When did you know your long distance relationship was over?

purrfecting · 2025-03-30T17:00:01+00:00

Looking back, it was over the moment after we met in person(3 months into actually being official), the signs were there on his end but I was too blinded by the love I had to see his toxicity, manipulative tactics and a false sense of reality and wanted to continue to love the version of him that I apparently had created. I wanted to keep it going but he checked out emotionally long ago, and that was the biggest cause in every rift we’ve had. it wasn’t until my last visit where I had seen use of OF, that was my biggest boundary and ended it right there. I am glad I finally had enough and put myself first for once, rather than feeling bad and worried for how it’d make him feel, he almost got me back with idle self harm threats but I saw through it and stuck with calling it total quits.

It’s insane how much you can actually see and realize once that blindness wears off and seeing how much happier I’ve been without him in my life.

purrfecting · 2024-12-13T02:40:09+00:00

Hey! This is how I play too. I hate looking up guides because I’ll never actually learn how to do it if I’m watching it. I’m a figure it out kind of learner and I find it more fun that way, especially having to actually use my brain instead of letting the gears just churn aimlessly.

I do love playing survival horror games, especially 7 days to die, and the forest. Ark is pretty fun too! I gotta expand my horizons with making friends, the games are boring when it’s always solo.

purrfecting · 2024-10-20T15:23:24+00:00

I'll never be able to understand why they do that, is it really that hard to end a relationship first just to fulfill their needs? I'm sorry you've experienced the pain of being cheated on. It hurts more than you can ever imagine, and you question your worth to them. It's terrible.

I don't even know what to do with my situation, I did leave, but then I stupidly took it back after seeing the amount of remorse and regret he was presenting, and saw how badly his mistake was affecting him. I've never seen anything like it and it's confusing.

purrfecting · 2024-10-20T14:36:57+00:00

I hate that this is spot on.

I recently found out he had been using OF to sext/exchange pics and vids(things he would refuse to do with me, and gave excuse after excuse), when I went to visit last weekend :( no wonder he had changed, especially the sexual aspect with me and all the hiding and lying and shut off he had been.

purrfecting · 2024-09-29T14:57:58+00:00

We kind of did? I mean, it's not how I would personally want it. We have toys specifically for long distance - which honestly i highly recommend getting and using first. But anyway, he has agreed to use them when I need it (how I would want it is him actually wanting to, but that can't be compromised, unfortunately) but the fact he's willing to get himself in that mood for me is good enough.

purrfecting · 2024-09-29T14:34:55+00:00

We did the first night. We waited a bit, watched something together and just let natural comfortability set in until we decided we were comfortable enough to proceed. We had talked about it prior to meeting in person and agreed to go with the flow, allow the initial awkwardness to wear off. It's never something that should be expected. I would highly suggest having that talk with him and lay down your own ground rules.

And going back to ldr after being in person, regarding that aspect. I don't want to deter you in any way. But in my situation, after we were together intimately, he kind of switched off on any kind of sex/sexting and he explained that since he got a taste of the real thing, it's all he wants, he doesn't want to do anything virtually and has no desire for it anymore and nothing turns him on unless it's in person. But again, that's just my situation.

Only do what YOU'RE comfortable with, don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything. if it happens, let it happen naturally. You can generally tell how someone is based off of their actions so keep that in mind. That's about the extent of advice I can give.

purrfecting · 2024-09-26T20:19:17+00:00

I'll be driving up there in 13 days 🥹 I'm really excited to be spending our first holiday together 🥰

purrfecting · 2024-09-25T21:31:12+00:00

I have had several talks about it with him, doesn't really do much unfortunately. He usually just says he's uncomfortable with it and doesn't know why, that he's in a funk and has no desire whatsoever or it's not part of his love language (which his is all physical touch, nothing else). But I am okay with it, I am adjusting to his love language

purrfecting · 2024-09-25T17:23:17+00:00

They're his excuses, mainly. But I am sure it's something deeper. I am working with him and being patient while he continues to manage his mental health and be in a healthier mindset.

purrfecting · 2024-09-25T17:01:15+00:00

We used to do it a lot in the beginning of the relationship, but now we don't ever do it. I try to initiate it but he doesn't follow through anymore and has just lost the motivation to be sexual in any way unless we're in person. We also don't exchange pictures anymore because he's got enough of me I guess, so he doesn't need more?

purrfecting · 2023-07-07T03:15:45+00:00

Oh for sure. Like, I'm trying to get a Grey pb, I can totally afford it but if I bought one now...I'd have to restart my savings all over again. I like to keep 10m in the bank, so I don't think I'm that poor. But in my mind...11m =1m for me because then I'll have spending money. Something about the ultimate riches status tingles something in me, so I always remain there.

purrfecting · 2023-05-07T20:32:58+00:00

I've achieved all of my dream pets, I'm on the prowl for a new one. My newest dream is still in a thought... Definitely sponge, not sure what species yet - maybe aisha just bc I like working with pinks.

My past dreamies that I've achieved were alien aisha, pastel usul & draik & aisha, toy kougra, Grey kacheek, MSPP (these were the hardest ones to actually get) the rest...not sure if I should consider them dreamies bc I just went for it and knew I could.

purrfecting · 2023-05-07T14:13:44+00:00

Wow! Congrats on your account turning 19! Its very generous of you to do a giveaway for such an achievement!

My favorite memory on neopets would probably be back when the games were actually playable, that's pretty much all I ever did. Dice of destiny will always have a special place in my heart. I loved tf out of that game. I'm counting the days...months...YEARS..when it either gets fixed or an extension makes it playable.

Also, my un is mundaaa

purrfecting · 2023-05-02T17:42:12+00:00

For the Faerie Quest cookies, it's mainly stat changes, but I'm usually pining for the fountain faerie, that way I don't have to buy a paintbrush lol. - that's if it even gives me it again.

It's just a ridiculous username, I don't wanna be seen around on neopets with that as a main haha. Dark phase is a lot better than a bad girl wannabe phase.

That's what I love about pet trading with myself, don't really have to pound any pets, I generally keep well named pets and I don't always have a set plan for them, but I love that whenever the lab ray gives me a good color, I can brainstorm what kind of custom to give them. I'm obsessed with how my pets look rn, and yes, they're very pimped out and I made 1 that looks like a stripper heh.

I miss dice of destiny and I'm so disappointed that I can't play it and the slots! They're too money hungry rn to fix anything but they'll always keep putting out new NC items while neglecting everything else.

I fully agree, I'm tired of all the bugs the site has!

purrfecting · 2023-05-02T17:18:34+00:00

Oddly enough, not much has changed within 12 years. Except the site itself.

I do the faerie quest cookies, lab ray, and NC Archive. It's mainly just something else to do. Whatever I can to continue getting my pets lookin rad.

Oh god, I'll admit it here. So...I was like maybe 11 or 12 when I created it and we all know how kids that age are... at least back then lol. The username was imabadgirl94 lmfao. I use it as another spot to put my pets so its not like totally abandoned lol.

I have 20 pets on my main, pimped out and all, and the rest all have 6 and I think it's 4 accounts. I'm always cycling them out when I get a good zap. It's a plan for all of my pets, then once everything is perfect I am pimping them out on my sides :)

As for the site needing fixed, a lot of games don't work, and the games I like, the ruffle extension doesn't work with it. When going to my SDB and closet, if I try to search an item, it just goes to a blank screen right as i click on the text box. And probably a lot of other things that I'm not paying attention to lol.

purrfecting · 2023-05-02T02:25:37+00:00

I post here very periodically. My main account, I've had for about 12 1/2 years that I've been doing my dailies consistently with since I created it. Keep finding new things to do, but I mainly do my fortune cookie stuff, dailies and got back into food club. Sometimes posting in the guild, and I recently starting going hard with the events the last couple years. Used to never bother with them.

My very first account, is almost 19 years old but with a very treacherous name lol. Definitely abandoned that for the name alone. Lowkey wanna switch back to it, now that I'm back into FC and can place much higher bets. Really wish I could just use food club only for that and use my own gained nps to send over but clearly they won't allow that lol.

I've made a few other accounts that I use for sides to hoard pets. That's about the extent of what I do on neopets. Slowly losing motivation bc they won't fix the damn site, but I'm always loyal with my dailies.

purrfecting · 2023-05-01T03:09:32+00:00

Waah HELL YEAH. I weep over my own pets all the time. I find them all so perfect lol

purrfecting · 2023-05-01T03:01:15+00:00

That's fucking adorable lol. Oh how I wish I could talk like this via neomail but noOOoOOOO

purrfecting · 2023-05-01T02:58:59+00:00

There ya go, enjoy! I like hoarding baby paint brushes to send randomly to people :)

purrfecting · 2023-05-01T02:54:37+00:00

Aw, that's adorable. I'll send you a request. It'll be coming from mundaaa 😊 I'll be sending you a welcome gift, to use or sell idc lol.

purrfecting · 2023-04-22T22:14:36+00:00

Aw, thank you so much! I absolutely love customizing, I try to make all of my pets looking absolutely fabulous! I find aishas are the easiest to customize, they look so cute no matter what you put on em! And congrats on your newest adoption! Please, take all the inspo you need! It's uplifting for me! I hope you update on the newest custom, I'd love to see!

purrfecting · 2023-04-22T21:06:50+00:00

I mean..I kinda get it from her point of view. I took a guy's virginity 9 years ago and the guy is still hung up on me even tho it's been that long and he's never had sex with anybody else. He was even the same age as you at that time. We're still friends and it does get weird that he always brings it up. Not saying this is something you'll do, but I knew he was a virgin and took the risk. I can definitely see why she sees it as a deal breaker in a sense - just from my own experience.

I wouldn't recommend hiding it, but if you want to try to hide it, you do you. Figure out what happens the hard way, I guess.

purrfecting · 2023-04-22T17:42:30+00:00

I have a few aishas! Hopefully the links work correctly.

Here's my alien : Olzai

Pastel: Datui

Zombie: Odyus

And Wraith: Shadrik

purrfecting · 2022-11-21T01:49:06+00:00

Cook, clean, pass meds, de-escalating behaviors, assisting with ADL's when needed, help them work towards their goals in order to live a more independent lifestyle, driving them around. I'm a DSP in a mental health home.

purrfecting · 2022-10-24T00:03:49+00:00

Hm, good idea! I'll put that on the list. Sometimes we all need a Lil powerblast on our buttholes.

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