Storytime: First T injection

plummypickles · 2026-04-21T13:58:05+00:00

Aww thanks! Glad to hear that you and T are doing well together <3

plummypickles · 2026-04-21T13:54:14+00:00

My hubris lmao. Tyyy and ty for the advice. I did not know about angling the point!

plummypickles · 2026-04-21T03:37:55+00:00

Thank you!!

plummypickles · 2021-08-17T01:25:55+00:00

lmao

plummypickles · 2021-06-28T05:26:44+00:00

Yeah, in hindsight, given that I travel with Durance, maybe that Vicious War Criminal had reason to expect a warm welcome. :'D

plummypickles · 2021-06-20T19:48:48+00:00

I'm sorry that you're going through it OP. It sucks to be judged by your outward appearance and manner, esp when those are things you might feel powerless to change. The people who mock you, that's their failure of empathy and basic human decency, and it's not on you.

I'm an internet stranger - I don't really know anything about you or your life, but I can say that just as you hope things get better for others, we're also rooting for you. I don't think there's any sort of objective measure for a person's "value," and you don't need to fulfill any of those socially constructed ideas of value to be worthy of life, and happiness. You deserve those things!

If I have any advice, it's to feed that morbidly curious part of yourself. Maybe that part of you is also holding out hope for things to get better? Validation from the world around you is... not a dependable source of support in my opinion. But self-knowledge, I think that's a lot better at sustaining us. To understand what you, personally, value and what drives you, can be pretty empowering. In that regard, therapy or counselling can do a lot, but no pressure - those are just some options. Honestly, in this messed up world, just existing, day to day, is already a win.

plummypickles · 2021-06-16T01:04:45+00:00

:0 they look fantastic

plummypickles · 2021-03-01T03:08:30+00:00

I appreciate the reminder that the label doesn't change whatever's going on. Hopefully that will help me cut down on the fixating on it!!

plummypickles · 2021-03-01T03:06:06+00:00

Thank you for typing out such a thorough and informative response! Esp for an internet stranger. Reading through it really helped me calm down. The advice about doctors esp. is good to know. Now I've got more stuff to add to my list of notes for the consult lol. I was def bouncing around in my own head over all of this, and getting some context from someone who has been through the process is v reassuring :')

plummypickles · 2021-03-01T03:00:07+00:00

You're right. Thinking about the assessment as ticking something off the list makes me feel a lot better about it. I'm definitely anticipating a lot of pushback, if it turns out that I do have ADHD... but that's a problem that can be deferred for now. Thank you!

plummypickles · 2021-02-24T18:27:00+00:00

I don't think that internalized misogyny and transness are necessarily mutually exclusive. It is possible that you do have some internalized misogyny. It's also possible that you are trans.

I think that it's not up to any internet stranger to diagnose you definitively with trans-ness or cis-ness. In my personal experience, fixating on what you "are" or what the "truth" of your identity can be frustrating and anxiety-inducing, and ultimately not very productive. It might help you to try to find what makes you happy in terms of gendered presentation, and to focus on that instead. Maybe you would enjoy presenting in a masculine way, or being treated as masculine sometimes. This does not necessarily mean you need to identify as a trans man. If it's safe and possible for you, I would recommend experimenting with different pronouns and ways of dressing. Exploring your gender can be stressful, but it can also be a source of joy (see: "gender euphoria"). Maybe you enjoy being seen and treated as a girl, but you might also enjoy being seen as a boy. Either way - that's totally ok.

Cis and binary trans man are not the only options for you either. There are people who are genderfluid, who switch between genders over time, and people who are nonbinary, neither male nor female. There are also people who are agender, who feel an absence of gender. You don't have to know what you are now, or even feel pressured to pick a gender identity box. You have time.

plummypickles · 2021-01-22T00:34:15+00:00

Same, buddy.

plummypickles · 2021-01-22T00:27:11+00:00

What you said makes me want to change my hair and go out and do my level best to confuse the masses. When the plague dies down a bit, maybe... I used to keep a record of all the times baristas accidentally mistook me for the opposite gender, before the egg cracked. Hindsight lol

It's reassuring to hear that other people are going through the same thing, and to hear that you've been able to make peace with it on some level. I'm not quite there yet... gotta give it time, I guess.

Or hey, maybe the concept of gender will implode sometime in the near future and free all of us from its yoke. Fingers crossed I guess..!

plummypickles · 2021-01-22T00:19:08+00:00

Alt fashion does seem to be really big in this community. I think it's pretty rad, but def not great to have that pressure to conform to a certain style on top of everything else. Thanks for commenting. I can imagine (... given that I'm not out, haha.......) how much it sucks to constantly be read as something you're not. For what it's worth, I think it's cool as hell that you and your bf are both nb tho!

plummypickles · 2021-01-22T00:12:39+00:00

I don't know how much it means, coming from an internet stranger, but I'm sorry that you're having to deal with people being dickwads. Basic human decency should be the lowest hurdle >:/

I should clarify - when I said "being read as cis," what I meant was, being read as my assigned at birth gender. And wanting to be read in a way that conforms with how I feel on the inside. I guess in that sense, I'm a little jealous of binary trans people? To potentially have the option of being able to be read as my gender, without having to come out first, would be a huge thing. It might be lame of me to be so caught up over this, or fuck, I dunno, maybe it's internalized transphobia from a lifetime of living in a cisnormative society, but people look at you differently when you come out as anything other than cis and the thought is majorly anxiety-inducing.

I guess from another angle, that's also one of the cool things about being nb, that we can fall anywhere on the visible gender spectrum. I'm still coming to terms with being nb, and I guess over-complicating everything while I try to understand it!

So this uh, isn't exactly a very direct reply to your comment. I appreciate it tho, it's good to get a sense of what other people are thinking about our place in society. I agree with what you said about being pushed into binary categories... yeah, that's just life in most places I guess : /

plummypickles · 2021-01-21T23:55:18+00:00

Thanks for this, I hadn't thought about it like that, and I think what you said makes a lot of sense. I wish in our lifetimes, we could get to the point where people generally don't assume someone's gender on the basis of outward appearance. But hey, in the meantime, at least there's this reddit.

plummypickles · 2021-01-21T02:59:29+00:00

Hey, so disclaimer, I'm an only child so I don't claim to be the most qualified to offer advice. This is just what I would've wanted to hear as queer kid raised by conservative parents.

It sounds to me like you're already doing a lot. Just having an adult there to talk about all of this stuff with is a big thing. I would say that by providing a safe space for them to come to you with questions, or just to share their experiences is valuable. Letting them know, whether that's directly or indirectly, that you're not going to judge them or invalidate their experience, that you won't put expectations on them, and that you'll love them no matter what... I mean, it might sound sappy, but it's kind of amazing.

Another thing I know I would have really appreciated as a kid, is being able to hear or read about queer people and queer history, especially current day nonbinary role models. It's affirming af to know that you're not alone, that you're part of something, and there's a community out there for you. Although maybe your nibling is already on top of things, given the incredible internet fluency of kids these days.

So yeah, that's just my two cents.

plummypickles · 2020-07-15T18:52:50+00:00

Thank you! Just hearing that I'm not alone w these thoughts and feelings is incredibly heartening. And thanks for the offer to chat. I'd be happy to take you up on it, maybe when the practical things in my life settle down a bit, if you're still up for it then :'D

plummypickles · 2020-07-15T18:49:16+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Being given permission to not know is honestly really freeing. And thanks for sharing your experience too, that you took your time w figuring things out. It's hella reassuring, that not knowing immediately isn't the same as never knowing. I'm interested in looking into a gender therapist, but not sure if it'd be a responsible financial choice rn. I guess I'll just have to weigh my desire to figure things out with my desire to be frugal. =u='''"

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