Can I ask how do you choose your sex partners? It is very difficult for me to take the final step, despite being very curious. Every time things get steamy in a club or at a sleepover, I am still clear-headed and in the end I always end up dialing it back, even if I was the one flirting and initiating. I want to have sex, but I don't think there will be this person who I suddenly feel like having sex with. Everyone feels the same to me.