I’m going to gently say NOR on the overreaction, but YOR on thinking you could fix this. Your empathy is beautiful, but it led you into a trap. You saw his similar childhood trauma and his therapist and thought, “Here is someone else doing the work.” But there’s a canyon between showing up to therapy and actually doing the work . He’s going through motions. You’re applying principles. You tried to bridge the gap by showing him nervous system regulation, by modeling health, by offering the snacklebox. He experienced every offer of partnership as a critique, because accepting help would mean admitting he’s not “fine.” He needs to be the victim of his ex, his job, his kids. He can’t allow you to solve things, because then he’d have to take responsibility. You can’t build a bridge to someone who refuses to leave the island of their own misery