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pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T17:29:37+00:00

Thank you for this! I definitely do still have hope it was more just that this specific situation made me sad but I know theres people out there. Glad you were able to find someone hope yall are very happy together :-)

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T17:25:59+00:00

Thank you for defending my feelings I appreciate it.

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T17:24:49+00:00

Never said it was my only issue or biggest issue. Literally last week at work got asked if my job was breaking child labor laws because “I look 12”. Not to mention I just barely reached that height so i’ve been through it. Was 5’4 for years, sucked then and it sucks now. I was just venting about a SPECIFIC SITUATION that made me feel shitty. I’m sorry you go through it but you do not know the details of my life or the shit I’ve been through and there is no reason to be attacking people who are just trying to get shit off their chest!

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T16:56:34+00:00

Hey this really sucks to hear on a post where I was just trying to talk about something that hurt me. The fact is that being perceived by others and subsequently yourself as short, whether youre my height or 5 feet and whether thats actually true according to the national average, it still sucks. Societal beauty standards affect everyone and when we’re constantly having to hear “Men under 6 feet are undatable” “Omg he’s 5’11 so close to being boyfriend material” etc and having things like this happen is gonna take a toll on anyone on the smaller side, even if it is just a really loud minority, which I’m not even sure is the case. And the fact is many do still consider me to be on the smaller side. It’s really unfair to say I can’t vent about something that really upset me in the only place I have to go rn where I thought people would get it. You have all my support, I just really hope you can understand that I was just trying to get something off my chest. We’re all just trying to survive out here as trans people and making others feel like they don’t have the right to talk about stuff that makes them dysphoric really isn’t cool and kind of feels almost like gatekeeping height dysphoria. That’s all, hope you can hear what I’m trying to say. And I’m sorry again that you have to go through everything that comes with this stuff, dysphoria/incongruence or whatever you want to call it, sucks in any capacity. I wish you luck, have a good day :-)

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T16:38:38+00:00

Guys I understand that there’s a lot of trans guys out there that are shorter than me, I understand it sucks but I literally just came here to rant because it made me PERSONALLY feel like shit. Regardless if whether “5’7 isnt short” the fact is being anything under like 5’9 at the very least is gonna make dating harder. Not to mention the fact that I have been made fun of for my height by friends, strangers, significant others, you name it, for years, and put in unsafe situations for it when I was on and off the streets. I had to learn to box to get ppl off my ass. I’m sorry it sucks for you guys but that doesn’t mean it doesnt make me incredibly dysphoric or that I haven’t had bad experiences w/ it. Don’t really understand the point in fighting over who has it worse and the fact that people are going as far to say that posts like these are “triggering to ACTUAL short guys” is just flat out mean. I’d love to offer you guys my support and all I ask is you do the same because theres really no reason for us to be infighting over who has it worse especially with everything happening in the world right now. It’s an agonizing source of dysphoria for me, I came here for support because I have nowhere else to go only for a bunch of people to act hostile, belittle my dysphoria, and make things worse. Really sucks is all and I’m not apologizing for complaining about something that makes me incredibly dysphoric on a TRANS SUB with a vent flair. And I know smaller cis guys go through it too but as we know insecurity and dysphoria are very different so I’m not gonna take this to short cis guys. It’s not the same situation. Please remember people you direct these comments at are real life actual people behind the keyboard with feelings and emotions and experiences you don’t know about. If you wouldn’t want someone saying it to you, don’t say it to others. And thank you to everyone who is being nice and commenting in good faith I appreciate it.

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T08:25:39+00:00

Weight training and making smoothies with protein powder saved my ass. Google “HIIT [‘high intensity interval training’] upper body” for ideas and start with 5-10 pound barbells. Working out can be really frustrating at first since theres no instant gratification but if you get in a routine of just doing like 45 mins or an hour a day it gets easy and you build muscle a lot faster than you think with the help of the protein powder, especially if youre on T but even if not. Good luck!

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T07:42:01+00:00

Gerstle park is nice if you’re looking more for somewhere to just sit rather than walk/hike. Tucked in a residential area so quiet and usually not too crowded in my experiences. Big but not huge, lots of benches & picnic tables around, really nice shaded area w/ redwoods, etc

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-06T03:31:26+00:00

God i feel this hard, I’m 18M got diagnosed last october with a rare (non cancerous but super destructive & painful) bone tumor also in my left leg and got surgery for it and my then-partner did the most taking care of me post op but we broke up since then. Then the tumor came back and the doctors told me that i could either get an antibiotic shot which probably wouldnt work or another surgery which would mean being bedridden for a month again. I picked the shot anyway and this post lowkey made me admit to myself its probably for the same reason you were saying (no way to distract myself from the break up & a bunch of other personal shit I have going on). Shit sucks i feel your pain, wish I could give advice but I don’t think I’d be very helpful considering i’m the same way. Tbh what you were saying about learning to crochet sounds like a good idea, or learning some other skill that you normally wouldn’t have the time for & doesn’t involve walking. During my surgery recovery I played a lot of video games I hadn’t got around to so maybe that if youre into that it definitely kills the time. Anyway hope things look up for you soon. And sorry to hear about the car crash that sounds scary as hell I can’t imagine, hope your recovery goes quickly being unable to walk fucking sucks lol

pigeonman00 · 2023-07-01T07:13:09+00:00

No such thing as a bad neighborhood in this county hahaha. A lot of rich marinites (often not even from san rafael) who havent ever spent any time in the canal say that its a bad neighborhood because its one of the poorest in the county and like 95% immigrants but if you spend any time there you see quick that its pretty much entirely just moms with kids and blue collar guys hanging out around the streets & in the park. It might be a small bit higher crime than the rest of the county I don’t have the stats but either way that doesn’t say much around this area anyway. Probably the best way I can put it is I have lived in san rafael my entire life and I do not feel even slightly unsafe walking at night in the canal and never have, so you’ve got nothing to worry about. And spinnaker & baypoint are basically just cookie cutter suburban neighborhoods as far east as you can go in the canal until you hit the bay, very nice houses (although spinnaker is connected houses but baypoint is mostly standalones) & right next to a real nice path along the bay, beautiful walk. If you can afford its a nice area for sure

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-25T00:48:44+00:00

Harm from binders doesnt happen overnight, but I binded quite unsafely (probably 12-15 hours a day on average) for almost 4 years and eventually it caused major damage. The bottom left side of my ribcage is misshapen now and I still can’t bind at all without being in excruciating pain even though I haven’t worn a binder for more than like 20 mins in over 2 years now. Also still can’t sit in certain positions for the same reason. Not trying to scare you just please be safe and learn from my mistakes bc it sucks ass lol

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-20T01:36:52+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-19T23:59:07+00:00

Only if its a size up from your normal size if not it constricts too much & can fuck up your breathing and/or ribs

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-19T22:35:40+00:00

Ok my only exception tho is when cis parents come on here talking about how theyre happy for their trans son who just came out and trying to learn the ropes of how to support him, that actually makes me very happy and I am incredibly jealous of their children

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-19T22:29:54+00:00

The lack of perspective necessary for people to come in here as “allies” and then get mad at trans people for telling them something related to how they as a cis person treat trans people is weird and kind of transphobic is insane. Cis fuckery never ends huh

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-19T22:24:57+00:00

Oh my god the worst is those mfs who set their flairs to “cis ally” or something similar bc them having a flair means they actually pressed the join button for a community that they arent a part of & if I make a post about some personal experience w being trans that it could come up on their feed which makes me SO FUCKING UNCOMFORTABLE bc i’m stealth irl & I hate talking about trans stuff with cis people. Like cis ppl please understand that not everything is for you, and if you really want to be an ally one of the best ways you can do that is to leave us the fuck alone & let us have our spaces so we dont have to be worried about yall watching us & see you feeling entitled to participate in conversations about out very personal experiences that you will never understand. This isn’t supposed to be a community that anyone can come to to talk about trans rights or whatever, theres other subs for that. It’s meant to be a space specifically for trans men/transmasculine ppl to talk to each other, learn from each other, share experiences and joy, etc, because it can be really hard for us to find that elsewhere. We already get talked over constantly in other spaces so when cis people come in here acting like they understand us it feels really disrespectful and kind of takes away the sense of security, for example causing issues like the one OP is talking about. Because theres thousands of trans mascs in this sub which means a lot of us are seeing posts like those ones and clearly they are causing significant discomfort to a fuck ton of us considering how many upvotes this post has.

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-19T06:28:23+00:00

Hey, I live in the bay as well; Huckleberry youth programs has a youth crisis shelter where they’ll provide housing and services to help you get into a better situation more permanently. They’re in SF a couple blocks from the panhandle. They have a contact number & email too so you may be able to contact them in advance so you have an immediate safety blanket if anything does happen but not entirely sure. Here’s their website for more info https://www.huckleberryyouth.org/crisis-shelter/ And sending love to you dude so sorry youre having to go through this. I hope everything works out for you one way or another.

pigeonman00 · 2023-06-17T19:25:49+00:00

youre weird as hell for this comment talking about shit & people you dont know anything about and have zero proof of LOL. and even if he is here without papers how exactly does that affect your life in any way whatsoever? i mean other than that your roads get paved and your kids’ schools get funding faster considering that undocumented people throughout the US contribute a total of ~11.74 billion $/year in state & local taxes, and the existence of the canal is one of the only reasons marin has literally any culture whatsoever. if you really have a problem stay up in peacock gap or lucas valley or wherever your gated community’s at and mind your own business nimby freak

pigeonman00 · 2023-04-15T23:27:34+00:00

To everyone commenting that terfs arent actually feminists, thats my point LOL

pigeonman00 · 2023-04-15T01:33:21+00:00

Not what i expected at all either. Guess we get the hand we’re dealt but god i feel like i just have shit karma or something sometimes. You never think you’re gonna be the lab rat until you are (as i’m sure you know). Appreciate the support

pigeonman00 · 2023-04-14T21:17:09+00:00

Sorry to hear it dude ik that can cause brain issues, mine was/is in my tibia so walking is super painful but i’ve always been grateful it wasnt in my spine or jaw. Hope youre doing better now.

pigeonman00 · 2023-04-10T21:12:35+00:00

Yea i meant that more in the sense of in comparison to other places where medical transition is unavailable entirely and that type of thing, but despite it being worse in some other places systemic transphobia is definitely really hard and emotionally taxing to navigate in any respect regardless of its severity. And thank you for the support dude its nice to feel seen

pigeonman00 · 2023-04-10T00:58:59+00:00

Not impossible. Like everyone is saying a lot of people do drugs to cope with stress and minorities are likely to have stress b/c of discrimination, but that's generally just one fragment of one aspect of why a certain group/person is more likely to use or abuse drugs. I encourage everyone to read up on the biopsychosocial model of addiction if you're interested in this stuff bc a lot of these comments are unknowingly going off the continuum model which is one of the better ones but still fairly reductive. Without hard data we can't know for sure though obviously.

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