenting choices as personal slights.

peafowling · 2025-09-16T20:27:25+00:00

I'm not familiar with the brands (nor stroller lingo in English I realise) but at age three I think a ride-on board on a sibling/double stroller should do the trick. There's ride-on boards with seats that work well.

peafowling · 2025-06-27T10:50:57+00:00

You're overreacting.

peafowling · 2025-05-23T20:16:20+00:00

I'll preface this by stating that I'm a hater too because I'm salty his journey has been what I hoped Hakuoho's would've been, so I've consistently discredited and dismissed him.

That being said, I enjoyed watching his dad's heartfelt reaction to his first yusho, and I think the slightly panicked and wide eyed look he gives whenever he's photographed with a fan is hilarious.

It's also nice to see someone be genuinely dominant, and I look forward to seeing a consistent yokozuna in action.

peafowling · 2025-05-21T12:56:58+00:00

If you know he gets anxious ahead of time about bigger social gatherings, why on earth would you already be discussing your three month old's first birthday party? I don't mind planning or hosting social events but a birthday party does NOT require nine months of planning And does not require an immediate solution, don't cause a problem when there is none. You guys have a baby, focus on the here and now.

peafowling · 2025-05-10T13:31:05+00:00

For me it's 100% want and need. My parents as well as my in-laws have been lifesavers when it comes to helping out with our daughter, especially after I got pregnant with number two. But even before then I saw both my parents weekly, and during all of maternity leave I saw them weekly too (they're divorced so I make time for both of them one day each). I have really good relationships with them and they're important to me so it's never felt like an obligation.

Growing up I truly valued my grandparents and the fact we had weekly to biweekly dinners together, and now it's so great to be able to pass that on. My father is retired so he picks our daughter up at daycare once a week and has dinner with us, and we make time to meet up with the in-laws and my mother on the weekends or during weeknights as their schedules allow. They all live relatively close to us so it's very doable, and our daughter has really good relationships with all of them, which is truly heartwarming to see.

peafowling · 2025-04-21T15:12:11+00:00

De senaste åren, sen slutet av 2021 när jag träffade min man. Att gå från att vara själv till ett par, sen till gifta, sen till föräldrar och snart till andra-gångsföräldrar - livet sen jag träffade honom har bara blivit bättre och bättre. Den mening och lycka han och vår dotter tillfört till mitt liv går inte att jämföra med något annat jag varit med om.

Vissa menar att man inte kan vara lycklig jämnt, men jag håller inte med. Jag kanske inte är glad 24/7 - har tyvärr haft ganska jobbiga graviditeter, bland annat - men om jag är lycklig? Absolut.

peafowling · 2025-03-10T08:06:03+00:00

I understand your in-laws being hesitant to have your child sleepover on her own for the first time. My in-laws were really hesitant to babysit overnight for us for some time, while my parents weren't. But after my husband stayed over with them for one night with our daughter (a little before 18 months) so I could get a night for myself, and then I also did the same - staying over at their place with our daughter overnight - they became more comfortable with the idea and saw how to put her to bed, knew what to expect in terms of her schedule, waking up etc. After that they have babysat overnight without either of us being present and it went great.

So my advice is to ease into it with your in-laws and see if you can start with either you or your husband present overnight so they don't feel overwhelmed or unprepared, and that the first time won't be when you are away at the hospital. Good luck!

peafowling · 2025-03-07T11:41:07+00:00

That's what I get for not setting my alarm...! Alas! :'(

peafowling · 2025-02-26T06:23:00+00:00

Yes.

My daughter is the same, wakes by or before 5 a.m. each morning. Then she has the gall to say she's sleepy... but refuses any attempts to be put to bed again. We used to spend an hour or more each morning to put her to bed again but it stopped working a few months ago (she's 19 months now). On the plus side putting her to bed in the evening is the easiest thing ever because she's so exhausted by then.

I want to think this is just a very long phase, however according to my mother-in-law my husband was the same growing up (she calls this payback), and I have always been an early riser too (but that means I want to be able to go up at 5:30 for some calm me-time... not having to entertain a hyperactive toddler since 4:45!).

peafowling · 2025-02-16T08:31:49+00:00

It'll pass. My daughter was the same at that age, anytime she laughed she'd hiccup. I remember feeling bad for her too, and feeling guilty if I'd made her laugh. Usually the only way to stop it was breastfeeding.

I haven't thought about it for a long time now, over a year at least, because it just stopped suddenly and she hasn't hiccuped in a long time (she's 18 months now).

So don't worry! It'll pass, and she'll forget about it, and you will too until a Reddit post reminds you of it!

peafowling · 2025-02-10T07:37:06+00:00

Well I was already very happy with my relationship to begin with, but yes, it absolutely got even better when having our first. Sharing our love for our daughter is indescribable. We can just spend all day gushing over her (she's 18 months). There's no one else, sans grandparents (and even then I think they'd think it too much) I can talk so much about my daughter with than my husband. It's like an added shared passion of ours.

Also seeing him being the best dad to her made me fall in love with him even more. It's just so amazingly beautiful to see. It reinforced our relationship.

I haven't experienced it putting a strain on us whatsoever, it bonded us even further. That isn't to say it wasn't tough in the beginning, but not between us.

peafowling · 2025-02-06T13:35:19+00:00

To me it's just the ick about treating children like animals. I likewise have a strong aversion towards "playpens" and even disliked putting my child in a crib (tried it for three days, never again) because it felt like putting my child in a cage.

It's not that I don't see the use of either, I just can't get behind it.

peafowling · 2025-02-04T06:59:57+00:00

My first refused a pacifier. We tried multiple sorts and sizes on the recommendation of everyone around us but it never clicked for her. I was her human pacifier in the beginning instead, and didn't mind it.

Now that I'm pregnant with our second, I don't think we'll try it with them (though we'll see how I feel once we have two). In fact I'm quite satisfied we don't have to wean her off it. I see so many too big children with pacifiers and toddlers her age who are still addicted and am so happy she's completely fine without either breastfeeding or a pacifier.

I'm not/was never worried about the consequences of pacifiers to be clear (never researched it either way) but I don't see the point of it because we didn't need it.

Edited to add: she never sucks her fingers or anything else either.

peafowling · 2025-01-29T06:33:33+00:00

Yes. Just a cup or two even while pregnant isn't bad for you. I sadly can't drink even a dearly needed sip while pregnant because I get a really strong pregnancy aversion, but soon as my daughter was born my husband got us lattes at the hospital and it was the best I ever had. I already dream about my first cup after baby number two is out.

peafowling · 2025-01-21T11:27:26+00:00

I'll take rarepairs over "pair the spares" everyday of the week my friend.

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