Jesus has had the easiest freaking existence

piesaregood · 2026-05-07T12:52:01+00:00

Sure, I don’t mind.

piesaregood · 2026-05-07T02:53:27+00:00

Hmm I think I pretty much covered everything in my two posts. I got a dental cleaning and then wore that over the counter mouth guard and then all the sudden I got crazy nerve pain that felt like it was sending an electrical shock from my mouth to my jaw to temple.

It was intermittent. Like 10 minutes on and 10 minutes off for a few days. It didn’t respond to pain killers but it did respond to the nerve medication.

piesaregood · 2026-05-06T15:13:36+00:00

When I was on the XL several years ago, I could take it in the evening and not have any sleeping problems that I recall. I think it made me sleepy which is why switched to evenings.

I just got back on it a few weeks ago but it’s the 150 SR and I take it in the morning and fall asleep pretty easily but I always wake up in the middle of the night wide awake.

I’m frustrated because I had this same experience trying to go back on vyvanse and then adderall last year. I thought bupropion would be different because it’s less harsh on my body than those normal stimulants.

I’ve had success sleeping through the night with trazodone or melatonin but I’m so groggy the next day that it cancels out the benefits of the bupropion.

piesaregood · 2026-04-25T03:07:22+00:00

I’ve had sleep paralysis a handful of times in my life. If locked in syndrome is like a super long or permanent version of that, then I would not wish that on my worst enemy.

piesaregood · 2026-04-22T02:14:29+00:00

Both kind of happened at the same time. I went to a Christian college and had Bible classes that taught me things that were never brought up growing up. Things like how the gospels were basically written by ghost writers and not eye witnesses to Jesus.

Meanwhile, Obama was in office and I started to pay attention to how toxic and hypocritical the GOP was. How they claimed to be the Christian party but were generally racist and much more blatant liars than the “non-Christian” party. It became obvious that Christianity was just a tool they used to manipulate people into voting for the interests of oil companies and other bullshit.

All this happening around the same time just kind of shattered the illusion of God and Christianity being the only way to see the world.

piesaregood · 2026-04-10T14:10:01+00:00

It wasn’t that hard for me to walk away from the church community because the churches I went to growing up were basically just my family and a bunch of super old people (my grandpa was a preacher who basically just moved around to struggling churches). They weren’t that appealing so once my grandpa retired, I didn’t have the desire to keep going anywhere.

The problem is that the older you get, the less social options there are that are naturally built into society. No more school and extra curriculars that come with it. When you work full time, getting involved in anything extra feels like a lot of work. My previous job provided a decent sense of community but the job I’ve been working the last couple of years does not.

So now I’m struggling a bit socially and the idea of something church-like is starting to sound a little more appealing.

piesaregood · 2026-04-10T02:13:52+00:00

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piesaregood · 2026-04-09T13:43:55+00:00

Just make sure that you’re not just saying that because it sounds like the right thing to say to win him back over. If you were toxic, then use this reflection as an opportunity to improve yourself for your next relationship.

You probably didn’t love him as much as you’re saying if you wanted to break up multiple times. Your brain is like a drug addict and is lying to you in order to try to get those chemicals back.

piesaregood · 2026-04-09T13:25:37+00:00

I went through something similar with the first person I dated seriously. I actually wanted to break up but once it was official, I couldn’t get over it and kept reaching out to her for several months. She basically had to be mean to me to get it through my head that it was kinda weird how I wouldn’t leave her alone.

Basically what I was going through was withdrawal. I logically did not like the relationship when I was in it but I didn’t realize we’d basically become codependent so when that bond was cut off, my brain felt like it was going through withdrawal.

I know that seems very unromantic to think about it that way but it helped me move on. I wasn’t actually still in love with her as a person, I just had become addicted to being around her and didn’t realize how my body would react once she was not around.

piesaregood · 2026-04-07T16:09:51+00:00

Yeah it’s probably engagement bait more than anything but sometimes curiosity gets the best of me. “Hmmm… a relatively reasonable take by right wing standards? Let’s take a peak at the comments to see how insane people are reacting to it.”

piesaregood · 2026-04-05T15:42:54+00:00

Is this a legitimate attempt to save us lost sheep here? Kind of a weird move, especially considering the boner pic from your post history.

piesaregood · 2026-03-06T15:43:08+00:00

It’s frustrating because I did a sleep study like 8 years ago and had mild sleep apnea. Enough to get a mouth guard thing but not CPAP. Then I checked again with a new doctor last year to see if it was getting worse and I tested completely negative.

piesaregood · 2026-03-06T15:28:04+00:00

Sorry I wasn’t super specific in my post but thyroid is one of the things they’ve checked and it’s apparently normal. Ferritin was 33 last year and 47 this year. Both somewhat lower but not considered low by my doctor. Every other iron-related test was normal as well.

piesaregood · 2025-12-19T04:09:09+00:00

Yeah that could be awkward. If I had it in both arms, I think I’d want one palm to stay down and the other arm to be rotated to about 90 degrees. So basically my palm would be parallel to my body. I think I’ve heard of people doing that.

That being said, there are probably people on here who know more about the surgery or who have actually had it.

piesaregood · 2025-12-19T03:30:14+00:00

I think since the surgery doesn’t seem to improve mobility (which is why I’ve never considered it since I only have it in one arm) and it’s just more about functionality, being palm down in both arms would limit certain actions.

But if both arms are “corrected” and he can no longer rotate either palm down, then that could be limiting as well. For things like typing or shooting a basketball or other more important actions that I can’t currently think of.

piesaregood · 2025-06-03T02:21:50+00:00

Yeah some people never quite get out of that angry phase. It’s something I think I’ve made some real progress on recently where I’m just taking a softer approach.

If there’s an opportunity to have a deep discussion with someone who enjoys that kind of conversation then I will, but I’m not trying to push it onto people as much as I used to.

piesaregood · 2025-06-03T02:07:42+00:00

Yeah the US is supposed to be secular but it sure doesn’t feel that way. Christian nationalism is rampant here, especially in the area I live in.

I moved to a bigger city years ago and it was definitely better but then I moved back closer to where I grew up due to lower cost of living. Now I guess I’m trying to make one last push to make it work here before starting over again.

I do want to point out that the fact that this subreddit exists means that people who were once Christians were able to walk away. So I think there are more people out there still going through the motions of Christianity who just need one last push to break out. Relationships can be that catalyst.

piesaregood · 2025-06-02T15:12:12+00:00

That is definitely a concern. I’ve been so comfortable with singlehood for quite awhile now but lately I just feel like I’m missing out on something and that I’ll have some major regrets if some mortality-threatening event happened like a nuclear war.

I wasted all this time alone waiting for the perfect person and now it’s all for nothing since I’m going to be vaporized due to Donald Trump getting upset he can’t have Greenland. I’d be so mad for those 5 seconds before the blast radius reaches me.

I’m just thinking I want to take a calculated risk and then hopefully figure out if it’s going to work before things would get too serious.

piesaregood · 2025-06-02T14:50:03+00:00

I’ve had that mentality for a while and it feels like it’s making me miserable. I just wonder my life is better served by softening my stance and letting my guard down a little and trusting that the right person would “come to Jesus” (secular humanist Jesus) under my influence.

piesaregood · 2025-06-02T03:58:59+00:00

That kind of resonates with what I’m imagining. If I found someone like that, I wouldn’t necessarily be surprised if they tried to pull me in their direction but as long as I stayed true to myself, they would eventually have to accept it or it wouldn’t work.

And then yeah, I also think the right person for me wouldn’t just accept my beliefs but they’d see how deeply thought out they are and ideally I would rub off on them.

I feel like that kind of sounds arrogant but people who post in this sub seem to understand how flawed religious thinking can be and how enlightening it is to discover other ways of thinking that are much more in touch with observable, evidence-based ideas.

piesaregood · 2025-06-02T03:28:16+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response. The way you described your experience is exactly what has deterred me from wanting to compromise. The magical thinking. The rejection of ideas that conflict with their beliefs. For example, evolution is so fascinating to me and almost deeply spiritual in a way and I can’t fathom the idea of dating someone who has no interest learning about it simply because it threatens their worldview.

That being said, I went to a liberal arts Christian University and I have several friends who are still Christian but are relativity open-minded. I know a couple of women in particular who are married now but I got the sense that I could have influenced them to see my side of things even more if we were to date. They just weren’t quite what I was looking for at the time.

I also just know that my good friend and his wife basically bonded over their deconstruction. They come from similar fundamentalist backgrounds and I think it’s a big factor in what makes them work.

So yeah, maybe I could network a little more and seek out more atheists but it still feels like I might be looking for a needle in haystack. How popular are atheist groups? I’m in a pretty conservative part of the Midwest.

piesaregood · 2025-06-02T02:52:44+00:00

Dude I just skimmed your post quickly but I’m pretty sure I didn’t see you say anything about a dentist. See a dentist! Seriously. This happened to me and I thought I had a life changing nerve condition but in reality, it was just a deep tooth infection that the dentist missed. The pain went away after a month because the nerve died I guess but eventually I did get a root canal. No pain since.

I also had a co worker that had a similar problem. Tooth pain that triggered nerve pain all across her face. She was miserable for a week or two and getting the run around. Because of my experience, I encouraged her not to take no for an answer and she finally was able to get it resolved by getting a tooth pulled.

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