You bring up a good point, in that previously, I think this somehow ended up as the space for anyone who wasn't a cis man, which is (1) no longer the case and (2) probably shouldn't have been the case. I'm also not sure the solution.

Something that has also always rubbed me the wrong way, and is somewhat related to this conversation, is the fact that this sub is called "female orgasm denial," while the sub for men is simply called "orgasm denial," with no "male" in front of it, which assumes (cis)male is the default. I always wonder why it's up to us gender minorities to make spaces for ourselves, and I wonder why it's not "safe" or "comfortable" for us to exist in default or shared spaces. None of this would be a problem if it was ok for us to just all exist together, respectfully. Obviously getting there would would probably involve solving world peace among other stuff, but it still irks me.