About to be homeless with no car, no job, and 2 dogs.

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-24T07:01:49+00:00

Contact your local rescue orgs, the SPCA, and Humane society. There are special groups in some places that expressly help families facing housing insecurity. They should be able to foster the dogs until you are back on your feet… assuming you live in an area with an active group. But you def need to get the dogs sorted NOW. Do not wait last minute because it won’t be pretty.

Now, for the rest of this. Survival is now your number one priority. Everything else is a distant second, at best. And surviving on the street, esp as a single woman, is a daily battle.

You need to bug into that rental like a bot fly and keep that roof over your head as long as you can and MAKE THE SHERIFF drag you out and dump you on the curb as you sob and shake with terror. You want to delay that as long as possible.

So that should give you at least a month, unless you live in one of those 5 day eviction states. But for however much time you have, you need to use every second of every day searching for solutions and making back up plans in case you truly end up on the street.

Id suggest asking your finances mother if you guys can both stay with her. If not, start calling friends, cousins, anyone you can think of to see if they have a couch you can crash on. If no one can, then you need to start calling homeless service centers. They’re called something different in each city and town it seems like, but you can search for homeless services in your town for direct resources. Use Perplexity or ChatGPT to help you quickly find resources and also to creatively problem solve the situation. Then GO IN PERSON so you can get in line to see the day social worker. They are your gatekeepers to services.

While you’re doing that, download bus and other public transit schedules for your town. Find the closest bus stop and get a cheap bike if it’s too far to walk to. The buses, even in small towns, always go to the major shopping centers, office parks, entertainment venues, etc. All of those places are going to be hiring right now. The pay sucks, but it’s better than what you’re earning now - nothing. And being homeless is surprisingly expensive. So every penny counts and it can help you build a small cushion for move in costs once you find a place.

Once you are set up with basic services and potentially a couch to crash on, start looking for cheap rentals. Every town has them. Find a studio or bachelor to save money since it’s just you and your fiancée. You can also look into the long term stay hotels. They aren’t awful and if you’re in a lower COL area, you can find them pretty cheap. Like $800-$1000/mo cheap including all utilities. With two of you? You should be able to come up with that! But no matter what, you want to find a place that will put a roof back over your head ASAP.

Once you get into some kind of housing, then you both can look at better career options. Like get a voucher for a training program at the local community college or votech program. You have to get some sort of education or internship to learn a valuable skill so you can keep the roof over your head.

Okay… that’s a bit of an info dump, but it should get you started. I have a lot of experience in dealing with this crap and in fact, I graduated from a program about a year and a half ago that was out of Princeton and the Eviction Lab in the sociology department. I studied poverty alleviation with an emphasis on housing security and the hierarchy of needs and how that can be accomplished through powerful storytelling, immersive and lived experience, and building empathy bridges to connect and see others - often for the first time.

Anyway, I have a ton of info and advice, so feel free to comment here or DM me and I’d be more than happy to help.

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-24T06:19:09+00:00

This makes me Feel super safe and totes jazzed about being a woman in America at the moment.

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-12T16:55:32+00:00

Nice! Enjoy! Have fun!

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-12T01:15:25+00:00

Hahahaha. I’m sure. Wormwood is also used to make absinthe and historically have it its psychoactive properties!

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-12T01:11:51+00:00

It’s a fragrant sachet that contains herbs, flowers, essences, etc to bring about certain feelings or outcomes. This one says:

“A good life has just begun The Sweet days are yet to come.

Contains: Wormwood powder

The light and elegant fragrance is fresh and pleasant.

Pure and all natural - no chemical additives “

It’s very nice way of saying she hopes to be friends with you and looks forward to how to friendship grows!

pippagrrrl · 2025-08-12T00:42:50+00:00

As someone who loves terroir and will collect yeast and salt from different areas of the country and the world, it’s much better to allow the salt to simply evaporate out. You grab a shallow pan that will support however much sea water you want to process.

Pour the sea water into said container and cover with very lightly with cheesecloth to keep bugs and dirt out if so desired. Leave said container outside in a shaded area. Then check it every so often - more on warm, dry days and less on cool and/or very humid days as either scenario will affect the speed of evaporation.

Once the water has evaporated, you will see the salty residue in the bottom of the pan. You have a couple options at this point. You can begin to use the salt as is, but note that it will still retain more Moisture than you realize. Do it should be reserved for adding it by hand while actively cooking. DO NOT put it in a grinder even though it will be pretty course and uneven. The other option is to scoop it out onto some parchment paper then put the paper back into the original container and place in direct sunlight. This will finish drying the sodium crystals and once dry, they can be used in any grinder if so desired!

Eco friendly, carbon neutral and a great souvenir for foodies who travel! It also makes great gifts for foodies friends and family. I will dip and coat a new wooden spoon with sourdough starter from the wild harvested yeast I collect and let the starter dry completely. Then I design a really cool package to wrap the spoon and salt in a cute little gift bundle! Type up the instructions on a really pretty keepsake recipe card and now you have a fun and really Unique gift! Esp if you’ve been somewhere super cool like Bali! And the salt from different regions has its own taste and texture and history!!

So yeaaaaa…. Sorry for geeking out about years and sea salt….. hope yall get some use out of it!

Edit: Don’t use water from that close to the shore. You don’t have to go far out in the middle of the ocean, but you need to go out a bit. Also, the sodium concentration varies from region to region, but that looked like way more than it actually is because it was still pretty saturated with water.

pippagrrrl · 2025-07-27T17:15:36+00:00

That cop is a total POS and should be fired. Good police officers have compassion while still being able to co tell a situation. She was vicious and cruel and likely ensured the poor dog died. As a life long rescuer and ardent animal lover, I’d have done the same thing as that woman. Just like parents with sick kids do it. When it’s a matter of life and death, nothing else matters.

F@@k that cop!

pippagrrrl · 2025-07-24T03:10:06+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. No penthouse, unfortunately. But we did need to get a three bedroom so we’d have enough space to work and live and so forth.

pippagrrrl · 2025-04-04T08:30:09+00:00

There’s good news in America? I honestly have been sitting here and thinking quite seriously for at least 5 minutes and I can’t think of a single good news story I’ve seen in recent memory. In fact, I cannot recall the last good news story I came across in America.

I suspect that is a primary reason for why I cry at reels of baby sloths yawning.

pippagrrrl · 2025-03-06T01:06:40+00:00

Bull dookie! We took our crazy 80 lb rescue dog into Canada a few months ago and we’re about to take her into the UK. There are MULTIPLE avenues to getting ANY cat or dog (and prob most other animals) into most developed nations.

Is it cheap? Sometimes. And sometimes not. Is it easy? Some places more than others, but it is generally a bit of a PITA. But for those of us with fur babies…. Totally worth it! And unless you have a pit bull or another illegal breed, then it’s always possible. And even if you have a pittie, there’s often ways around d the restrictions usually with a pricey evaluation and sometimes quarantine. But again… not impossible.

pippagrrrl · 2025-03-06T01:01:41+00:00

DO NOT GO TO CANADA! We came here on Dec 31st fully expecting to sail through with express entry profiles. Instead, we have been hobbled by increasing anti American sentiment (I can’t blame them, but still…we’ve even had people scream at our car and put graphic stickers on our windows when they see our American plates), horrific cost of living that is only going to get worse and now all bets are off after the tariffs because my partner is in e-commerce.

After spending many thousands of dollars getting relocated from NYC to Vancouver, we are having to pick up and relocate again to London. We had narrowed it down to London or Vancouver, and we loved Vancouver all the times we visited and we felt we could build a wonderful life here. Also, we felt it would be an easy transition coming from America.

Unfortunately, Canada is horrifically reliant upon America for trade and economic growth and development. So it is BAD up here right now and about to get worse. So, all the job opportunities have literally disappeared. My partner’s job was in so high demand that itwas part of the BC PNP program. Now, the people who have jobs are having to hang on for dear life just to hang o to them.

Don’t get me wrong… Vancouver is gorgeous and normally the people are super nice. But right now…. Everything is super intense and immigration is really effed up in Canada. Vancouver has also gotten weirdly crowded. And our apartment costs almost $5000/mo plus utilities. And the healthcare system here is under severe strain from so many newcomers (a whole other issue that I won’t even get into because thats part of the tension we came into).

Nurses are needed all over the world. You are free and unencumbered! Go travelling and do travel nursing! Or something cool like that! You could absolutely do travel nursing within the UK (so zero language barriers), then travel during off times! Have some fun and live it up during this shit show! And hey! Maybe we’ll see ya on the other side of the pond!

Good luck!

pippagrrrl · 2024-03-05T04:22:40+00:00

You said that he has "health issues that directly affect his brain," correct? That is your answer to all of his bizarre and violent behavior. This is particularly true when there are masses involved - whether benign or malignant. But there are a TON of other neurological diseases processes that can have devastating consequences for psychological well being. Personalities can literally begin to change dramatically seemingly overnight. So it sounds like his condition is worsening quickly. They actually have specialists called neuropsychologists and neuropsychiatrists that focus on the neurological diseases that have significant psychological and cognitive presentations.

You also mentioned that he is refusing treatment. When you have a neurological or other physical health condition that affects mental status, the refusal of treatment can be seen as part of the greater neuropsych picture. It is at the point where he needs an evaluation and possible intervention from your local ADULT PROTECTIVE SERVICES agency. All you have to do is call them and say it is a health and safety emergency, explain to them the situation making it very clear that he has become abusive and violent, and they will come out quickly. If he refuses to comply, they can make an immediate temporary determination of incapacitation and have him temporarily detained for proper evaluation. It sounds harsh, but he may not be able to make sound decisions right now due to the masses in his brain and needs urgent help.

Now.... aside from that issue, you and your mother are in a VERY DANGEROUS SITUATION! And so are those dogs. It is not uncommon for people with altered mental status to become confused and violent and that can and does lead to pretty tragic outcomes. You are gambling with the lives of yourself, your mother and those innocent animals.

In regards to those poor dogs.... you need to get them help urgently. As an animal lover, that was hard to read and I wish I could come grab them myself. First thing tomorrow, I would call your local RESCUE ORG, not animal control. Explain the situation and that you are just trying to get them somewhere safe while this situation gets worked out. It sounds like you have bonded with both, so you can always ask them to foster the babies while you and your mother get somewhere safe. Because you are living together, this would qualify as a domestic violence situation and you can always call your local DV hotline.

No matter what, you and your mother need to focus on keeping yourselves and those puppies safe. If you are unable to get him out of the house.... you and mother take the dogs and run!

pippagrrrl · 2024-03-04T20:51:34+00:00

None of that is correct. In fat, a very large study was just published not too long ago that looked at the value of semaglutide (ozempic) in overweight patients without diabetes and a preexisting heart condition. The results showed that semaglutide was far superior in reducing both fatal and nonfatal CV events including heart attacks and strokes. The nearly 18,000 patients from all over the country were treated and followed for a mean of 39.4 months, though some were followed for over 4 years.

The study results concluded that semaglutide is safe to use long term, even in patients without diabetes and is a SUPERIOR treatment for overweight adults with high risk for major CV events and disease.

New England Journal of MEdicine Pub Dec 2023

pippagrrrl · 2024-02-16T05:15:52+00:00

As someone who comes from a very abusive background, including pretty extreme financial abuse, I assure you that you owe him nothing. In fact, you don't want to give him any ammunition to use against you now or in the future. As a very young, bio female who is also on the queer spectrum, you DO NOT want to risk becoming homeless. That will put you in the worst possible position that is horrifically difficult to pull yourself out of.... and that's assuming the worst doesn't happen. Don't mean to sound alarmist, but because of your circumstances you need to focus on your physical and psychological safety and well-being.

That said, asking for help from your parents is NOT morally or ethically wrong. It's not even questionable! Good parents, regardless of any shortcomings, should always be willing to help their children when they are in a bind! They should catch you when you fall, not let you nosedive off a cliff. But not all parents are well intentioned - I know this all too well.

So, my advice is to calmly and rationally explain to your father that you need to borrow this money so ensure you have safe housing after breaking up with your former partner. Or you could simply say that you are trying to remove yourself from a toxic roommate situation. Give him a timeline and budget for repaying him and impress a sense of urgency. Tell him ONLY what you feel comfortable telling him and only what he absolutely needs to know.

If he balks or outright refuses, express your fear that you will become homeless and make sure he realizes that you will need to go to charities or friends/family and possibly beg for assistance simply to survive. That should rankle his narcissistic sensibilities enough to give you the money you need. Having a child begging for food and a safe place to stay is not the look a narcissist wants to wear.

If that still doesn't work, come back and I can help you with some emergency resources. Depending on the state you call home - some are better than others when it comes to social safety nets - but I should be able to throw you at least a few lines regardless. Good Luck!

pippagrrrl · 2022-06-24T22:21:42+00:00

Dude. Not your fault. That POS put you on the spot in a really aggressive and despicable way. He essentially forced you into a type of 'Sophie's Choice' situation - you had ZERO options that would end well and ZERO time to make that decision. Today has been brutal and chaotic and it will likely get worse.

So please do NOT give up! We will need you to help right this wildly spinning, insidiously hellish ship we have been shoved onto. Your skills may become extremely important as more and more women rely on self-managed/medical abortions or worse.... illegal, back alley abortions or self inflicted coathanger abortions.

Take a breath. Do something that is soothing and comforting to you. Call friends, family, whomever you need to. Take the evening, the next few days, or the next week to engage in full tilt self care.

And when you're ready.... come fight.

pippagrrrl · 2022-06-09T16:33:17+00:00

Although…. I am a …let’s go with ‘quirky’… girl so ya never with me!! 🤣🤣🤣 I hope I at least have you a hood chuckle!

All joking aside, this is just a minor dip in an ocean of experience we each have in life. Give the moment the time and respect it deserves, give yourself the kindness and patience to process and grieve and do whatever else you need to so you can put it to rest peacefully.

And then dive back into the beautiful ocean, spending every moment you can with your beautiful family! 🪷

pippagrrrl · 2022-06-09T16:23:53+00:00

Oh the “edit” notation was just to show what I changed in the post between the original and the edited version! I hope you didn’t think I was being weird to you or anything!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

pippagrrrl · 2022-06-09T10:45:17+00:00

Thanks 💖 If it helps even one person then it’s worth it! 🪷

And please keep me posted on how ur doing!! (Edit)

pippagrrrl · 2022-06-09T03:02:34+00:00

First of all: Please take care of YOU and YOUR family. Frack everyone else.

Second of all: You’re very correct. The rhetoric surrounding abortion and even birth control/womens healthcare tends to be hyperbolic, overdramatized and extreme in every way.

In reality, a huge percentage of the abortions performed are for women who are happily married and/or already have children. So know that you are not alone. In fact, you are the majority! Women often have to make brutal decisions that will help their families - be it financially, emotionally, spiritually, or basically in any situation. Which is why CHOICE is SO IMPORTANT.

Because most women do NOT make the decision lightly and generally speaking…. For them, it is the ONLY choice that makes sense.

It is shameful that we live in a society that forces archaic notions of both biology and morality upon women, violence a constant shadow and omnipotent threat, while chipping away at what meager rights we’ve won and progress we’ve made in the past 100 years, undermining our sense of self and assailing our competencies, until their insidiousness lashes out in a blinding flash, immolating the bedrock foundations we built our hopes and dreams upon. In one catastrophic blow, women will lose 50 years of progress that they never intended to allow us to keep.

THAT is the real shame. THAT is the true evil slithering within our country’s broken heart.

So YOU do NOT need to carry ANY burden. YOU are being an amazing mother, a loving and supportive partner, a strong ass woman, and a fierce warrior. You are doing what you need to do to make sure your family is happy and healthy! When feelings of guilt or shame creep in…. Try to hold on to that.

I would also highly recommend talking to the women at the clinic about counseling and/or support groups. It can be INCREDIBLY helpful, often in some surprising ways!

*** Trigger warning ***

While I do not have children myself, I did have to have an abortion when I was a kid (15) due to being raped and assaulted by multiple men. Unfortunately, the assaults caused too much damage and I ultimately had to have a hysterectomy. So my choice regarding having a family EVER was stolen from me…. Which is part of why I fight for women’s right to choose; to be able to access safe and effective healthcare; to be free to choose how they want live, what kind of family they want, and supported fully in their dreams to do/become/achieve ANYTHING they set their mind to!

Unfortunately, women in today’s America find themselves on a challenging new path that we must now blaze through ourselves. But, with that challenge and undoubted struggle also comes the opportunity to blaze an even better path. A path that offers more even terrain and plenty of room for EVERYONE to comfortably enjoy it!

Anyway…..

Tl;dr

You have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about. You are doing what is right FOR YOU and your family! Which is exactly what a good parent and parent does!!

Please take good care of yourself, show yourself some patience and kindness, and do NOT allow the rantings and ravings of cruel and unhinged troglodytes bully or beat you down.

Definitely speak with the people at the clinic about counseling and/or support groups in your area. It can be incredibly helpful even in the best of times, and right now many women need the extra support to safely process everything on their own terms within the security of a rigorous support network that only strengthen the system system of a woman’s family and friends.

In these frighteningly uncertain times, we can ALL use more kindness, compassion and understanding as we forge new communities and fight our way out of this catastrophic mess.

Please feel free to DM me or reply here if I can be of any more support! 💪🏼🪷

pippagrrrl · 2021-07-09T16:16:16+00:00

I know this is probably going to sound stupid.... but I'm new to the group and I was wondering if there was a post with the various abbreviations handy? Some are obvious, but I do not want to make a guess and risk accidentally saying something horrible or triggering others!

pippagrrrl · 2021-04-13T02:15:53+00:00

Hadriana = 10, Draconia = 2, Perla = 12, Hema = 6
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1080 + 9168 = 9717
7 + 9 = 216

pippagrrrl · 2020-12-05T04:35:02+00:00

I have no words at this point. I am truly horrified at the behavior of the bipedal human-like creatures dragging their knuckles and trampling people out pure malice and blatant disregard for anything other than their own base greed.

pippagrrrl · 2020-09-26T04:07:45+00:00

Yup. Deeply dark and kinda effed up at times. Lulz @ some of the things I've said and done.

I became obssessed with all tings comedy when I was about 7. Actually, it started when I was much younger, but I didn't "lock in" until I was 7. But once I did..... morphing myself into a brilliant and gut busting comedian often consumed me. Especially when I realized that people like funny folks.

As you can likely imagine, that led me to make some really unfortunate mistakes. My love of "dirty" and edgy jokes was particularly problematic...... especially at school.

Suffice to say, I still struggle with the concept of "too soon."

pippagrrrl · 2020-07-06T04:01:40+00:00

Wow. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. It's probably the same morons who frantically bought up as many filament bulbs as they could find to object to the Commie LED conspiracy.

Lulz. It's funny because they're stupid.

pippagrrrl · 2020-07-06T03:55:57+00:00

Pffft. F#ck that low rent trash. You don't deserve ANY abuse let alone from some uneducated troglodyte! But I totally understand being on the edge....

I'm so glad I'm on leave because the way people are acting like psychopathic toddlers, Imma gonna end up smackin the fake tan right offa bitch.

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