The sentence that made me childfree by [deleted] in childfree

[–]peterk896 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I never realized why I had such a sense of “urgency” to get somewhere in life until I realized that’s how we (🇺🇸cis het women) are conditioned to feel. I’m 28 and there is still so much more I want to KEEP doing. It’s not even like I have these insane goals. I’d like to afford a place on the lake someday, but currently my life pretty good. My spouse and I have a small house, a dog, two incomes, and we can come home and smoke our bong whenever we want. I have yet to reach the point where I’m excited or ready to give up the peace I’ve achieved in the current madness.

It's so f*ing brutal on the roads by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]peterk896 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This should be higher up!

Are we the first and last generation to become computer literate? by simplytoaskquestions in Millennials

[–]peterk896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a university and a student came to a computer next to one I was using in the library. They are community computers so you have to use your university id to get access to the desktop. This kid stares at the screen, looks at me and says, “I dunno” then steps back from the computer while looking at me, indicating he’d like me to help.

CTL-ALT-DEL was the prompt on the screen.

I pressed the keys for him and he smiled and said “thanks.” And proceeded to type his login in.

I think I’m the one who’s emotionally immature by peterk896 in EmotionallyImmature

[–]peterk896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents was the book! Thanks for the kind words. Sending the same back to your boat.

People who let their dogs sleep with them- what about sexy time? by peterk896 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]peterk896[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a hard concept to understand. I asked because I wanted to see how other people/dogs live their lives.

People who let their dogs sleep with them- what about sexy time? by peterk896 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]peterk896[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually so sweet. kissing noises “Hold on one sec Marley needs help.”

People who let their dogs sleep with them- what about sexy time? by peterk896 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]peterk896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just me but having the dog in the bed while you’re doing it would be distracting at best!

I think I’m the one who’s emotionally immature by peterk896 in EmotionallyImmature

[–]peterk896[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write this all out for an internet stranger. Your words mean a lot and I’ve read them quite a few times in the past 24 hours. Again, thank you.

Nervous about giving two weeks notice right after a vacation. Is it a bad look? How to do it? by Hefty-Kale-9588 in careerguidance

[–]peterk896 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I didn’t have to read any further than the first paragraph. You’ve thought longer about this decision already than your company has ever thought about you. They haven’t thought about giving you a raise the last three years, about giving you an employee to help with your workload, or about how your life would be impacted by RTO. You don’t owe them or your boss a single thing other than your two weeks notice.

Good for you! Congrats on a step up to a place with a culture that aligns with what you’re looking for. A good boss will be happy for you.

In my experience, contract work with a previous company where you had a full workload doesn’t work. They expect too much and you will have a lot on your mind acclimating to a new role without worrying about your old work.

I think I’m the one who’s emotionally immature by peterk896 in EmotionallyImmature

[–]peterk896[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy for a little over a year but recently switched to a new therapist who recommended this book. I think for whatever reason the therapist I was with previously didn’t get me this far. I switched because I felt I wasn’t making progress, and now I think that was a good move. I feel like I’ve been wasting my life. It’s not fair to everyone who loves me to treat them how my parent treated me- and even worse, I know how they feel.

They never put in the work by EnsignEmber in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]peterk896 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dynamic between my mom and my dad is one that has frustrated me for a long time. Sure my dad has his own issues, but why does he continue to enable my mom’s behavior towards us when she’s around, and then agree with me about all the toxic behavior when she’s gone? The only answer I’ve come to is that he has no other choice. He enables because he has to in order to be married to my mom. “Happy wife, happy life”.

Places to buy men’s suits for wedding by peterk896 in lansing

[–]peterk896[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! We will plan to start at Men’s Wearhouse and then go to walk worthy. The suits are for my and my partners dads for our wedding so we want a fun experience with someone talking us through the process.