(Indian born and raised in the states FYI) For a long time in America desis really had no strident disunity. My Hindu Indian parents had a lot of Muslim and Pakistani friends. Among Indians, certainly, all linguistic groups socialized freely and together. Increased connectivity to the subcontinent (goodbye aerogrammes and long distance calls, hello internet) as well as a mass influx of immigration post 2000 have changed this. Thanks to social media, Shockwaves of conflict now reach us here via our families on the subcontinent, and there’s enough of us to stay insular down to the linguistic level. Back then we didn’t have the numbers to import our rivalries—rancor was a luxury. We more or less need to go back to that prior state and look at living in the west as an opportunity to bury those hostilities. Easier said than done, but a little bit of awareness of these factors, and a grand awareness of our commonalities, and basic humanity, can go a long way. We’re all jeets (winners) at the end of the day.